Well we named the star for our baby last night when it was just the two of us. We named it 'Kaylie's Star' because we were hoping for a girl and that was to be her name. Chris wanted her named after me, and my middle name is Kay. We decided to have the star in the 'Phoenix' constellation for I don't know, symbolic reasons I guess. We can't see that one from here, but talked about how we can look for it when we go on nice warm sandy vacations and remember. We printed out the little certificate with the coordinates and all so we'll always know where her star is and I put it in her memory box. We named the little stuffed animal that comes with it 'Raine' because that was to be her middle name and gave it the personality traits that we liked in each other and hoped we would pass on. Raine now has her place on an antique table my grandmother gave me. It was one of the first pieces of furniture my grandparents bought together. I held myself together pretty well until we had to pick the traits. Then I cried for awhile, but the whole experience in itself was good for me. I got to feel like we celebrated Kaylie on Christmas. And the two of us deciding on a name was something that I hadn't realized I needed so badly. It's strange how we had pretty much agreed on a name, but once she was gone, neither of us talked about it again. Her existence feels so much more solid by her 'officially' having a name.
The Shiny Star site is a cute little website. It's geared more towards children and collecting these animals, but it was a good thing for us. They keep it cartoony and a little silly, but that was good for our purposes really. It kept it more light-hearted than sad. I'm so glad that we did it. The date you name the star is the star's 'birthdate', but you also get to pick a special dedication date and we decided on my due date 4-07-08 for the dedication. I loved that we got to add what was supposed to be her birthday too.
If a friend hadn't given us this Shiny Star for Christmas, I probably never would have thought of it or even named her. Naming our baby was huge for me. I guess before I thought that not knowing for sure if she was a she or not and only being 10 weeks, naming didn't seem like much of an option, but I was so very wrong. No matter the age of your child, find a name that feels right to you. It gives me a whole new feeling to think of Kaylie instead of 'the baby'.
I pray that 2008 brings more happiness to this board than we know what to do with. Thank you all for being here for me and each other.
:bighug::bighug: to all
Proud mommy of an angel,