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38 WEEKS!!!! ONLY 14 MORE DAYS TO GO!!!!!!!

YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Today has been really, really great! Infact it's the best day we've had in a looooonnnnnggg time! It's just a shame we forgot the camera and couldn't take pics, but still - never mind!

Anyway, got up this morning, pretty miserable, everyone bored and fed up and arguing... So we decided to Hell with it we are going to treat the boys today! So we get them ready and head off in the car, get a pone call from my Dad on the way which we were dreading. Last thing we need is another person blaming us for someone else's problems or telling us how hard things must be for them... But actually, turns out it was OK and he was just wanting to chat and actually he really understood the situation and exactly how far we've gone to try and help and how much shit we're now in.

Anyway, got off the phone from him and carried on driving. We decided to treat the boys and so we went to the Bucks Goat Centre just outside Stoke Mandeville! It was soooo cool! I was thoroughly enjoying myself too - we bought a couple of bags of feed and fed all the goats (there were absolutely loads!), saw bats, snakes, spiders, ducks, geese, chickens, llamas, donkeys, pigs and all sorts of other animals. Ashton loved the bats as they were flying around all over the place! Bats are one of my favourite animals so I was pleased SOMEONE else in my family likes them!

The boys all played in the play area for awhile and then we decided to move on and get food. We were probably at the goat centre for a good couple of hours. We were going to go and get chips for lunch, but we worked out the price and figured out we could actually have a MacDonalds and sit in an air conditioned place for awhile for a few pounds more, so we went into Aylesbury and had a MaccyDs.

Then we couldn't decide what else to do and since we were going that way we thought we'd call in and visit my Dad as we hadn't seen him in a couple of months... So I think he was quite pleased as he found a load of balls for the boys to play with, and borrowed a goal post from his next door neighbour and spent some time playing in the sun with the boys. It was nice cos I didn't have to do anything and everyone was looking after me and kept talking to me about the baby and stuff.

It was just a nice visit. We all sat in the garden in the shade, I had a Savannah (haven't had one in years as you can't really get them over here!), we had some sandwhiches and apple and the boys got a little bit of chocolate and we just chatted about everyday normal stuff.

And I didn't have any pain, or any stress, or anything I HAD to do. The kids were happy and people were playing with them and Martin didn't look stressed for once or have that rabbit caught in headlights look he seems to carry around these days due to finances.

Finally feels like summer is here! And I'm going to be having a baby in the next 2-3 weeks! So exciting and yet so scary at the same time!

I can't wait!

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38weeks and 2days;

Yesterday was fabby as well! I can't believe what a great end to last week we had! Phil took the kids off our hands for the day as Martin has a lot of software programming he needs to finish and he just can't seem to concentrate when the boys are home. So I spent the whole day quietly sat around doing nothing, and Martin spent the whole day working, then we noticed the couple from across the road loitering on our doorstep so we went and had a word with them and they had this gorgeous, fluffy little kitten! It was sooo sweet... I was dead jealous and so was Martin as we've been talking for ages about the fact we want another cat and whether we should get one or not...

Anyway, after that I couldn't concentrate on anything at all... I spent the rest of the day making sad doe eyes at Martin and commenting about how I knew what I wanted for my birthday now!!! Lol I'm so horrible! But he didn't take any real convincing and phoned the people who had the kittens and asked if there were any left and if we could go look (it was almost time to pick the boys up anyway)... Well, we went and looked and needless to say we now have a new addition to our family.....

So meet Trinny (Trinity), who was 6 weeks old yesterday!!!

It's funny because we got Minski as a kitten when I was first pregnant with Tristan, and now that this may be our last baby, we've got another kitten.... The boys are ecstatic especially Tristan and Ashton who insist on holding her and stroking her all day long. Although JJ had loads of questions about why I got MY birthday present early and he's never allowed his birthday presents early... Lol Practical JJ, always has an eye on the details!

Pregnancy wise, I'm fine! I feel great actually, even though I'm in a lot of pain and can't move much. I've had quite a few contractions again today... They were coming every 15 minutes earlier but I had a sleep with Trinny this afternoon and since waking they seem to have largely died down.

