Finally some progress! DH and I finally bought a crib last weekend off of craigslist. We also went to BRU and used up some of those gift cards I got at the baby shower. Got lots of goodies including a swing, baby bjorn, and the Graco Travel System I'd been eyeing. Of course the baby's room is still total chaos so Sunday we started w/ the organizing. Hopefully this weekend we'll make another big push and at least be able to set up the crib. We don't agree on how to set up the room so that will be an interesting debate.
Last weekend we also went on a tour of the hospital I'll be delivering at. That was an eye-opener. The labor/birthing rooms seem pretty nice, the recovery rooms kinda small. I was a little miffed at all the rules. No photos? Due to the HIPA Act.. Apparently, however, if the doc and nurses agree, its ok. I have to get an order from my doc to bring in my birthing ball? There were a couple others but I can't remember. I also was not keen on the "we'll strap you up to the continuous fetal monitor and you'll be flat on your back" attitude. It was sort of a given that we'd all have epidurals and be numb anyway so whats the big deal right? I don't want an epi, and will try very very very hard to avoid it and want to be mobile for as long as possible. But really she was just a tour guide.. two good friends have already delivered there both vaginally and w/ c-sec and both have said the hospital was very good and it is the best in the area so....
DH and I have been faithfully going to our Bradley classes. I thought at first he might balk at the idea of a 12-week session but he is suddenly totally in to it! Way to go DH! Its interesting. I like it alot, but much of the literature does seem very anti-hospital, anti-ob. Not that there aren't valid criticisms of how hospitals and obs treat the birthing experience, but they are also not the enemy. Anyway, its really interesting and I'm very glad I chose Bradley. Now the classes will start to get really interesting as we start talking more about labor and the coaches role.
I had my 3-hour test and PASSED! WOOHOO! It was not fun being stuck 4 times. After the first hour I was soooo sleepy but then perked up a little later. I'm just glad I passed!
Work has been insanely busy with a proposal we just finished up yesterday. Tomorrow DH's office is throwing us a little baby shower. That should be fun!!
Had my ob visit this morning. It went really well. BP excellent. Was able to ask her alot of questions that came up after we went on the tour of the hospital. Alot of my concerns have been alleviated and she'll let me bring my cliff shot energy gels and gatorade. I sucked down those 100-carb, easily digestible energy gels when I ran a marathon and I got to thinking, why not use them during labor? Couldn't hurt!
Again my fundal height is measuring large (3 weeks ahead). I'm getting a little tired of hearing that. I haven't gained a TON of weight (27 pounds which is a healthy amount but not excessive), I don't have GD so what's the big deal? Well, at any rate by my next visit in 2 weeks if I'm still measuring so many weeks ahead she'll want to schedule an u/s to get a better idea of how big the peanut is. But the bottom line is that I'm doing well and so is the baby.
Had the baby shower at DH's work yesterday during lunch. That was nice. Got some clothes and DH's boss sent us a stroller, but we already have one, so will have to exchange it....
Looking forward to another busy weekend of all things baby.. we plan to get the crib up and hopefully get the room somewhat organized... now if I can only convince DH to take his Jimi poster down...
Things have been busy and time is ticking away! Last weekend we got the crib up and the changing table. I actually conceeded that where DH wanted to put the crib should work so for now its there. And there were no tussles regarding good ol' Jimi. DH realized all on his own that Mr. Hendrix might not be appropriate for a baby's room!
Today I'm off to VT to visit a good friend who is also pg and three weeks ahead of me. She lives overseas and came back to the US for the birth.. I haven't seen her in quite some time nor her son who is about to turn 2 so it'll be a good, but short visit. She's already given me the horror stories of her first labor/birth. Her water broke at 38w but she had no dilation, effacement, nothing. They waited 24 hours and still nothing so they began Pit... and then it all went to hell after that.. it almost ended in a c-sec but somehow she managed to push her little guy out but ended up w/ a torn cervix.. OUCH..! ... I'm scared of Pit!
Next week will be busy too..! I'm taking a b'feeding class on Tuesday, we interview a Pediatrician Wednesday, have our Bradley class Thursday, my ob visit Friday and then the long weekend will be spent working on the baby's room some more..
Good news! Its confirmed that I can take 12 weeks off PAID leave when the peanut comes!!! Its not official maternity leave but a combination of vacation/sick leave accrued over the near 7 years spent at this deadbeat job. This is more than I ever dreamed possible. I had always wanted to take close to 12 weeks off but I always thought I'd have to take at least a months worth or so w/out pay. But a whole 12 weeks paid! Yeeeeeehaw! This takes enormous pressure off the wallet!
