The beginning.. (EDD 9/21/07)

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The beginning.. (EDD 9/21/07)

Some background:
In March 2006, I had a period that went crazy. I had five days of normal, then all of a sudden I was bleeding heavier than I've ever bled. It was huge clots, and just didn't stop. My mom said it looked like the kind of bleeding you have after a miscarriage or after you give birth, but neither of those was a possibility (pretty hard to get pregnant when you aren't having sex..).

It was a Friday when I started the heavy bleeding. That Sunday, I went to the ER at the hospital near my college. They checked my hemoglobin level (it was 12.1, normal is 12-16), prescribed me some BCP to stop the bleeding, and sent me home. The bleeding got worse, and I finally went back to the ER that Friday night. They did a couple of ultrasounds but didn't find anything abnormal, found that my hemoglobin was at 8.4, and sent me home with stronger BCP and instructions to see an OB the next Monday.

Over the weekend, it got even worse. I was going through one jumbo super capacity step-up-from-overnight pad every 45 minutes. I couldn't stand for long, walking long distances was out, and I needed long naps just to make it through the day. My fiance was worried about me, and had driven down to my off-campus apartment to be with me. Sunday night, after 9 days of heavy bleeding and 14 days after my period had started, he convinced me to go back to the ER. I reluctantly agreed. My hemoglobin level was 5.7. They started a blood transfusion and admitted me to the hospital. Monday afternoon I had a D&C, which finally stopped the bleeding. My doctor said that the medications they had given me worked for 99.9% of people with that problem. Leave it to me to be in the 0.1%.

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May

After my health issues in March, my OB put me on BCP for six months to help regulate my cycle.

In May, I got married to the most wonderful man in the world (I may be biased..) and had sex for the first time.

I was still on BCP, so we didn't have to think about when to TTC.

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Going off BCP

By late August, I was coming to the end of my sixth pack of pills, and it was time to go to the OB. I had graduated and moved, so it was a different OB than it had been before.

He gave us the go-ahead to TTC when DH and I were ready.

We had started looking into houses, but wanted to wait till we were closer to closing before trying.

So we started by charting my waking temperatures and my cervical mucus. That way I could get a better idea of how my cycle worked without the pills.

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Trying, but not trying

After one cycle of avoiding pregnancy, we decided we were open to the possibility of it happening, but didn't want to go crazy trying.

If the timing was right and we were in the mood, we did it. If not, no big deal.

September- TTA, successful.

October- kind of trying, kind of not- no pregnancy

November- ditto October

Beginning of December, we made an offer on a house. As it became clear that this would be the house we were buying, we realized that money would probably be tight for a while. We discussed putting off TTC for a few months, knowing that of course, it might be a moot point.

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The big Test

Beginning of January, my husband had to take a week to travel for work. Since I'd been charting, I knew that my temperature was supposed to drop the Wednesday of that week (and therefore, my period was supposed to arrive).

Wednesday came.. temperature stayed high. I immediately called DH and left a message on his cell phone

I brought a pad with me to work, just in case, but it didn't get used.

I was tempted to test right away, but wanted to wait till DH got home so we could see the results together.

Thursday passed slowly, as did Friday. As soon as I got home from work Friday, we headed straight for the bathroom so I could do the sacred pee on a stick ritual.

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the results..

DH held the test while I peed, then put it on the sink to wait for the results while I finished up.

And then we waited. Slowest 30 seconds of my life.

He was covering the results window with his hand. Finally, he peeked at it, then smiled at me and moved his hand. There it was, "Pregnant".

I shrieked and jumped up and down, then hugged him and apologized for shrieking.

He said "congratulations, mommy."

January 12, 2007- A big day for our now growing family!

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So now what?

We told our parents in person, called our close friends and siblings, and I posted about it on a wedding planning board I've been posting on for the last couple years.

I have no idea if I'm high risk for anything (I don't think I am..), so we're waiting till we hear a heartbeat before we make it public news.

My doctor doesn't want to see me till 8-10 weeks, so my first appointment is set for February 13.

I did some calculations of my own, and I think my due date is September 21. We'll see how far off I am when I go to the doc.

Till then, I'm kind of in limbo. I'm still keeping track of my waking temperature, because I know if it goes down, that could mean miscarriage. So far, it's stayed up.

DH and I went to a bookstore and got a pregnancy journal that tells us each day's development. It's pretty exciting to see all the growth that happens! Recently, baby's heart has started beating, and baby has begun to develop a liver. Grow, baby, grow!

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Hmm... baby names?

We've tossed around some ideas for names.. here's what we're thinking right now.

Boy- Joshua Braden (There's a 98% chance this will be our boy name. Joshua is set. Braden may change.)