Rachell came over last night and stayed.. She's been really helpful today. Martin got another full day of work done thanks to her looking after the boys AND she cooked dinner and dessert! She's staying again tonight (she stayed three days last week too, although she didn't help much then!) but then I think she's got something going on with a friend tomorrow so I guess she's going home tomorrow.

I think getting Trinny was like an eye opener for more sleepless nights for me! LOL She's so much like a baby it's not true! She woke me up about 5-6 times last night alone because she'd fallen/climbed off the bed and couldn't see anyone and was crying out (OK meowing softly) looking for where everyone had gone! And she spends all day following me around, and crying if she can't see me, she insists on sleeping curled up next to me... Sooooo cute!!!!!

Thankfully the kids don't seem to bother her at all, although our two other cats are slightly peeved, so I think she'll be fine with a newborn baby around the house!

Come on Lacey Rose - only 12 days or less to go!!!!!!!!!! And there are soooo many people waiting to meet you now!

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38weeks and 3days;

Today I feel really bad.... Sad Last night I barely got any sleep, kept waking up every 30minutes or so for no apparent reason... Then at 3-3:30am I started feeling sick, couldn't stop going to the loo, had a jippy stomach, had a headache, couldn't find a position that didn't cause me pain... It was awful, so in the end I gave up on sleep and went and sat in the nursery with the light off just rocking in my chair until about 6am.

Have been having fairly regular contractions all day today too and feel like poo still. My headache is getting worse rather then better, I can't stop crying, I ache all over, contractions at the moment are about 45minutes apart and painful but I reckon they'll stop soon knowing my luck, rather then getting closer together.

Martin was supposed to sort out my birth pool problem today... He emptied the hired birth pool yesterday, then spent today refilling it to see if he could figure out why it didn't work... Well, it appears even more broken now then it was to begin with so I'm really pissed off especially as all I wanted was for him to get that bloody thing out of my house and fix my other one.

I told him point blank if I go into labour tonight (ha bloody ha) I am going to call labour ward and see if their pool is free and if so then sod him I'm going in.

I had a couple of really good days so can't really complain - the pain never goes away anyway, just some days its more bareable... I just hate days like today, when it seems to be kicking off and then nothing happens, and then it seems to be kicking off again and then nothing happens... And now I can't stop crying and I just want to float in a birth pool that doesn't even bloody work or has a puncture in it as I can barely fit in my bath anymore and besides, nobody helps me get in or out the bath so I'm barely able to use it.

God dammit... I'm crying even as I'm typing. :cry:

Why can't I just have nice, normal, painfree pregnancies where the only thing I get to complain about is the fact my baby hasn't appeared yet???

I feel really angry today. Really angry and upset.

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38weeks and 4days - only 10 more days to go!

And again, I feel like crap today. Thankfully my contractions have gone now, but my mood is really bad and sad. I haven't stopped crying most of the morning.

Not helped by the fact the boys are playing up because they're so bored and Martin has just announced he's got days and days worth of work to do outside the house now. :roll: I find it funny how he does no work at all for the last year when it suits him and we go without, and then all of a sudden when I could actually really do with just resting, relaxing, not worrying and maybe enjoying these last few days of being a family of six - he suddenly decides to fuck off to work and leave me alone.

I am heading over to my Mums as she helps me more then he does anyway and it'll get the kids out the house. Well that's if there's a car anywhere around here with petrol in it. :roll: I mean, god forbid! I don't really want to leave the house though, especially as Trinny is just getting settled now and the other cats are still a bit off with her. That and the fact I feel like shit and IF by any chance I did go into labour early I know I wouldn't want to have to travel back home.

I've just forced him to start emptying that bloody broken birth pool again although I know he'll only do half the job so I'll have to finish it later. I have no idea how to fix a puncture though, so the other birth pool I'm not sure what to do about. No point asking him he'll just whinge at me and frankly I'm really sick of him right now. He's let me and the kids down big time over the last year or so and I've just about had enough now. If I can handle things without him then that's what I intend to do from now on.