I asked my boss a question about her time off (she has had three boys while at this organization) and she said she took 6 weeks. I'd bet a $100 bucks she's lying. I think she just said that to manipulate me into thinking I'm "lucky". Heck, I AM lucky. Too many working women get screwed in this country w/ regards to maternity leave. But I will not allow her to make me feel guilty for taking the time which I have coming to me. Our situation is such that I will have to eventually go back to work so I'm going to relish every office-less day and not feel guilty for one second that I'm not pushing paper around...
On another note, tonight is my b'feeding class. Hopefully I'll learn a thing or two!
Had my ob visit this morning. It was uneventful. BP excellent: 118/68, urine test great, weight gain: 1 pound. Baby's head down. But again I'm "measuirng large for dates"... my fundal height measurement is 35/36w. Grrr, I'm so sick of hearing this. I remember when I was only 12w I was measuring several weeks ahead and during that time I had LOST weight so I dunno, for some reason I'm measuring large. So what next? Another ultrasound! But I don't mind that. It'll be interesting to see the peanut again, particularly at this stage of the pg.
During the visit I was apparently having a contraction and didn't even know it! But now I know better what to look for. I have been feeling the tightness on and off for awhile now but didn't realize thats what it was!
My next visit is at 36w where I'll get the whole GBS test etc and my first internal.
Yesterday DH and I met with a potential pediatrician's office. That was interesting. I liked them well enough tho have nothing to compare it to. Its awfully convenient to where we both work, to our home, and where the little one will be once in daycare.
I'm looking forward to the long weekend. Tonight DH and I are seeing his beloved Dodgers play. The rest of the weekend will be full of all things baby! Making one last run out to BRU. Need to get organized as DH is off to Angola/Nigeria on Monday for his last overseas trip for some time!
I really need to get my butt in gear here at work. I have alot I want to do in the next couple weeks. My goal is to have all my projects done by June 15, at which point I'll be 36 weeks.
Things are moving along but I wish I could say I felt more productive. I had an u/s last Thursday due to my "measuring large for dates". The peanut was measuring 36w instead of 34. But all looked great, amniotic fluid level great etc. After the tech performed the u/s the doc just walked in and said "so your having a big baby". He was really low-key about it and didn't make it seem like a big deal.... but the real kicker is how much the munchkin is supposedly weighing at this point:...6 POUNDS! WTF!?!? Ok, deep breath, yes there is a good margin for error when it comes to this guesstimating the weight but still! Interestingly enough, the doc there said that all this was determined genetically by the woman not the man. Actually what he said was 'unless your husband is a Redskins football player he doesn't factor in'... and since I was 6weeks preemie and 4 pounds 12 oz, or thereabouts, there is no way to know how big I would have been. O'well, enough of the speculating.. I guess we'll just have to wait and see!... They checked my cervix which is long and sealed tight so thats good!
Friday I got the car seat installed. There is a transportation office near where I live that does it for free and I'm so glad I did that rather than try and do it ourselves.. and now at least I know its installed properly. I'm so glad too that she was able to put it in the middle and not one of the sides. I wasn't sure if our car was equipped to do that.
Met a couple girlfriends for brunch yesterday. They really outdid themselves with prezzies for the munchkin. They practically bought out Target! I was so happy, they got very useful and practical things which I really appreciated. Afterward I took a trip to Target myself to top it off with a few more things we need.
I guess I better get working! It seems I have fewer and fewer windows of opportunity where I'm feeling good and motivated w/ energy to be productive so I better take advantage of that while I can!
Not a heck of alot going on.. I am trying desperately to be productive at work and seem to have finally made a dent in all the mounds of paper that I have amassed recently. Boss comes back next Thursday and that's my personal deadline!
My pelvic area seems kind of sore these days. I will take that as a good sign that my body is prepping for D-day!! I'm exhausted and no matter how much I sleep I'm still tired. I've also been having lots more BHs. Some of them are downright uncomfortable. I thought maybe I was more dehydrated this week and have been trying to drink more water but it hasn't seemed to make a difference. Its so strange to feel my belly during one. Hard as a rock!!
