First time mom with step kids

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First time mom with step kids

Ok I'm new here and I been reading I feel like I'm in a unique situation and I need any advice.
I am a step mother of two (a nine year old boy and a six year old girl). Our family is fairly new my husband and I have only been marrried 6 months and the kids have only been living with us 6 months. I really nervous about telling the kids that I am pregnant. Point being that when I babysat my friends 18 month old, my step daughter pulled my husband to the side and asked if I liked the baby more than I liked her. My daughter's very clingly because she's never really had a mother figure before besides her grandmother.
So I guess my question is when is a good time to break the news and how can I bring us all together?

P.S My husband thinks that we should wait until the 2nd trimester.

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I am in a similar situation. My husband and I have been together for about 3 years, and only married for 4 and a half months. I've known his two kids for as long as I've known him, but we're still not as close as it would be if I had been their mom (of course). His kids (13 and 16) only live with us every other weekend. I am 4 months pregnant, and we told them pretty early (when I was about 8 weeks).

I definitely understand that it can be tough to know when to say something. I think you also need to consider that you need to feel comfortable in your own home. That's the only reason we told his kids so early. I didn't want to be 'tiptoeing' around it, you know? Maybe you and your husband should just sit down and discuss some ideas of how to talk to the kids while letting them also know their own importance and value in the family. I think it might also be a good idea to let them ask you both questions if they have any. But, I'm no expert, and I truly must admit that I still have quite a few "funny feelings" about how our families are going to blend.

Best wishes to you.


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hi there! i am in a very similar position also, my FH husband and i have his two children from his previous marriage fulltime and I am expecting MY FIRST! : ) the kids have lived with the both of us since last sept. (so just over 6 mo. too!!)

we have told the children and they are very very excited. they are a little younger than yours (6&3). aliya, who is 6, of course wants a girl and abe, our 3 year old is praying for a little brother! Smile

if you feel like chatting, please feel free to send me a PM!

take care!!