In March 2006, I had a period that went crazy. I had five days of normal, then all of a sudden I was bleeding heavier than I've ever bled. It was huge clots, and just didn't stop. My mom said it looked like the kind of bleeding you have after a miscarriage or after you give birth, but neither of those was a possibility (pretty hard to get pregnant when you aren't having sex..).
It was a Friday when I started the heavy bleeding. That Sunday, I went to the ER at the hospital near my college. They checked my hemoglobin level (it was 12.1, normal is 12-16), prescribed me some BCP to stop the bleeding, and sent me home. The bleeding got worse, and I finally went back to the ER that Friday night. They did a couple of ultrasounds but didn't find anything abnormal, found that my hemoglobin was at 8.4, and sent me home with stronger BCP and instructions to see an OB the next Monday.
Over the weekend, it got even worse. I was going through one jumbo super capacity step-up-from-overnight pad every 45 minutes. I couldn't stand for long, walking long distances was out, and I needed long naps just to make it through the day. My fiance was worried about me, and had driven down to my off-campus apartment to be with me. Sunday night, after 9 days of heavy bleeding and 14 days after my period had started, he convinced me to go back to the ER. I reluctantly agreed. My hemoglobin level was 5.7. They started a blood transfusion and admitted me to the hospital. Monday afternoon I had a D&C, which finally stopped the bleeding. My doctor said that the medications they had given me worked for 99.9% of people with that problem. Leave it to me to be in the 0.1%.
After one cycle of avoiding pregnancy, we decided we were open to the possibility of it happening, but didn't want to go crazy trying.
If the timing was right and we were in the mood, we did it. If not, no big deal.
September- TTA, successful.
October- kind of trying, kind of not- no pregnancy
November- ditto October
Beginning of December, we made an offer on a house. As it became clear that this would be the house we were buying, we realized that money would probably be tight for a while. We discussed putting off TTC for a few months, knowing that of course, it might be a moot point.
Beginning of January, my husband had to take a week to travel for work. Since I'd been charting, I knew that my temperature was supposed to drop the Wednesday of that week (and therefore, my period was supposed to arrive).
Wednesday came.. temperature stayed high. I immediately called DH and left a message on his cell phone
I brought a pad with me to work, just in case, but it didn't get used.
I was tempted to test right away, but wanted to wait till DH got home so we could see the results together.
Thursday passed slowly, as did Friday. As soon as I got home from work Friday, we headed straight for the bathroom so I could do the sacred pee on a stick ritual.
We told our parents in person, called our close friends and siblings, and I posted about it on a wedding planning board I've been posting on for the last couple years.
I have no idea if I'm high risk for anything (I don't think I am..), so we're waiting till we hear a heartbeat before we make it public news.
My doctor doesn't want to see me till 8-10 weeks, so my first appointment is set for February 13.
I did some calculations of my own, and I think my due date is September 21. We'll see how far off I am when I go to the doc.
Till then, I'm kind of in limbo. I'm still keeping track of my waking temperature, because I know if it goes down, that could mean miscarriage. So far, it's stayed up.
DH and I went to a bookstore and got a pregnancy journal that tells us each day's development. It's pretty exciting to see all the growth that happens! Recently, baby's heart has started beating, and baby has begun to develop a liver. Grow, baby, grow!
We've tossed around some ideas for names.. here's what we're thinking right now.
Boy- Joshua Braden (There's a 98% chance this will be our boy name. Joshua is set. Braden may change.)
Girl- Abigail, Rebecca, Elizabeth, Renee, Natalie.. clearly we have not decided on a girl name.. good thing we have some time to decide.
EDIT: As I come across more names I like, I will add them. Lucy, Lily, Julia, Nina, Rachel, Valerie
There are some other names that have already been on used in our families, so those are out. We went to grandparent names, but none of them were appealing (sorry, but we won't be having a little Winifred or little Earl).
EDIT #2: I talked to my best friend tonight (1/31). She's not close to having kids (not even dating anyone at this point), but I asked what names she is set on, so I don't inadvertantly steal all of them. So now out of the running are Brady and Melissa for sure (those are her definites) as well as Claire, Lily, James, Anthony, Seth, Jared, Gabriel (her maybes). If I get my heart set on one of these, it won't be a big deal, but I'll at least try to stay away from her top two.
There are some names I like, but I think they sound odd paired with our last name. Hmm. Never thought of that when I was naming all my future children in grade school!
The first reading talked about God knowing us and loving us before we were in the womb. What an awesome thought! I've taken that reading and applied it to myself, and it has been comforting- God has plans for my life, and has been holding me in His hand from the beginning.
Now thinking about it in terms of our child.. God already knows our baby. He knows the thoughts and experiences our baby will have, even 10 or 30 or 70 years down the road. He has his or her future in mind, and is already shaping him or her for the life ahead. Beautiful, comforting thought!
The second reading was that famous passage from 1 Corinthians about love. Basically, even if you have all these other great skills and gifts, if you don't have love, it's worth nothing. Intelligence is incomplete anyway, and will fade away when perfect love is there. I don't have my Bible out, or else I would look up the exact verses.