The house is a tip again. :roll: So I've been tidying today a little.

I've got an appointment with my midwife on Friday, but I'm going to cancel it as she hasn't been paid and despite yet ANOTHER of Martin's promises, she won't be paid by Friday I don't think. I can't stand the thought of seeing her knowing she's owed money so I'll just cancel the appointment. Thanks again Martin. :roll:

Anyway, I've got nothing good to say - so I suppose I'd better go.

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I'm furious right now. Absolutely seething.

Well, Martin pumped out the crappy hired birth pool today. Then buggered off to work and I went to my Mums which was nice.

Then got home, got kids to bed, he rolled the crappy birth pool out and lo and behold tons of mould underneath it all over our cream carpet. I told him no way am I giving birth in a room with mould all over the floor. So I am in a thoroughly pissed off mood and he just keeps making snide little jabs at me. So I go up to my nursery and think about things quietly and you know what I think I've been pretty fucking reasonable.

I've put up with his shit for the last 18months. Him being too damned lazy to provide for his family. His broken promises throughout this pregnancy. The fact he probably won't be around much after the birth either to "help". And all the disappointment and let-down he has inflicted on me and the kids recently.

And all I asked and all that was really important was that I had a clean, hygienic place to give birth in. And here I am living in a filthy pit, with mould in the living room where I am supposed to be giving birth and mould in the ensuite due to a leak in the toilet that he hasn't bothered to fix, the place stinks and it's just horrible. Really fucking horrible and he knows I can do NOTHING about it.

So I go and make a list of things that I feel really need to be done. And I contemplate taking the kids and leaving to go stay with Phil whilst he does these things and not coming back until everything is done. But no, I figure that's probably unreasonable of me, so I say I'll go to my Mums and take the kids with me during the day whilst he gets the house upto standard and come back in the evenings for dinner and to sleep.

Nope, he throws everything I've done for him back in my face, all the support I've given him over the past year, the few things I've asked of him recently - everything right back in my face and causes yet another arguement.

Then he decides to stomp around the house making as much noise as possible, keeping all the kids awake and waking Ashton to do these "chores" I've set because apparently he can do the whole lot in one night.

It's now 22:40 and the kids are running around like maniacs, he won't leave me alone for two minutes, Ashton is crying in his cot and I'm just wishing I'd never fucking bothered. I'm not going to say anything more to him now about stuff that I'd like - there's no point, even when he asks me outright and I answer him he doesn't do it or throws it back at me.

My plan as of tonight is to completely leave him to it. I can't stand talking to him, being in the same room as him. Right now I can't think of a single thing about him that I like, let alone love/d about him. I'm so completely fed up with him that if there wasn't so many children involved I'd leave tonight and not come back.

I'm NOT going to compromise hygiene to give birth in this house as it is now. And if I'm not completely satisfied when I do go into labour I am going to hospital whether he likes it or not. And even better then that I don't even want him at the birth. I don't want him anywhere near me right now and I can think of nothing worse then having him there, spoiling my mood when I'm supposed to be enjoying myself. If I end up in hospital, he is not welcome. Truth be told, I don't want him there at all... I'd like my midwife, my Mum and my boys there. I see no need for Martin's presence at all.

And you know what - the list wasn't even that big. Thirteen things that was all;
1/. Kitchen tidied and hygienic
2/. Hallways cleared of junk
3/. Living room carpet replaced
4/. Birth pool fixed, inflated and in place
5/. Stairways cleared of junk
6/. Bedrooms tidy and clean
7/. Bathrooms tidy and hygienic
8/. Bedding in all rooms washed and clean
9/. Dirty laundry either cleaned or put out the way
10/. Cats given flea treatment
11/. Food and drink in cupboards
12/. Camera / camcorder ready for birth
13/. Petrol in cars

Hardly fucking rocket science or impossible stuff to expect.

I am furious. Really, REALLY angry. I really wish I'd go into labour now just so I can go to hospital and get away from him and rest and relax for a few days...

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38weeks and 5days - only 9 more days to go!