Girl- Abigail, Rebecca, Elizabeth, Renee, Natalie.. clearly we have not decided on a girl name.. good thing we have some time to decide.
EDIT: As I come across more names I like, I will add them. Lucy, Lily, Julia, Nina, Rachel, Valerie

There are some other names that have already been on used in our families, so those are out. We went to grandparent names, but none of them were appealing (sorry, but we won't be having a little Winifred or little Earl).

EDIT #2: I talked to my best friend tonight (1/31). She's not close to having kids (not even dating anyone at this point), but I asked what names she is set on, so I don't inadvertantly steal all of them. So now out of the running are Brady and Melissa for sure (those are her definites) as well as Claire, Lily, James, Anthony, Seth, Jared, Gabriel (her maybes). If I get my heart set on one of these, it won't be a big deal, but I'll at least try to stay away from her top two.

There are some names I like, but I think they sound odd paired with our last name. Hmm. Never thought of that when I was naming all my future children in grade school!

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Symptoms at six weeks

Tired all the time- check.
Crazy discharge volume- check.
Constantly hungry (but never for much at a time)- check.
Slight nauseus feeling- check.
Sore/tender bewbies- check.

Interestingly, no morning sickness yet. I hold no illusions that morning sickness will not strike, but I'm grateful that it hasn't happened yet.

I will update after my first appointment.. if not sooner.

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The message at church today struck me.

The first reading talked about God knowing us and loving us before we were in the womb. What an awesome thought! I've taken that reading and applied it to myself, and it has been comforting- God has plans for my life, and has been holding me in His hand from the beginning.

Now thinking about it in terms of our child.. God already knows our baby. He knows the thoughts and experiences our baby will have, even 10 or 30 or 70 years down the road. He has his or her future in mind, and is already shaping him or her for the life ahead. Beautiful, comforting thought!

The second reading was that famous passage from 1 Corinthians about love. Basically, even if you have all these other great skills and gifts, if you don't have love, it's worth nothing. Intelligence is incomplete anyway, and will fade away when perfect love is there. I don't have my Bible out, or else I would look up the exact verses.

Anyway, just wanted to share my thoughts.

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trepidation

I have to admit, going into this whole TTC thing, I was a bit nervous. I'm young (22), it's my first pregnancy, and I know so many people who have had at least one miscarriage.

I was scared to get pregnant, because I was so afraid of it ending.

So far, though, I've felt ok. I know it's still early, but I still feel pregnant, and I'm not scared anymore.

I guess if it happens, it happens. I can't let it hold me back from trying to build our family.

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blessing our home

Since we just moved into a new house, we asked two of the priests from our church (Fr. John and Fr. Nate) to come over and bless it.

They came over tonight, and it was a blast. We chatted for a while, showed them our wedding album (Fr. John had officiated our wedding), then they blessed each room in our house. Then we asked them how much in advance we needed to book baptisms. They were very surprised and very excited! I think that was a cool way to tell them, don't you?

After that, we went out to dinner. Probably two of the coolest people I know.

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working?

It's way too early to know how this pregnancy is going to affect me in the long run, but I wish I had a crystal ball or something.

I have to think hard about what I'll be doing this summer. I have a couple options for jobs, but I just don't know how I'll be feeling at that time. The time in question is from about 24 weeks to 33 weeks.

I know people who have been active and followed their normal routines up to the week they gave birth, and then there are others who were on bedrest for the last two months.

I hate that I have to decide so soon, especially since my body will change so much between now and then.

I'm going to meet with someone about one of the jobs, and I'll explain at that time about the pregnancy. We'll see what happens.

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I shoveled the walk and the driveway when I got home from work today- I sure hope that's allowed. Baby is tough, right?

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Every once in a while it hits me- our life will never be the same again.

I'm excited to have this baby, but it does mean change. It will never again just be the two of us. From now on, we have another life to be responsible for!

It is exciting and sobering at the same time. Are we ready? Will we be good parents?

I'm in a different place in life than a lot of my friends, and it's odd. Some of them are still in college, going to classes every day, living off campus, stressing about boys, going out occasionally to bars..
I've been there, and I'm done with that part of my life, but it is weird to talk to my friends and know that I'm not there anymore.

I'm married, my husband and I have moved into a house, I've been offered a great job for the summer (something I've wanted for a while), and we have a son or daughter on the way. We are going to be PARENTS! It's so hard to wrap my mind around that.

Alright, I need to shower before I head to work. Ciao!

PS- If you are reading this, feel free to comment in that sticky post up above! : o )

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ugh. people suck.

Good grief, it's ridiculous how cliquish internet message boards can be!

I've been posting on a certain message board for the last couple years. It has always struck me how similar the dynamics between ladies is to the dynamics of a junior high group of girls.

There's a group of a few (four or five) who seem to be the "popular" ones. They've been on there the longest, and their opinions hold a lot of weight. They don't necessarily dominate the boards, but do at times. This is my favorite part- when one expresses a certain opinion, the others chime right in with agreement.