My bradley classes continue to be interesting. Last night we taked about c-sections and talked about our birth plans. This sounds so silly but I'm afraid of making a birth plan because I don't want to set myself up for feeling like a failure when something occurs that was NOT part of the birth plan. I've read enough birth stories to realize that most women, if not all, have something happen which they did not anticipate or want. I just don't want to set myself up for later thinking to myself "I had or did this, therefore I failed and it wasn't a perfect birth". But on the other hand its important to have my goals framed so as not to get railroaded down a path I do not want to go. Hmpf.
Our bedding for the crib came! My two SILs got us the Kidsline Zanzibar themed bedding. I love it! At one point one of my SILs was going to get my cloth diaper stash established but that kind of fell by the wayside.. so the two of them got us the bedding instead.. which is great!
Hope to be productive this weekend. I'm such a slob when DH goes out of town. He gets back Monday afternoon so at least I'll have the whole weekend to get organized. With the snails pace I seem to be working at lately, I'm gonna need it!
I had my first internal today and boy that felt good!
Not a heck of alot going on down there.... I'm not dilated, baby still high but my cervix is softening so hey, that is something!
Again we had the whole "big baby" discussion and what that could mean. At least I know she won't try to push a c/s on me without a good trial of labor first. I just hope and pray I don't need to have a c-section. I guess there is nothing I can do at this point but wait and see. I just don't understand. I haven't put on an excessive amount of weight - 34 pounds total which is certainly a good amount but not too crazy at this stage of the game. She did another blood fast test to double check and make sure I don't have GD. I hope I don't.. thats another label I don't need.....
But the baby is doing great.. my bp was 118/60 YAY!.. urine test great. Got my GBS test... ooh, and apparently I've got a rather nasty yeast infection. Oh Joy!
Now I'm on to the weekly appointments...!! I've scheduled them all up to my due date!
This should be a pretty busy weekend.. trying to wrap up a few things related to the munchkin at home. I made a big push at the office this past week and feel pretty good at where things stand now. Now in the event something happens (which doesn't seem likely any time soon) I won't feel like there is alot of unresolved issues at work I should have addressed...
My BIG baby is still BIG, still high, no dilation, no effacement, cervix still "softening". My ob told me she was not optimistic that I could deliver this baby vaginally. I was a little numb during the discussion, afterall, I've been pinning my hopes on having a natural childbirth and a c-section is about as far as one can get from that! I had a mini-meltdown in the parking lot, largely because I think I'm so tired (didn't sleep well) and just starting to feel physically overwhelmed and the heat we've been having has not helped! I kept asking myself if I've done something wrong and grew this baby too big? Well the good news is that the baby is not big because I have GD. She gave me the blood fast test and my blood sugar was very low so at least THAT is not the reason for my big baby. Now that I've had a couple of hours to reflect on the discussion I feel slightly resentful that she would be so pessimistic about my chances. How can she really say that? Who knows, she may be right but no good can come of being so discouraging when we don't even know for sure. I keep reading that it is very rare for a woman to grow a baby too big to birth vaginally...so am I part of this rare group of people who have a too small pelvis????? For now we are just waiting and seeing. She wasn't asking me to make a decision. We'll just take it week by week.
But the really important news is that the baby is doing great, my bp was awesome and urine tests were good too. Thats the most important thing. I can reconcile myself to a c-section if its truly necessary but to schedule a c-section based soley on the speculation that the baby might be too big doesn't sit right with me. Especially when there are countless examples of supposed too large babies actually being born average size! I know that I would be pissed beyond words if I had a c-section only to end up with a 7 pounder.
I dunno... I feel so conflicted and a little scared.
But one way or another this little munchkin will be coming very soon!! Yay! I just have to keep my eye on the prize and go with the flow....
*OH, and I tested GBS + so I'll get the antibiotics! I'm allergic to penacillin so they'll give me something else.
My back has been bothering me and I'm a bit crampy on/off. I know I don't dare hope this is the beginning of anything, afterall my OB has declared me incompetent to deliver this baby vaginally. I've been so bummed out about her prediction. I try very hard to remain optimistic but I'd be lying if I didn't say her prediction hasn't really thrown me for a loop. I thought I'd read about c-sections in my Bradley book. Big mistake. While they certainly acknowledge that c-sections are warranted in certain cases they do make it sound like your gonna be screwed on a whole host of issues if you end up getting one. This of course did not help me sleep last night, as if I weren't having enough problems sleeping already!
But yet the cramping and back pain are real... A girl can only hope!