Well, we've both calmed down a bit today. Martin did most of the list of stuff I produced last night and the house looks much cleaner now. Think I might try and do my bit to help and vacuum shortly seeing as he's done everything else.

The carpet and stuff that requires money won't be sorted out until tomorrow but hey - I doubt I'm going to give birth before then so it's no biggy.

JJ thinks it'll be 6 days until Lacey Rose comes, and Tristan thinks it'll be 7 days.... So we'll see!

Other then that I feel OK today, although the kids are really tired cos Martin kept them all up last night for whatever reason. :roll: So they're all fighting and arguing today.

I might write more later as it's early and I'm hungry!

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38weeks and 6days - ONLY 8 DAYS TO GO!!!!

Well, I got Martin to phone the midwife today and cancel my appointment, but between her and Martin they decided we should go ahead with it anyway. I was quite glad I've got to admit, once she got here as I do enjoy seeing her!

Everything is fine with me... BP fine, sugar in urine again but so what's new, we are pretty sure baby is head down although we did discuss the possibility of her being breech. We decided IF it turns out she is breech that I would go ahead with a home water birth anyway. My midwife has dealt with dry land breech births before and I figure there's always got to be a first time and frankly I'd rather be in the water even if she is breech! She did offer me an ultrasound but I didn't really want it... Well I did but only for the whole getting to see baby thing - I didn't want the hassle of going to hospital, finding babysitters etc. Besides, we're both fairly confident she is head down so we'll take the risk!

Only other problem is she is showing no signs of heading south-bound!!! She is really high up in my ribs - tucked well under them, not engaged at all.

To be honest, I don't think she's going to come anytime soon. I've made plans for stuff to do with the kids next week I'm so confident I'll make my next midwife appointment next Friday!

Oh, Martin completed everything on my list now! Except the replacing the carpet, we did go and look and he found a nice carpet but actually I bottled it and said no we'll cut up the carpet that has mold on it and chuck it out and replace the carpet once Lacey Rose is here. I didn't want to risk ruining a nice new carpet by giving birth on it or having my waters break all over it!

Other then that, everything is cool and fine here! Can't believe I'll be 39weeks tomorrow. I think it suddenly hit Martin today how close we are now as he looked really shocked when the midwife was saying about my next appointment and whether we'd make it that far!

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39 WEEKS TODAY!!!!!

ONLY 7 MORE DAYS TO GO!!!!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So today I am feeling quite good! It's been a good day! It's my Mums birthday today, and we went to see her which was nice. Smile The boys had a friends party to go to this afternoon which was also really good. Their Mum is a friend of ours who has a large family (currently expecting number 6 - a girl!) too so we always have loads to talk about! They had face painting and as per normal Raistlin wanted the girlie design... Last time he had his face painted he had pink flowers, butterflies and glitter... This time he had a huge pink butterfly! Lol

Anyway, today Lacey Rose seems fine... Not moving much but I suppose she's kind of squished now! No sign of her coming anytime soon though! Blum 3

All in all a good day, although my back really aches and I feel quite heavy everything is fine!

Can't wait to meet my baby girl!!!!

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Well, I've had what I'm pretty sure was a show late last night although it wasn't bloody, it did kind of look like a show. And have been feeling really crampy all night and having contractions on and off about every 10-15minutes apart..! Kids are convinced it'll be any day now, although I'm not getting my hopes up as I have a history of false labour - but something DOES feel different now then it did yesterday.

Suffering loads of back pain too and had loose bowels during the night and I actualy feel a little bit sick which I've not had before... So here's hoping this is the start of labour and it happens anyday now!

Today I'm going to try and convince my brother to have the boys, so Martin and I can have a few hours stress-free. Also I need Martin to clean the birth pool and sterilise it for me, and I'd really like to fill it and give it a test run before I need it!

Don't get me wrong - I don't think I'm in labour yet, but something is definately getting ready to go now.

Can't help wondering if this is the end, or just the beginning! Bit of both I suspect! Biggrin How exciting!

Come on Lacey Rose - we're all dying to meet you now!!!!!