I respect their opinion, generally, and they can be funny, but they can also be mean, and that's what hurts. I became friends with one girl on there (she's from my area) and they chased her off. They followed her to another board and constantly (every day) insulted her. She ended up deleting her bio.

Tonight I got to be the target. Some of them weren't even on when it initially happened, but jumped on as soon as they logged in. Seriously? I have no intention of leaving the board, especially since I haven't really clicked with a community here on this site, but I have to admit that it made my heart hurt a little bit reading all their posts to me.

I'm not going to say I had nothing to do with it, but I think there are more gracious ways to respond to someone you disagree with, rather than saying "blah blah blah, that's what I 'hear' when I read your post" and "you're ridiculous" (both actual quotes).

My whole life, I've been the tough one. Nothing gets to me, cause I let it all roll off my back. Maybe it's the extra hormones I have floating around, but I'm having trouble with this. *deep breath* I think it's time for bed. I'm sure things will look better in the morning.

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7 down, 33 to go

Boy, nine months sure does pass slowly.

Am I really only at 7 weeks?

Sigh. 33 more to go.

I think it will feel more real once I've been to the doctor, which isn't for another week and a half.

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heartbeat?

I had a dream last night that I went to the doctor. He did all the normal checkup things, then sent me away without hearing the heartbeat. I was pretty bummed, then saw my dad there. Apparently he's a doctor now too. Smile He asked if I wanted to hear baby's heartbeat, and I said absolutely! He put some tight thing on my leg, which I suppose is the latest technology. And then I got to hear the heartbeat! It was so loud and wonderful.. I called DH in so he could hear it too.

Guess I have that first appointment on the mind, eh?

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Colts just won Super Bowl XLI! Great day for Indiana!

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vitamins?

I've been taking a prenatal vitamin every night since 13 DPO, the first day my temperature was supposed to drop.

Occasionally I forget to take it.

That's not going to harm my baby, is it?

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clothes from mom

Oh, I forgot to mention- yesterday my momma asked if I wanted some vintage maternity clothes. Smile

No idea what she has, but anything my mom wore in the 70s and 80s has to be classic. Can't wait to rummage through it!

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almost passed out

Guess I should start putting how far along I am at the top of each post- I've perused some other journals, and most people seem to do that.

7w,4d

This morning I nearly passed out. I got up to take a shower, was rinsing the shampoo out of my hair, and just all of a sudden was having trouble standing. I crouched down to catch my breath and balance, and knew I had to get out of the shower right away. I quickly swiped the razor over my armpits and turned off the water. Grabbed a towel and sat on the floor next to the toilet. I had no idea if I was going to puke or not. After a second, I ended up having a BM that was not going to wait to come out.

I'm still feeling a little under the weather, but I think I could stand and walk if I needed to. Pretty scary moment this morning though.

In other news, the temperature has been so cold around here that school has been cancelled the last two days. Since I work with an after-school program, by default I haven't had to go to work this week. It's good that my under-the-weather-ness hasn't caused me to miss any work, but it would be nice to get some hours. Maybe tomorrow.

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friends

Thought I'd mention-
If you are a real life friend I've given this link to, please remember that it isn't public news yet!

After we've heard the baby's heartbeat, we'll start telling everyone, but not yet!

Ok that's all.

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sleep

7w,5d

Man, I was just posting yesterday on my birth club board about how I haven't had any problems sleeping. Vivid dreams, yeah. Having trouble getting to sleep at night, no.

Well, last night I was lying awake in bed for quite a while. I even got up to use the bathroom (haven't had to do that before). It was probably two hours before I drifted off to sleep.

Sleeping on my stomach has become uncomfortable, too. Thought I would be farther along before that happened.

Of course, this morning when the alarm went off, I was NOT ready. I hit snooze for a full hour before finally getting out of bed.

Good thing I have a part time job where my hours are flexible.
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Tonight DH and I are going over to my parents' house to babysit. My little sister is high needs, and they have four foster kids, and they need a few hours to get away and have one on one time with each other, and actually communicate. So we'll feed them and put them to bed while my parents get out of the house. Maybe I'll bring some laundry, too. Smile

Six days till my first doctor's appointment!!

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the birds and the bees

7w,6d

Yesterday I felt pregnant. Not necessarily a pleasant feeling, but I liked it.

DH and I babysat for my sister and the foster kids last night. I gave the 5 year old girl a bath, and as I was brushing her hair, we had the following conversation:

Me: Did you know I'm going to have a baby?
Her: No. Where is it?
Me: It's growing inside my tummy right now.
Her: When is it going to come out?
Me: Not for a while. It has to grow more first, then after the summer is over, it will be born.

Her: How did it get in there? Me: Well, it takes two people..
Her: Who?
Me: This baby took me and DH to make.

And then she got distracted by something, thank goodness. I told my parents about it when they got home. They said that was a good answer, and that's probably about all she was ready for at that point. Any more information and she wouldn't have understood it.

