We still have our baby's ashes in the same little bag and box that the funeral home gave them to us in. We've talked about where to spread the, but I've yet to be able to let go of them. DH and I initially agreed that we did not want an urn in the house, but now I'm thinking that we might get a dish garden and put them in that or put them in one from when my mother passed away. Everytime I look at it, I think of my mom and smile. We are really good with house plants and I think it would be a nice way to have our baby with us, always. I like the idea of planting a tree, but what if we move? We can't take the tree with us, but we can take a dish garden. Do you think this would be weird?
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I don't think it would be wierd at all. It think it is a wonderful idea. I lost my daughter at 21 weeks when I went into preterm labor. We live on an acherage where I believe we will be for a long, long time so we planted a tree with her ashes. I wouldn't have done so if I didn't intend to live here forever though. If we do happen to move I will take a slip of the tree with me (or maybe dig it up). I think your idea for Caitlin's ashes is just perfect.
That is a beautiful way to remember your daughter. I tend to keep most of my plants on death row (as my DH likes to call it). Planting a dish garden is a great idea, that way you could take it with you when you move.
Thanks girls! I was moving my mom's dish garden last night so that the other side could get some sunlight and the thought of having our baby's ashes in there made me smile even more than I usually do when tending to it so I think it is definitely the right thing to do. Thanks for your support!
I told DH my idea last night and he liked it! His only concern was "what if the plants die?" I told him that we would just plant new ones and that our track record with plants is pretty good so I'm not really worried about it. The more I think about this, the more I just love the idea! Thanks for your support girls!