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39weeks and 2days - only 5 days to go if I'm lucky!

I'm feeling a bit down today. My stomach really hurts from all the cramps and contractions yesterday, but for the main part they seem to have eased off again. I had a few nasty contractions during the night that woke me up but nothing else really. Maybe a bit more of the mucous plug came away this morning as well but I don't pay much attention to that as it doesn't mean anything really - could still be weeks before I have a baby. Sad

I didn't sleep well last night either... For some reason I just couldn't. Constantly needed the toilet, felt a bit sick, heartburn was killing me, my back aches really badly, I felt a bit too hot. In the end I got up around 2am and came downstairs and been here ever since. Looking at my empty birth pool, wishing it was full so I could get in and float around for a bit. *sigh* Sad

My ankles and feet have been swelling really badly the last couple of days too and last night my fingers started up too. I've never really had that much swelling before so it was a shock when I looked down at my feet yesterday during dinner and couldn't even see where my ankles should have been - my feet were twice their normal size! Scary!

God my stomach hurts... Sad

Yep, I'm miserable today... Blum 3

Still heard nothing from the woman we hired the pool from. I'm majorely pissed off about that whole situation - I'd better get my money back, although my guess is I won't see a penny of it seeing as she cashed my cheque straight away, buggered off on holiday a day later and seems to have disappeared off the face of the planet since then and hasn't responded in any way, shape or form. :roll: Joy.

Come on Lacey Rose... Make today, the day you decide to come. I've well and truely had enough and I'm already in pain so you might as well get it over and done with now!!!!!!! Lol

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39weeks and 3days - only 4 more days to go.

I am so fucking pissed off right now... Since Sunday I have had stop/start contractions every 10 minutes apart. Last night they actually got as close as 8-9minutes apart and looked like they might continue, but nope - my stupid body was mocking me and just thought it would give me another sleepless, pain ridden night instead.

Today, nothing so far. I am pissed.

I need a serious pick-me-up and as per normal these days, no cash to do anything at all and no petrol in the cars at all, and no news or sign of when the next lot will be in. Great. Just great. I really would have liked to have my hair done and maybe something like a manicure or back massage before I have this baby. Oh well.

And Martin's main point of interest at the moment is self-building a house cos he's seen a plot of land he likes. :roll: So he doesn't talk about anything but that right now. Which is probably a good thing cos the minute I mention anything to do with baby, labour or money he starts huffing at me until he makes me cry.

Ho-hum... Baby can only stay in there for 2-3 more weeks I suppose.... Although at this rate I swear she's going to come out a fully grown 20-something year old adult. :roll:

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~Posted yesterday - 15th August!~

39weeks and 4days;

I am feeling a bit off today. My head is thumping, and has been all day. I got so desperate cos the pain is all down one side of my head that I ended up actually taking painkillers for it - naturally they did absolutely nothing. Should have known they'd be a waste of time!

I had Martin fill the birth pool as well so I could float in it for awhile, but that didn't really help either. I tried going into a dark room (the nursery) by myself and rocking in my chair but that didn't help and I tried to get some sleep but the pain was just so bad.

I'm feeling a lot of pain low down as well at the moment... I am now determined this kid is going to be evicted in the next day or two!!!!

She will be out by my birthday or else!

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39weeks and 5days - in theory only 2 more days to go.

Well yesterdays headache lasted all through the night so I barely slept AGAIN. It's now close to a week that I haven't had a proper nights sleep... And then just as I'd got to sleep Martin woke me up around 6am getting up and then just as I'd dozed back off the boys woke me up at 7am. I tried going back to sleep but my head was banging so much in the end I got up.

Today is action packed as well. We have to go down to London about 45miles drive either way to return that birth pool we hired. The women we hired from said apparently she never got our message saying it was broken, then said that basically we had to return it and she would check it to see if it was acually broken before refunding us some of the cost. My thinking is she's going to miraculously find it works and refuse to refund anything at all.