So there you go, my funny story of the day.

Note to self: be prepared with an answer next time I bring up the pregnancy with anyone under the age of 16.

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dizzy

Today is a dizzy day.

I'm having trouble walking or even just standing without losing my balance.

I'm eating a sandwich now- I'm hoping that helps it clear so I can drive to work.

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baby doctor!

8w,3d

Tomorrow is my first visit to the baby doctor, woot! DH is coming with me (I made him promise about 30 times that he would be able to come). I don't know exactly what they will do at this visit. I know some other people have had ultrasounds at this point, and they were able to see the baby's heart beating. That would be pretty sweet. I'm sure there will be an internal exam.. *shudder* Hey, I'll do what I have to do to make sure baby is healthy.

I'm glad there are still 32 weeks or so till this baby is born, cause we aren't really prepared on the name front. DH is stuck on one name, I'm stuck on another, neither of us can come up with a middle name. Maybe we just won't talk about it for a few weeks and see if coming back to it helps.

He'll be here for my appointment, but he has to travel for work starting that afternoon, and he'll be gone till Friday. Boo. That means I'll be babysitting the kids myself on Wednesday. We work so well as a team- last week they were all in bed on time, and supper chores even got done. That probably won't happen this time..

Ok, I should get ready to go to work. Ciao!

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Had to say Hello! Seems as if you are probably due around the same time as myself. My edd is 9-29-07. This will be my third child compared to your first. Sounds like you are very excited - Good luck at your visit tommorrow. Hope everthing goes well. Cheryl

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1st OB visit

8w,4d

So I had my first visit to my OB today.

My appointment was at 9:45. I got there about ten minutes early, signed in, and sat in the waiting room. I had the first appointment of the day, so DH and I were the only ones in there. We waited.. and waited.. and waited..

Finally at 10:05, they called me back. I got weighed (150 lbs), and I haven't gained anything yet.. in fact I think I'm a pound or two under my pre-pg weight. I didn't have to pee in a cup this time, but from now on when I go, I will. The nurse asked me some questions, then the doctor came in. He said based on date of my last period, I should be about 10 weeks, but I know that since I ovulate late, I'm not quite that far along. He asked if my breasts were tender as he squeezed each one. Yeah, they weren't before, but they are now..

He said he wanted to try to hear the heartbeat, since I was 10 weeks, so he got out the little external ultrasound thingy, put some goo on my abdomen, and moved it around for a while. He didn't hear anything, since it's a bit early. Then he put the metal duck in, cranked it open, and had a look. That didn't take long. Then he shoved a few fingers in and pushed down on my belly to see how my cervix was positioned (I think).

And that was it. I asked how far he thinks I am based on position and all that, and he said about 8 weeks, which I already knew.

Oh, they also gave me a goodie bag with some baby/pregnancy magazines and the intake form for the hospital I chose.

I go back in four weeks, and we'll get to hear the heartbeat then. He said to keep taking my prenatal vitamin and eat well (and frequently).

So there you have it!

PS- There's so much snow going on here that school was cancelled (again). I think I'll spend the rest of the day reading my new literature. Smile

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no longer invincible

8w,6d

Well, it finally happened.

Last night in bed I was feeling nauseous, as I sometimes do. Usually I just curl up in a ball and eventually fall asleep, but it just wasn't happening this time. After a little while I realized I needed to hang out in the bathroom for a bit, just in case. Sure enough, right after I got in there, I threw up. I felt better afterward, so that's good, I guess. But my non-vomiting pregnancy track record is tarnished. Wink

Maybe it was just a one time thing? We'll see.

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9w,0d

Bwahahaha...

Recall my post earlier about the catty message board?

One of the "popular" ones posted tonight about having "found" me posting on another board. She seemed bummed that I had ditched them (and not provided more drama). My favorite part- only a few people responded. I love that people just don't seem to care, even though she's trying to make it more of a big deal. Hehehe..

Ok, that's all. It made my night.

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Febus

9w,3d

Saturday night my best friend came over to hang out. She had an assignment for a photo class to take a picture of something representing three. My suggestion was to take a picture of my husband and I, since baby makes three. Here's the result:

And the close-up:

She was joking that some people will challenge the threeness of that picture, depending on their definition of a person, then said that when someone announces a pregnancy, people don't say "congratulations on the fetus!" or "way to go, embryo!" So I said I'd compromise between baby and fetus, and decided to call mine Febus. (It rhymes with fetus.)

I now have a name for Baby, and it's original (as far as I know). Bean and Peanut are cute names, but just not my style.

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I shoveled the front walk Saturday afternoon, and man is my back sore now! Shoulders, lower back, all over.

After that, we went bowling. It was a fundraiser for my camp, and I bowled a 143 the first game! That is my highest score EVER. Of course, my last game I bowled a 97, but still.

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Happy birthday!

9w,4d

Today is DH's 30th birthday! Wooooo happy birthday darling!

