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Growing a First Generation Yank

To catch up on our story read our TTC journal at "A Saffer's Journey to a First Generation Yank"

9w2d

So we've made it to 9w2d. :woohoo:

I cannot WAIT to tell the parents next week. I just want to be able to talk to everyone about it. My friend E says she can already see the baby bump when I don't have a sweater on.

I'm looking forward to seeing Squishy when they do the NT scan. That is going to be an awesome pic.

My friend V did the "needle gender prediction test" over my belly today and she says I'm having a boy. The heart rate indicates a girl, being 177 bpm at 8w4d. Placenta placement also indicates a girl. I'm looking forward to when we do get to see the gender.

But I'm not wishing the pregnancy away. I want to enjoy it every single moment. And I can't wait to be able to share it with my mom and sister.

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9w5d

Argh! DH has made me to MAD tonight. I had a GF design some announcement cards for us to send to the families when we tell them and now, even though he knew what I was doing, he says he doesn't like them and they're "insulting" to whomever we send them to because it spells out everything. AAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

He never wants to make a big deal about anything and doesn't seem to realise that that takes away from the excitement. And then to make things worse, in the middle of our "discussion" he just turned his back on me.

I am ACTUALLY seeing red right now. This has not happened in years. And I can't go off and do a heavy gym session to deal with it. I don't know how to calm down now. And I have to try study in this frame of mind. Not. Good.

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10w3d

I'm so happy! The families all know now. No need to keep quiet to them anymore. We told FIL & MIL on Friday afternoon, it was MIL's birthday and she was super pleased. Told SIL this morning and she was literally bouncing at the news. Best of all I got to tell my family all together at the same time. It worked out GREAT! My dad was supposed to be coming home much later tonight from a hunting trip so I was sad that I was going to tell my mom and sister before him. But then my mom was late in calling me on Skype and she said that as she couldn't use my dad's computer did I want to postpone. I said no, so she asked my sister if she could go round there and Skype from their house. Turns out my dad had just got home so he went with and I got to tell them all at the same time. My mom burst into tears at the news!

Yay! Everyone (who counts) knows now!!

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10w3d

so I've been taking weekly Belly pics and I swear my belly is smaller at 10w than it was at 9. I'm sure it is just that I'm less bloated but it does make me feel strange to think that the "progress" I was seeing is reversing. I like seeing a bump, even if it is just bloat.

Good news, I'm not losing any more weight. I lost 4 lbs between 4/29 & 5/16 which concerned me quite a bit. I've since started having an Ensure shake here and there and I have also started eating meat again. For the last 3 days I've been stable at 137.5 lb. Now I have to make sure I don't put on too much too quickly because I am STARVING all the time.

Nausea seems to be easing somewhat. Still there all the time but not too bad. Friday was a bad night, felt so rotten but been pretty good since then.

Now if only I could hurry thru my exams (and pass them) then things will really be on the up-and-up.

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10w4d

I have this horrible nagging thought in my mind that the baby is dead. It seems strange, a bad sign even, that my belly isn't as big/bloated as it was last week. All my symptoms are still there but that would make sense if the Hcg levels are still high in my system.

Maybe I'm just being paranoid because we told the families yesterday.... I just can't help worry.

I can't call the doc tho because I have no other indications. I wish I had a doppler machine so that I could check on the heartbeat.

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11w1d

OH my hat! Yesterday was the worst day yet. I was so absolutely exhausted from the moment I woke up, and the nausea was a million times worse than it's been so far. This did NOT help me while writing my exam. And I forgot to take chewing gum with me so the whole time that I should've been concentrating on the exam questions I was fighting the urge to sprint to the bathroom and gag.

I am sleeping 7-8 hours a night now and yet by 12pm I am knackered again. I can't wait until my exams are over. This studying thing is killing me.

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11w6d

The last few days have been tough. I think I'm suffering from low blood sugars but I can't understand why. I'm eating regularly and fairly well I think. I'm even snacking on peanuts and raisins throughout the day. But yesterday I took the dog out for her evening walk and about 20 min into it I suddenly started shaking and my legs felt heavy and cold. Getting home was a slog.

I'm feeling all my symptoms really hard this week. The body aches are really taking strain on me which I think is exacerbating the nausea. As well as the stress from studying and having this exam hanging over my head.

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12w1d

So we had the NT scan yesterday morning. DH came with and I'm so glad he did. His expression was priceless when he saw Squishy wiggling and waving on the monitor! It's amazing what a difference 4 weeks makes, from blob to almost a person! We heard the heartbeat again and it was strong and steady. The tech didn't give us any measurements or anything but that doesn't bother me.