I think stress is holding this baby in at the moment. My body feels like it's trying to do what it should be doing but everytime it starts up something happens to stress me out or make me worry or piss me off and then everything stops again. I had the same thing with Ashton. Two days before my EDD with him I went into labour, spent an hour fighting over the phone to get my local hospital to send a midwife out to me and by the time she turned up everything had stalled and didn't start up until a couple of days later. Sad

Everyone is getting impatient now... The boys keep asking me how much longer, Martin basicall doesn't talk to me except to ask if I'm having any contractions and Ashton still refuses to accept there will be a new baby here soon. Oh, and Rachell, who's been staying with us all week, has stolen my kittens affections. My kitten now refuses to come near me and spends all day and night following Rach around and playing with her.

My midwife is coming to see me tomorrow and I've got to pay her... Thankfully Phils loan came through today so that's good, he can finally pay us some rent.

I used to have a passage I used to quote occasionally, which always made me feel better. It was about tribal women who had no clocks or time limits... And now the one time I could really do with reading it I can't find it anywhere. Sad

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These were all posted in the early hours of the 17th August (yesterday!);

3:32am

Well, it's gone 3am here and I'm awake because I was having stomach pains and needed to use the bathroom... Was having regular pains all afternoon between 7-12 minutes apart and now they're back but far more painful then before. I actually have to breath through them and find a way of focussing on something other then pain!

DH and I DTD last night, and I'm pretty sure I had some more of my plug come away, although again it wasn't bloody or anything...

I have my midwife coming to visit me for my 40week appointment today and really just hoping my prediction comes true! I've said all through this pregnancy that I would go into labour on the 17th and give birth on the 18th - think I'll be gobsmacked if this really is it!

Oh blimey... Here comes another one am going to go and start timing them as I'm pretty sure they're less then 10mins apart now....

I'll update shortly as to whether it's all kicking off or whether I stall again...

Love,

Sarah-Jean

4:07am

I'm going to go jump in the bath now girls... I'm still not sure this is it, so haven't woken DH up yet but I've been trying to time them as best as possible on Contraction Master which said;

04:05:05 am 04:06:01 am 55 secs 4 mins, 10 secs
04:00:54 am 04:02:06 am 1 mins, 11 secs 6 mins, 3 secs
03:54:51 am 03:55:38 am 46 secs 4 mins, 31 secs
03:50:20 am 03:51:18 am 58 secs 9 mins, 39 secs
03:40:40 am 03:41:16 am 35 secs 5 mins, 52 secs
03:34:47 am 03:35:55 am 1 mins, 7 secs

I missed one because I went to the loo (again!) and I'm not too great at telling when they're starting up until they're full blown so they seem shorter then they are... If they carry on though for another half hour I might wake DH up and see what he thinks. I have a vast history of false labour like this in my previous pregnancies, so I don't really believe this is it but I guess we'll find out one way or another!

Thanks for all your well wishes though - will come back and update if things seem to be moving along!

Love,

Sarah-Jean

12:02pm

Well, I am currently lying on my sofa recovering from my home water birth! So just a quick update and I will post birth story and pics later or tomorrow, depending on how things go!

Lacey Rose was born at 8:39am this morning, after 5hours and 20minutes of labour - my second longest! She weighs a whopping 10lbs 2oz ... Nobody guessed she'd be that big so that was a bit of a shock when I consider that my heaviest child up until her was 8lbs 20z!

She was born in the birth pool in our living room, and her three oldest brothers (aged 6, 5 and 3) were there when it happened and loved seeing it all! Her other brother (1) was asleep so unfortunately he missed it.

She feeds like a trooper and whilst I'm sure I'm supposed to think she's absolutely the cutest thing in the world - she's very different from my other children (all blond haired and blue eyed and thin) in that she's chubby with loads and loads of dark hair!

Anyway, I really need to sleep now as I'm shattered... Will update with full story later!

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Sarah-Jean

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Lacey Rose is 1 day old!!!!

So I thought I'd better write out my birth story before it becomes anymore hazy then it already is.