He doesn't want anything for his birthday, and he doesn't want any particular meal for dinner. Sigh. I suggested going out to eat, but then remembered I had scheduled a meeting for tonight right after work. Oh well, maybe we can have a late dinner.

Anyway, since he doesn't want anything, and I'm terribly uncreative, I decided to make an album of our honeymoon pictures and give that to him, along with a card I got. The pictures should be ready to pick up in a couple hours.

Going to get the album was an adventure.. I went to Walgreens (it's the closest), but they only had a couple to choose from, and they were cheap and plastic looking, and only held 24 pictures each. Hmm. So I headed out to a local grocery store that is fairly large. They have photo frames, but no albums. Alright. So I head to Meijer (like Target or Walmart) and wander the store for a while before I find the right section, and bam! Wonderful selection. I got one that holds 200 pictures, and has space to write stuff next to the pictures. Then it was off to find a birthday card. I was going to get an ooshy gooshy one that said something like "you're the best husband ever, and our life together is wonderful, and I will love you forever" but then I found one that says "It's your birthday!!! I got you a card!!!" and the inside says "This is the inside of it!!!" Hahaha... it made me laugh. Figured I can write in the mushy stuff if I want.

Hope I can get the album thrown together fairly quickly- I might have to take it to work.

Oh, I made a little Happy Birthday sign last night and left it in the bathroom so he'd see it when he woke up. He liked it. Smile

Ok, time to write something cheesy in the birthday card. Ciao!
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Oh, I forgot to mention! I parked in the Expectant Mother parking spot at the grocery store. Smile I was hoping no one would challenge me.. I know I'm not popped out and having trouble walking, but I've never been able to park there before.. Biggrin

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25% of the way there..

10w,0d

Aah! Can't believe I'm at 10 weeks! It feels more official now.. I'm 1/4 of the way done!

Anyway, got on here to say that I threw up again last night. Wooo. At least it's only the second time total for this pregnancy.

And DH slept through it all.. I think I was pretty loud, but I went into the bedroom when I was done, and he was snoring on my side of the bed. Sigh.. I had to wake him up and shove him over so I could get in bed.

Oh, and we decided on a first name for a girl! I'm not telling what it is, but I'm pretty excited. Now if only we could come up with a middle name...

Also, he called about a part-time job opening at his work. It's only 10 hours/week right now, but may open up into something more eventually. Even if it doesn't, I'm interested in it. There are so many random snow days and whatnot, that I end up losing hours at work almost every pay period. An extra job (just a couple hours a day) would be cool. And if I don't end up working at the school in the fall, I'd still have a tiny bit of money coming in, and I'd be able to get out of the house a few hours a week.

DH gave my information to the person doing the hiring. I'll keep you posted!

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10w,4d

Ugh. Not a good day at work.

Well, the kids were fine. But we had a staff meeting after work. And without being petty and complaining and going into details, I'll just say that one of my coworkers thinks I am unprofessional and noncommunicative. Thank you, coworker, for ripping me a new one in front of the rest of the staff. I appreciate your tact.

I didn't say much. I clarified some of my actions, though she attacked that too. After that I just stopped talking, pinched my hand to keep myself from crying, and let her rant.

I'll talk to my boss tomorrow when I go in.

Let's not forget, four of us have been working together since September. This particular coworker started a few weeks ago, doesn't come every single day, and doesn't come till 3 (the kids get out at 2:20). Ugh. I'm done.

I can't even use pregnancy as an excuse, cause my boss is the only one there that knows.

If this chick is going to be working there in the fall, I don't think I'll come back.

Ok, I'm out. American Idol is on. And DH is leaving tomorrow for Indy, so I think we'll be spending some extra time together tonight. Wink

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good day at work

10w,5d

Update on yesterday's post:
I talked to my boss today. She has confidence in me. I told her if there is something I need to work on, to let me know and I'd be happy to work on it. Basically she said she knows me pretty well (we've been working together since September, and a lot of times it is just the two of us) and knows that everyone has different strengths.

She knows that I don't do as well with large group management (I could have told you that) but when I'm working with kids on homework, I'm awesome. She said it's our job to work together, knowing each other's strengths and weaknesses, and support each other.

So yeah, I feel a lot better.

Also, I had a GREAT day with a few of my kids today. Let me tell you about it! Wink

We have a few boys that have a lot of trouble in the behavior department. Seems like we are always having to remind them to sit down, stop pushing other kids, do their homework, etc. We pull our hair out every day trying to redirect them. So today, a few of them walk in, and actually sat down in a reasonable amount of time instead of chasing each other. I walked over and sat down with them and let them know I was impressed with that. I told them I was going to make a list of kids with good behavior, and they were going to be on it. Then I let them watch as I wrote their names under the words "good behavior". I told them I was proud of them for their good start, and that I knew they could keep it up.