The picture is clearer on the actual printout

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13w5d

Oh man! Yesterday I had such muscle aches in the area of my diaphragm. It felt like I'd done about a million crunches or something. Had it since Sunday night. Then yesterday had some round ligament pains and now today having sciatica pains. Looks like this week is going to be a literal pain in the butt Smile

But like I told DH, I'm not complaining about the aches and pains in the sense that I want it to all go away or fast forward to a pain free time. I'm happy to have the aches and pains as long as they don't worry me. And these don't. I think of them as growing pains. I keep imagining Squishy having a growth spurt whenever the aches show up.

I'm loving being pregnant. It's a very interesting time. It's finally starting to feel real now that the belly is here to stay. The nausea is easing and even tho I'm still tired I'm at least not exhausted.

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14 weeks today

Wow! I can't believe I'm already 14 weeks pregnant! Only 1 more week until the blood test, another week til the results, and then we can tell EVERYONE!!! I can't wait to be able to post it on FB and make semi-knowledgeable comments on my other pg friends' walls.

This last week has been an OK one. Biggest improvement in the nausea dept. But that was replaced by aches and pains. Had a very mild headache for a couple weeks now.

DH is announcing to his office today. So excited for more people to know! And then next weekend we're starting up the supper club again so C&M will get told as well. I'm going to do some online shopping now so that I can look stylish for that. I've been feeling very frumpy lately because my hair is in that awkward growing-out and needs-a-color stage. I think I will treat myself to a neaten-up before the dinner seeing as I can't do a color.

It's kinda fun to be staggering the announcement.

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14w6d

Been a good week up until today. No nausea, getting my energy back. Then at 5 am this morning the round ligament pains started and I've been having them since (going on 8 hours now). Damn! They're sore.

And I keep nodding off at my desk. Like seriously falling asleep. I know I went to be later than usual last night but I haven't felt this exhausted since the first pregnancy Sad I just want to go home.

But on the flip side when I am awake I feel wired. I don't know if it's because I'm reducing my medication dose or if there is some other reason. I hope I can adjust easily to this new low dose. If I can then there is a chance that I could get all the way off the meds and will be able to BF Smile

Told the extended families and some more friends this week. Still no announcement on FB tho.

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15w3d

We had a dinner with 3 couple friends of ours last night. It's this supper club thing we joined about 18 months ago. It's been on hold for 6 months or so because one of the ladies was sent to Paris for work for six months and last night was the first one since she got back. It was so great to see everyone again Smile and even more amazing is the fact that E&J are also preggo!!! And J is only 2 weeks behind me. It's so cool to have a real-life birth buddy. I hope she wants to spend time with me to talk pregnancy and babies and stuff. I miss having more real-life friends. Especially ones that are more in the same phase of life as me. Our other friends here are only just getting married, or are not interested in kids yet. Makes me feel even more of an outsider.

and now it seems like there's an issue with my work visa. And I totally screwed up on that and it looks like it will lapse again before I get the new one. My boss is going to be so mad!! Especially since I'm only giving him a few days notice before I'm not allowed to work again Sad Not entirely my fault tho, I only got the notice about the issue on Thursday myself. And it expires on 7/6. I'm really worried about it this time because first they asked me to get finger-printed which hasn't happened before in the 2 other renewals I've been through, and now they want "further evidence" to support my application. And also they're doing deeper investigations regarding our resident visas. So much stress Sad I don't know how good our chances are that we will get our visa's renewed in October. And then what do I do? I will be too big to fly Sad

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15w5d

So yesterday I had my monthly check up with the doc and everything looks good. Heard the heartbeat through his horribly crackly doppler machine. I did a short recording so I can listen to it every day now Smile Then he started to do another u/s before the nurse told him my insurance wont cover it so I got to see Squishy for a second. Saw the spine clearly and Squishy was almost standing up right and making these spastic little movements. He asked me if I wanted to find out the gender quickly but I told him not with out DH so we're only going to find out at the 20 week scan. He didn't draw blood for the Quad Test because according to his EDD (12/23) I was only 15 weeks yesterday and he didn't want to risk the test being invalid so I'm going tomorrow morning just for the blood.

I'm feeling good this last week. Nausea is totally gone and my energy is coming back steadily. Unfortunately I'm battling with sinusitus so I've had a constant headache for the last few weeks. Belly popped even more over night on Monday. I'm really looking preggy now and it feels so good Smile

Oh yes, and I put on 7 lbs over the last month Smile :)

So looking forward to our vacation and the wedding this weekend.

