This is the week (pg ment, loss ment)

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This is the week (pg ment, loss ment)

This is the week I would have been due with my lost babe. I haven't visited this board in a while, but I've been thinking alot about that baby these past few weeks.

I might come vent in this thread, if that's OK, this week. The baby was due on Feb 28 but passed in August at 11 weeks. Sometimes I wonder if I'll lose this baby too, even though I'm 20 weeks now. I know that a baby born today wouldn't make it, and it's a source of stress for me still. Then I worry about a preemie. I know it's highly unlikely and that all the signs say it won't happen, but it's hard not to dwell on, y'know?

Then I feel sad thinking about this baby that I'm carrying and not the one I lost. It all happened so quickly, that pregnancy and then this one.

Ahhhh, well. Thanks for letting me vent.

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it's perfectly nomal to be sad today as this should hav been a happy day for you with the 1st preg.And after having a loss we are all scared of losing a baby if we ever get preg again.{{{hugs}}}

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I am sorry about you loss.

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OH sweetie, I am so very sorry for your loss. Please come here and vent any time that you need to. Due dates are very hard. It also sucks to lose that blissful naivete that you have until you lose your precious child. I pray that you find peace.


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I am so sorry that you are feeling stressed right now. I think it is pretty normal given the fact that you have known loss. I notice that you are in Ontario, have you been in contact with PBSO? They have a subsequent pregnancy group which might help with IRL support.

I can only imagine the stress of a subsequent pg. You are welcome to join us here. There are also two other boards that you might find helpful to get you through this next week. One is the Pg after loss board and the other is the parenting after loss board.


I hope that once you get past the milestone of the due date you will feel a bit more relaxed but I think it will be hard to feel completely relaxed knowing what you know. I'll be thinking of you on Thursday.


Lily Maria Kathleen :angel1: August 10, 2007

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I am sorry for your loss. Of course you can post here anytime. It is only normal to remember your loss during this date.

I think you are so strong for going through with another pregnancy. That is one of my biggest fears too. That something will go wrong again. But we can't think like that, you need to be positive for that little life inside of you.

I will be thinking of you.

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I think your feelings are completely normal. Its only been 2 weeks since i found out my baby passed (at 6 wks) and i still think all the time about how far along i would be, and if someone mentions a date, i think in my head, i would be XX far along by then. I know when September comes i will be thinking it all the time, i was due Sept.15, so i think i will be really sad around that time, even if i am blessed by another pregnancy by then.

Come here to vent anytime, that is what we are here for.

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Im sorry for your loss hun. Its normal to be sad and think about the baby that you lost, whether you are pg again or not. We all know one child never replaces another, and your loss is still every bit as significant. I would have been due in Aug, and I know when it gets to then (really hoping I will be pg again by then) that I will be very sad and think back on everything.

Come here anytime you need support. I wish you a HH9M, and looking forward to hearing when you have your new LO. (((((hugs to you)))))

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I am sorry for your loss too. Hang in there girl.

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Im so sorry for your loss.. i pray that you never go through this kind of loss again..

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"Emilys2Guppies" wrote:

Then I feel sad thinking about this baby that I'm carrying and not the one I lost. It all happened so quickly, that pregnancy and then this one.

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Hey Em, I know exactly where you're coming from. I got pg with Jesse very quickly after my loss as well. It's a weird emotional mixture, that's for sure. Sometimes I feel guilty for wishing I hadn't lost my baby because that would mean I'd be holding some other baby right now and not Jesse. It's kinda hard to know what to feel.

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Im so sorry. I know how hard it can be.