For the rest of the afternoon, I periodically checked in on them, showing them that they were still on my list, and encouraging them to keep up the good work. Granted, they weren't perfect angels, but they required much less redirection than usual, and they didn't frustrate me with their behavior.

At the end of the day, I made sure to tell their parents what a good day they had had, and to encourage the kids to keep it up and do it again tomorrow.

We'll see how tomorrow goes, but I was VERY encouraged by today. And it made me want to go up to that coworker from yesterday and say BOOYA. But I won't. Smile

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auntie again?

Still 10w,5d

My oldest brother called tonight. He and his wife have been married almost five years, and have been TTC pretty much the whole time. They found out a while ago that he has something wrong with him (basically he's shooting blanks) and if they wanted kids, they'd have to go a different route. So they've looked into adoption (they have been on some sort of waiting list for ages) and are now doing embryonic transfers (whatever the technical term for it is), where an embryo that has been frozen is injected into my sister in law. They've done it twice before- one didn't take, and the other ended in miscarriage a few days later. But now they're trying again- they did the transfer about a week ago, and they will go to the doctor next week to find out if it took.

Cross any fingers and toes you have that this works- they are great people who deserve a kid.

Plus, how cool would it be to have THREE births in one year? (my middle brother's wife in June, me in September, and my oldest brother's wife in November) That would flipping RAWK. And yes, I spelled it wrong on purpose.

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church, newspapers, and scooters, oh my!

11w,3d

Yesterday I was not feeling so hot. I had zero energy, and my head was pounding. I finally got up and got ready for church, but I sat through most of Mass. Even when I did stand up, it took forever for me to do it, and I had to hang on to either DH or to the pew in front of me.

After that we had youth group, which was fun as usual. My small group didn't get too deep in our discussion, but they made a few good points. We also planned out the game- they got in groups of 4 and each group got a newspaper page. We played some music, and when the music stopped, they had to get their whole group onto the newspaper- no feet or hands touching the carpet. After that, they had to fold the newspaper in half and go again. They got pretty creative! :o)

After youth group, DH and I went grocery shopping. There was no WAY I was going to be able to walk through the entire store, so I used one of those motorized scooter carts. I felt guilty, especially when I passed old people who were walking, and especially since I don't look like I need one, but I really would not have been able to shop without it yesterday.

My next doctor's appointment is next Tuesday.

OH, and this Wednesday is when my brother and sister-in-law find out if IVF worked this time. Keep your fingers crossed for them!

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Still 11w,3d

I forgot to say in my last post that we may have had an idea for middle name.

I had a thought train at lunch yesterday that started with an announcement made at church about an old grade school classmate of mine who is doing work in Haiti, and 4th grade when we all picked saints to dress up as/research for All Saints' Day, and the two of us picked the same saint, so I had to switch mine, and how that one was my favorite saint, and I had a book about her that I read all the time, and how much I really looked up to her, and then it hit me..

What about that saint's name as our little girl's middle name? I like it as a first name too, but it would be difficult to pronounce for some people, and I would rather our kid have an easier first name.

Next time I go to my parents' house, I'll see if that book is still laying around, cause I want to reread it. I explained the story of the saint as best as I could remember to DH, but I'm sure I missed some details.

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11w,5d

(*&(#*)(*@#*&^*&@^$*T$

I posted a while ago about the stupid junior high-like message board I used to post on.

I have not posted a single thing on there since then.

Today, someone took a photo from my facebook page, posted it (under a fake name), and made fun of it.

WTF?

It was the photo I posted earlier of me and my DH with our hands in a heart on my belly.

I had already changed my privacy settings on facebook so that only friends could see my pictures, and you couldn't even see more pictures I'd been tagged in unless you were my friend. I had already unfriended some of the girls from that board, cause I knew they would probably do something crappy like that. Apparently I didn't unfriend the right ones, cause it still ended up happening. So I just went through and unfriended every single person I know from that board, even if we had been friends in real life. It makes me sad, but I don't know who it was that pulled the picture, so I don't know who to block.

*@#&$^#*&%Y&*#%^#*&$^!!!!

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not an auntie again

11w,6d

The embryos didn't stick. Sad

Now they have to decide if they'll try again or pony up cash for an infant adoption list.

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12w,2d

I hate pregnancy hormones. I recognize what they are doing to me, but I have no power over them.

This morning in church I felt exhausted and nauseous, as usual. After church on the way home, DH was asking what I wanted for breakfast/lunch. I kept shaking my head and saying no. He suggested about five different options, and I was getting more frantic saying no. Tears were actually coming to my eyes. I should eat so I don't feel nauseous, but I'm afraid if I eat, I'll throw up. Grr. I cried and apologized to DH for being so crappy. I NEVER cry. Stupid hormones.

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Lub dub, lub dub

12w,4d

I had my second doctor's appointment this morning. Let me tell you about it.. in story form.