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Oh yes! I got the official notice about my work visa and it turns out they never received the first set of documents I mailed off when I submitted the application online. So it's not anything out of the ordinary that is holding it up; just darn annoying. So I sent off a new set today and hopefully this will fix everything.

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Aaaaaand it seems like the emotional rollercoaster has started for me Blum 3

So last night DH & I were at our counselling session and we got into an argument about my studying methods/motivation (or lack thereof) and I started bawling. I didn't think anything of it then because I honestly felt hurt by some things he said.

Then this afternoon I made a little girl cry and that made me cry! I was taking Furbaby out for her afternoon walk and as we were leaving the elevator after it opened at the lobby this little girl came tearing into it on her scooter before we had a change to get out. She was about to run over/into Cassie so I half-shouted "Watch It!" and then she burst into tears.

And then when I got home I burst into tears. And now my face is all blotchy.

DH thinks this is hilarious.

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17w6d

I'm having a down day today. My senior manager said I'm not allowed to "help out" at work while my work visa is pending so now I am unemployed until further notice. Now I'm feeling very spare at home. DH says I should start studying but there's the other problem.

I don't know if I want to carry on. It seems stupid to quit now, I only have 4 subjects left to pass. The problem is that I have failed them once already. And the thought of studying another 6 months to write in October when I will be 6-7 months preggo just does nothing as a motivation. But if I think about it from the other side: the side where I have been working at this since Aug 2006 and have got this far it seems really idiotic to throw in the towel now. And I hate to think that DH will think of me as a quitter and will resent me for having less ambition than he thinks I should.

My ambition is different to his, not less. My ambition is to be a great mom and wife. I don't necessarily want a fancy job that has long hours and huge stress even if it pays well. I know we won't be able to afford the lifestyle we have now, or live in the same area or such a fancy apt building but I can deal with that. He can't. And yet he's putting all this pressure on me to get my degree and get a higher paying job. I don't like that pressure because I feel like I have huge responsibilities as it is because of his condition. I don't want to add more, over and above those that come with the baby.

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18 weeks

It's not even 9am yet and I feel so depressed about the coming weeks. Nothing to do with the pregnancy - that is still amazing. It's this whole work visa situation. I realised yesterday that I didn't include a set of passport photos in the document package I sent because I'd already sent them in the original package. But seeing as they did not get the original package I'm assuming they didn't get my photos either. Now I'm stressing that the lack of photos will destroy my chance of getting a renewal now. And then we will have to get the lawyers involved and pay $500 just for them to do what I should have been able to do myself. AND it will then be an additional 60-90 days before I get my work visa, if I get it at all. And by that stage I will be near to EDD and might as well not work.

Life Sucks right now.

And as if that's not enough I got forced into re-registering last night because I found out that the registration period closes on 7/19 and DH guilt-tripped me into trying again.

And I woke up feeling horribly nauseous because I didn't eat properly yesterday

I'm going to climb into bed again and hopefully the day will look better when I wake up (barring the fact that the apt looks like it's been ransacked)

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I'm feeling really crappy today. Not pregnancy related. All stress at home.

DH & I had a huge fight last night and even though he apologised this morning for fighting last night he hasn't specifically apologised for all the mean things he said and so I feel horrible today. "Kak" (pronouced "kuck") is the South African word for it.

I'm feeling like he's blaming me for my work visa being delayed and expiring. And he definitely blames me for failing my exams. He totally believes that I didn't work hard enough at them. He doesn't understand how hard it is for me to work full time AND study AND look after the dog and him AND try and keep the apartment in a liveable (if not respectable) state. He seems to expect me to be able to devote every free second to studying without giving my brain a break. And that was all BEFORE I got pregnant. Now I have that to contend with too.

So him telling me that he is disappointed in me all the time is not helping me keep motivated to study and it is not helping my self-esteem at all. I don't even know why I am putting myself thru it all any more, other than to try and avoid him having a lower opinion of me.

Ek is so blerrie gatvol van die hele ding ek wil net SKREE!!!

All I want to do now is sleep. That is my very unproductive stress coping mechanism. Which is obviously not going to increase his opinion of me when I am at home all day and nothing gets done in the house.

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18w3d

I think I felt Squishy moving on Thursday night Yahoo

It was 2 little kick-type movements in the same place, just to the left of my belly button. My normal digestive "activity" usually moves from side to side. I'm not 100% sure because I think Squishy shouldn't be that high in my belly yet but it's a nice thought Biggrin

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18w4d

So I'm a little more sure that I'm feeling Squishy move. I felt similar sensations the last couple nights although much softer than on Thursday. I tried shining a light onto my belly to see if that would incite more movement but I think the beam was too narrow and Squishy is still too small because I didn't feel anything.

