im still having m.s,boobs r still hurting,ive had no pain,only brown when iwipe,waiting 4 it 2 happen is unbearable,dont think i can take it much more.this might sound harsh and i dont want 2 upset any1,but i wish they would scan and book me in 4 a d and c,soo sorry if i have upset any1,i dont mean 2
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I am sure you will not have upset anyone here
It is very hard to wait out the loss of a baby...I have been on both sides of the fence....Wanting to wait it out naturally, and just wanting it to be done with and opting for a D&C.
I remember my fourth loss. I thought after 3 (which is considered the *norm* by some docs) that there would be no way I would endure a 4th....And then it came...I was so completely numb...felt like someone side swiped me. I have gone through 5 more losses since....And although each loss was different, it never gets easier..
Please forgive me if this question is to sensitive for you right now...I completely understand if you do not feel comfortable answering ..That said, since this is your fourth loss, have you thought about genetic testing?? this could be done if you had a D&C (you could request that you want your baby when the testing is done (if this is what you wanted) ....Some hospitals even have a burial for all babies that passed on early that day. This could be another option for you if your hospital takes part in this program). I am not saying you will def be given the answer for your losses, but you may....Just something to think about.
If you are able, please keep us posted on your decision?? And know our hearts go out to you. We are right here for you if you need any of us.
THE PAIN HAS STARTED,STARTED BLEEDING RED A BIT,HAD A FEW SMALL CLOTS,I AM DEVASTATED,I REALLY THOUGHT THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE GOT IT WRONG,BUT I DONT THINK THEY HAVE,IVE GOT MY SCAN THURS (17TH).WILL KUP
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to wait. It was 2 weeks after we found out we had lost Joy before she was delivered. Be prepared to bleed for a long time. I am sorry I don't know how for along you were. but I was at 16 weeks pregnant when I delivered her. She was only at 13 weeks gest. I bled for 34 days. Everyday that dragged on broke my heart. Today I started my first real period and I am kinda sad.
It is all a process feel it don't try to push it away. It is ok to be broken hearted. The ladies here understand.
REALLY DONT NO WHAT IS GOING ON,IVE STILL GOT THE PAINS,BUT THE BLEEDING SEEMS 2 HAVE STOPPED,I ONLY BLED A LITTLE,FEW CLOTS,NOW ITS STOPPED.DONT NO WHAT 2 THINK NOW,MY HEAD IS ALL OVER THE PLACE.HOPEFULLY I WILL NO MORE 2MORROW AFTER I HAVE HAD MY SCAN
HAD MY SCAN 2DAY,THE BLEEDING HAS STOPPED,IM BOOKED IN 4 A D&C ON MONDAY ,THE SAC IS STILL THERE,I WILL BE 11WKS FROM LMP,IM BIT NERVOUS,2 BE HONEST THE DR SCARED ME A BIT,ALSO HAD MY BLOOD TAKEN.IM RHES NEG,SO I WILL BE HAVING MY ANTI D AFTERWARDS