I left the house a tad late. My appointment was at 10:15, and I left at 10. I was going to get there early, but last time I was early (the only one there, in fact), and they still made me wait ten minutes past my appointment time. Anyway, I got there at 10:12 and sat with DH. And sat. And sat. Wait, I take that back. I went back and peed in a cup, and THEN I sat. Finally at 10:48 (yep, I kept checking my phone) they called me back. Oh, I forgot to say that the doctor came out around 10:30 and turned on the tv in the waiting area and watched the news for a few minutes.. maybe that's why it took so long to call me back.

Nurse weighed me, and I was at 148. Two pounds down from four weeks ago, and maybe three or four pounds down from pre-PG. Then she took my blood pressure, and told me the doctor would be in in a minute. As she left, I realized there was no paper gown for me to change into. So I peeked around the door. "Ma'am? Am I supposed to change?" She told me that unless there are complications, I won't have to have my hooha checked until 35 weeks. Woo hoo! I'll take while I can, since I know from 35-40 weeks, everyone and their brother will have their hands up there.

Doctor finally came in and busted out the doppler, and..... we heard Febus' heartbeat! People are right.. there is nothing like that sound.. Sigh.

I still know exactly where on my belly he had the doppler, and I can still hear the heartbeat in my head.

We are opting out of the quad screening. Even if they find something, there isn't much they can do about it, and anything they could do carries a high risk of miscarriage. Plus, some of that stuff would be picked up on an ultrasound anyway.

I will have to get some bloodwork done before my next appointment (4 weeks from now)- testing for HIV and what not.

So.. hurray for today's appointment! Begin the countdown to April 10!

PS- Pregnancy seems to be getting a bit easier. Yeah, the hormones are crazy, and I'm still exhausted ALL THE TIME, but I haven't felt much nausea lately, so that's a big plus. A BIG plus.

Ok, I'm out. Three cheers for being close to the 2nd trimester!

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my weekend

13w,3d

DH and I are adult advisors for a high school youth group, and we had a retreat this weekend. It was fabulous! My job was to advise one of the teen leaders, and he did a great job in that capacity. He's a senior, so it was his last retreat, and he definitely made a lasting impression. I gave a talk with one of the teens, too, and it went really well. One kid said it was his favorite two-person talk ever (most talks are given by just a teen.. only a couple per weekend are given by a teen and an adult) because of how cohesive it was.

The kids on Team already knew about my pregnancy, but I mentioned it to the whole group when I introduced myself. I had a few of them hug my belly after they hugged me. Smile

It was a wonderful weekend, but I am super tired now.

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Milestone!

14w,0d

Happy 2nd trimester to me!!!

Let's run down the current symptoms:
-nausea- not so much anymore. Still have it occasionally, but it isn't as bad or as frequent as it had been.
-sore bewbies- eh, at times. Nipples are super sensitive, still. Come anywhere near them and I will holler.
-exhaustion- still tired at times, but I do have spurts of energy, and I am learning to capitalize on them!

DH and I had a big discussion Wednesday night. Here's why.
Every day we come home from work, plop ourselves down in the living room, flip on the tv, get on our computers, and that's how we remain for the next five hours. Occasional interaction, but in general we ignore each other. Then we're exhausted and go to bed. Lazy lazy lazy.

We moved into our new house two months ago, and we have yet to unpack the majority of our stuff. We bought towel hooks/rods for the bathrooms over a month ago, and they have been sitting in the living room since then. Dishes pile up, the bathroom doesn't get cleaned, the carpet is in dire need of vacuuming.. it's ridiculous.

I know that I am just as guilty of laziness as he is. I am in no way blaming DH for the state of our house.

But Wednesday it all built up and I couldn't take it anymore. So I turned off my computer, went out to the garage to get a drill, and installed the hooks myself. He asked at one point if he could help me with the hooks, and I told him he had had a month to put them up, and it was my turn. I asked him when I went to get the drill if he could load the dishwasher while I was putting up the hooks, and he said no. So when I was done, I did that too.

We went to bed and he finally got me to talk, and I explained that I was sick of the laziness and the mess. I hate that we never interact. We'd had sex twice since moving into the new house. Twice, in two months. We're newlyweds, for pete's sake. We're supposed to not be able to keep our hands off each other.

After initially blaming my hormones (which I'm sure had partially to do with it), he finally validated my feelings and we made some decisions. We aren't going to just flip on the tv and watch whatever is on. We have shows we like to watch together, so we'll watch those and then turn it off. (aka no more Fresh Prince marathons!) We'll keep the computers off in the evenings as much as possible. We'll try to take a walk together every day, especially since the weather is getting nicer.

We both cried.. I made him feel really bad when I said I wanted to feel like I was special, and he didn't realize he wasn't doing that anymore.