On the 16th, we went on the long drive down to Middlesex to drop back the broken birth pool we hired and all the way there in the car I was having what felt like painful braxton hicks. I didn't say anything at the time, as I was just pleading with my body not to go into labour on the M1 as they were about 10minutes apart. By the time we'd dropped the birth pool off and started heading home they were getting really uncomfortable and I had to breath through them, they were coming about every 7-12minutes apart and Martin was timing them.

Unfortunately by the time we got home and got the boys fed and settled in bed, they'd stopped again. I was really pissed off I've got to admit, and so Martin bought me a chinese take-away (my favourite!) and a bottle of rose wine to cheer me up. Don't know how but he also managed to talk me into giving his preferred method of natural induction a go, so we DTD as well. Fell asleep, nothing seemed to be happening although when I went to the loo before bed there was more of the mucous plug there but I'd been loosing bits for weeks so thought nothing of it.

At around 3am (17th August), I woke up feeling really uncomfortable and restless. Don't really know what woke me up, but I went to the loo and then got into bed and by this time felt a bit crampy so gave up and went downstairs to come online and post on the boards I visit! Just for "fun" I decided to start up contraction master and time my cramps and was somewhat surprised when I realised they were coming every 5 minutes or so. They were painful by this time and I was having to breath through them, but didn't seem bad enough to be "real" labour so I posted about them but figured it was nothing and carried on playing minesweeper!

After about another half hour I was really quite uncomfortable and decided maybe I'd have a bath. I know they say not to in early labour but I figured IF it REALLY was labour then nothing would stall it, and if it wasn't really labour then it might help ease the pain. I did think about not waking Martin, but in the end I went up and poked him to tell him I was having a bath, at which point he jumped out of bed and followed me downstairs to the bathroom on the boys floor. The bath eased the pain for about 10 minutes before they started coming back again every 4-6 minutes apart. By this time I knew it was the real deal as I could see the visible signs of contractions on my stomach, but I still didnt want to fully believe it incase it all stopped and I was disappointed again. Martin started bustling around, filling my birth pool and tidying things away whilst boasting about his amazing baby induction abilities and how he couldn't believe he'd managed to induce 3 of my labours now. Hmmm.

At somewhere around 5am, I asked Martin to call my midwife as I was in a lot of pain and also asked him to call my Mum and Rachell to come over. I was worried that they'd all arrive and everything would stop, but I didn't want to have the rush we had with Ashton were I pu off calling anyone until the last minute! I got out the bath at this point and got a nightie on although for some reason I really wanted to be naked, and went downstairs and sat at the dining table miserable because the contractions seemed to have stopped again!

My midwife arrived somewhere around 6am and unloaded all her gear into the house. She took my BP and listened to baby and everything seemed fine. My contractions were now really irregular and I was doubtful that I was actually in labour but she watched me have a couple (by which time I needed Martin to rub my back through them to ease the pain) and told me I could get in the birth pool and what would happen would happen. I didn't really feel like getting in the pool yet as I was really upset that everything seemed to have stalled even though I was still having contractions, they didn't seem that regular to me.

Somewhere around 6:30am my Mum and Rachell arrived and I got in the pool around this time as when I was having contractions they were painful and my midwife seemed to think I'd be better off in there. My contractions slowed right down to the point of feeling like they'd stopped once I got in the pool and I was now really worried and embarrassed that I'd dragged everyone out of their beds for nothing and was cursing myself for not waiting longer before calling people. Around 7am I think my contractions were around every 8-10 minutes apart and I remember they were really strong and the only way I could get through them was to lean my head on the side of the pool and have Martin rub my back. I do remember saying at one point "This is not fun anymore!". By about 7:30am they felt to me like they were back up to maybe once every 5 minutes or so and I was really having trouble getting through them.

My midwife had to make a couple of calls at some point around 7:45am and at this point Martin rubbing my back wasn't helping much and all I could think through the contractions was "I need drugs! I need drugs!" and then the minute it was over I was fine again but then I had quite a big contraction and at that point I said to Martin I wanted entonox and he went and told my midwife and she got me some. Although I didn't use it much as I wasn't having many contractions anyway it didn't seem.

During this time Raistlin had been in the room and hanging out with us, and at around 8am I remember saying how "these really hurt now" and my midwife suggested that if I wanted any of the other kids present maybe we should get them down, so we called Tristan and JJ down (Ashton was asleep upstairs with Rachell) and put some cartoons on for them.

At around 8:35am I couldn't help myself any longer. I'd been having pressure and feeling like I needed the toilet with every contraction I'd had since they'd started, but by this time I couldn't fight them any longer and started pushing. It hurt but not as much as I remembered it hurting, the main overwhelming feeling I had was that she was too big and I couldn't get her out and I couldn't do it. I remember telling my midwife that I couldn't do it and her looking me straight in the eyes and telling me of course I could! At 8:38am Lacey Rose's head was born which was a major relief and at that point my waters broke! All through the pushing I'd had my hand down there to guide her out slowly and it was quite a surreal feeling, feeling myself stretching and I remember thinking that if I felt myself tear I was going to puke my guts up all over the place or faint! Once her head was out though I couldn't seem to push her body out even though I was trying really hard and then at 8:39am she suddenly just kind of "popped" out and floated to the bottom of the pool. I was a bit shocked as I wasn't expecting her to just "pop" out and so I didn't immediately catch her, but I did grab her pretty quickly and pull her up out the water!

She was spluttering quite a bit and her breathing was a bit laboured, but that stopped after a couple of minutes and she seemed OK. I held her whilst we waited for my placenta to come naturally. I have heard that it can take a long time for that to happen but actually it only took about 10minutes although I was having trouble pushing by this stage and so had to stand up and use gravity a bit, but thankfully I didn't have to leave the pool!

At about 9am we decided we should cut the cord and so I handed Lacey Rose over to Martin, with the placenta and they wrapped her in a towel and Martin cut her cord and my midwife tied it with an umbilical tie (not the clamp!). I stayed in the pool for quite awhile after this as I didn't feel that great, I was a little shocked and didn't want to move much. They weighed her and got her dry and took photo's and had cuddles and around 9:20am I got out the pool and sat on the sofa. I was bleeding quite heavily, in a lot of pain and felt really sick, exhausted and flaky but was otherwise OK so they passed her to me and I gave her her first feed.

After that my Mum and Rachell left us to it and my midwife helped me to the other sofa so I could lie down. They seemed a bit worried as I was loosing a lot of blood and very pale and not really with it, but it wasn't enough to think I was bleeding out so we just left it to slow down of it's own accord. The midwife helped clean me up a little bit and discovered I had retained a large amount of the membranes - she got as much as she could out but we know there's still some left so we're keeping a very close eye on me for infection.

So, stats wise!

Latent labour was 30minutes (between the time I woke up and the time I realised the cramps were probably contractions!)
1st stage was 5hours and 5minutes
2nd stage was 4minutes
3rd stage was 11minutes

Martin, Mum, Tristan, Jaeven, Raistlin and my midwife all witnessed the birth.

Lacey Rose was born at 39weeks and 6days.
Apgars were;
7 @ 1min
9 @ 5min
10 @ 10min

She weighed in at 10lbs 2oz, and her head circumference was 36cm.

Her skin is peeling quite a bit, which normally would suggest she'd been overcooked, but we know that's not the case so probably just her size! She doesn't look anything like any of the boys - she's got long dark hard and is really chubby and fat!

So there you go! It's all over and it's just beginning! Wow!

Pics to follow in next post cos this is VERY long!

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And here are some photo's...

Some of them are a little bit graphic with either partial nudity or placenta so if you don't want to see then please don't look further!


Me, just after I climbed into the birth pool!


Comparing her 3D ultrasound with the real deal!


Martin, just before he cut the cord!


My Midwife and Lacey Rose!


Me, after the birth!


My Mum having her first cuddle!


Lacey Rose - porky baby!


Me and my tribe - Ashton, Tristan, Jaeven holding Lacey Rose, Me and Raistlin!


Me and Jaeven... It was really important to JJ that he was involved and there for the birth. He's very proud of his little sister and fiercely protective!


Lacey Rose today at 1day old!

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