We did pretty well yesterday. I took the afternoon off work so I could get some errands done. I met him for lunch, did three loads of laundry, got my new drivers license (with the new address), and got bloodwork done for the OB (testing for HIV and syphallis and other fun stuff). Later we looked at a bike for him and bought a dryer from Sears. As of Saturday, I'll be able to wash clothes at our house! Yay!

Ok, now it's time to head to work. Ciao!

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dreams

Still 14w,0d

(DH isn't home from work yet)
Forgot to write down some of the crazy dreams I have been having lately.
-a robber breaking into our house, me throwing him over a balcony and deciding it was my mission to kill him, stomping on his throat, punching him, etc (it got pretty violent)
-miscarriage- ER, heavy cramping, bleeding, my middle name being written down on the intake form as Christine (not even close)
-finding out at an ultrasound that Febus' brain was floating outside the head, and having to have surgery to go in and put it back in and stitch up the skull
-being on America's Next Top Model, the challenge was to create a cover for the newest Harry Potter book, the other models were being lazy and not doing anything

I know there were more.. but of course I've forgotten them now.

Ooh, and DH will be home in just a couple minutes. Ciao!

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iraq

14w,2d

Will is going back to Iraq. That is not fair. He already served his time there, he shouldn't have to go back! He was supposed to deploy to Okinawa on a peace-keeping mission, not back to Iraq to fight.

Sad

This sucks.

(Will is my good friend from college. We had a class together freshman year and have been hanging out since then. He missed our wedding cause he was in Iraq with the Marines.. I don't want him to miss the birth of our child because he's there again.)

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let's go ride a bike!

14w,3d

Yesterday I was pretty excited cause it looked like I had a little bit of a baby belly going.. I kept asking DH if it looked like baby or just me eating too much. But today it's gone away, so it must have been just a little extra bloat. That's ok, I'm sure I'll get huge soon and wish I could see my feet again.

Also, my head hurts a little. I'm drinking Gatorade to hydrate myself. Don't know if that's too sugary or not.

Yesterday DH and I cleaned upstairs quite a bit. He tackled the bathroom (the one chore I really really don't like doing) and I worked on the bedroom. I put some things away, vacuumed, and even put a rug in front of a chair we have in there. After that we bought a dryer (again- we bought a gas dryer last time without realizing we don't have a gas hookup) and a bike for DH, and then we went for a bike ride. We went about five miles- not bad for a pregnant lady and a guy who hasn't ridden a bike in ten years.

That bike seat was not comfy in the least.. My tushy is sore today, and I'm pretty sure it's bruised. Oh well, at least we got out and got some fresh air instead of sitting on the couch like lumps all day (which we usually do).

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peeing

14w,5d

Well, it's finally starting to happen. The last four or five or six nights, I've had to get up in the middle of the night (3:30-4:30 am) to use the bathroom.

Before that, I could make it almost all the way through the night, but had to get up and go about an hour or two before I would normally go (about 6:30-7:30 am).

And before THAT (ie before I got pregnant), I never had to get up at night. I'd pee before bed and be good to go until I felt like getting up, whether that was 8 or 9 or even 11.

Guess the uterus is getting large enough to press on the bladder a little bit.

At least it's only one middle of the night trip so far. I'm sure it will get worse.

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14w,5d

Holy smokes, can we say uncontrollable mood swings?

My poor husband. I don't know how he puts up with me these days!

We went grocery shopping after work. We ate dinner in the deli at the supermarket first. By the time we were ready to shop, I was sick of being there and just wanted to get our stuff and go. I may have snapped at DH.. I don't quite recall, but I won't deny it.

Then when we got home, I wanted to help by bringing in a bag and a gallon of milk. I pulled it out of the backseat, and the bag broke and the Clorox fell on the floor of the garage.

DH says I looked down, looked at him, my bottom lip came out, and my face scrunched up. He rushed over, and I bawled on his shoulder.

After that, he brought in the groceries, and I went in and cuddled with him on the couch. That helped. Smile

I feel ok now, but geez. I don't like that I can't control my reaction to things!

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gender dream

15w,0d

I had my first gender dream last night.

I gave birth to a little boy (in my parents' bathroom, no less) and DH and I decided we were ready to share the name, and announced him as Joshua Braden. A little later, I noticed that DH had written the baby's name down on something.. but he had written it as Kalib Joshua (and in my dream, Caleb was spelled just like that- Kalib). I was ticked. I yelled at DH, and he said he liked that name better. I told him he spelled Caleb wrong. He insisted that there isn't one right way to spell Caleb, so Kalib was perfectly legit.

I told DH about it when I woke up. He thought it was pretty funny. I reminded him to ask me before changing our kid's name, and check the spelling with me first. He promised he would.
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I talked to my brother and sister-in-law a couple days ago (I called). She's about 28 weeks, and apparently their baby is a mover. She's pretty uncomfortable.

They will be in town this weekend. I might get to see them Saturday morning. I think they're bringing their diaper genie for me to have. They said they liked it but they found something else they liked better.

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