I had such trouble waking up this morning! I just can't seem to get my light off before 12.30am. And then when I did eventually haul myself out of bed I was so nauseous. Urgh. I don't want that to start again. I might have overdone it a little yesterday with all the paperwork filing. Weird how paperwork filling is worse on my body than cleaning out the pantry cupboard was.

I think the Doc's EDD of 12/23 is more accurate than my EDD by LMP of 12/19 because the belly seems to grow over night on a Sunday. I am definitely bigger this morning than I have been any other morning and I'm usually pretty small first thing in the morning.

Oh, and I have sciatic pain today.

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18w6d

I am so exhausted the last 2 days. Yesterday I slept 7-8 hours during the day plus the 6 hours the night before plus the 7 hours last night, now today I slept another 4 hours.

I have never been so exhausted without actually feeling like I have flu and outside of the exhaustion and the nerve pain I feel fine.

Part of me wonders if it is study avoidance but my study avoidance has never been this intense. I normally feel like a total zombie after sleeping so much but I still feel like I could sleep more. That's why I don't think it is entirely study avoidance. I just hope DH understands this, at least a little.

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So the exhaustion seems to have abated slightly although I still don't have the energy I had on Monday. Maybe it has to do with the lowered dose of my meds? I'm down to 75mg now!! 3 more months and I'll be off it entirely Smile then I have the option to BF when Squishy arrives.

I have started doing prenatal yoga at home. I hope it helps keep my moods balanced as well as stretches out this damn pinched nerve. It has not gone away this whole week.

I'm also feeling rather full-up all the time. Like I have eaten too much and have a full bladder at the same time. Squishy can't be big enough to be squashing all my organs already, can he/she?

Oh! I can't wait to find out pink or blue!!! Tomorrow is my monthly check up so I will get to hear the heartbeat again and they will also tell me the date of my anatomy u/s. I really can't wait!!!!

Urgh, but I have to start studying. Still no word on my work visa and I wasted this whole last week. This coming week needs to be more productive in the studying department. But I feel like I've lost that spark I had at the beginning of the week. What if my actual studying technique is still not adequate?? I just don't know how to properly get the info into my head Sad

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20w1d
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HALF WAY!!!

I think it's going to be a very strange day... dog woke me up before my alarm but I felt more awake than I have in the last 2 weeks. Then I had sciatic pain and round ligament pain from the moment I stood up. Got home from the dog park and made DH toast and coffee (which I never do) as well as some breakfast for myself. Weird. But great to have so much energy, even if it is only going to be short-lived.

Belly is growing quite rapidly. Some days I swear I can feel it growing. Today it just feels like it's in the way of everything. Looking forward tot he Big Anatomy Ultrasound on Wednesday. I just hope Squishy cooperates and shows us the goods.

The last couple weeks have been hard on me. I think I'm battling a little bit of depression over my lack of work visa. I have nothing to keep my mind properly occupied so I just keep worrying about the work visa, and the resident visa, and how it all affects us. I just wish there was some way to get an update...

And I've been rather homesick for SA lately. Been having flash-cravings for things you can only get there. And been thinking about whether or not to have a baby shower.

I wish I could channel all this energy I've put into worrying into studying instead. I am still struggling greatly with the lack of motivation.

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20w3d

Today was a little better in the belly department. At least I didn't feel like a balloon blown up to it's limit! But I still can't imagine how I'm going to get thru the next 20 weeks when I don't have any space left in my body already. This belly better start sticking out forwards or I'm going to be in trouble!!

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So today we had the big Anatomy Ultrasound. W-O-W! It was amazing all the stuff they can see.

The first thing we saw on the screen was Squishy opening and closing her mouth like she was gabbing away. Yes. I said SHE!! We're having a baby girl. I'm so excited by the news, but I don't think any more excited than I would be if she'd been a boy. I'm just thrilled that all her measurements are perfect. She's weighing in at about 15oz right now which is a little bigger than 20 weeks. She gave the docs great pics of her brain and spine and there is absolutely nothing wrong! Her heartbeat is still strong and good. She was not in the mood to be photographed tho and kept her hands in front of her face. And she almost didn't show us the goods because she had her legs crossed.

I'm changing the official EDD to 12/23 now because the ultrasound Dr concurred with my OB. So now today is 20w2d

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22w1d

So things have been pretty uneventful these last couple weeks. Squishy is growing nicely but I'm a little worried because I'm still not putting on any weight. Doc is not going to be happy with me when I see him next week, but at least I don't think I'm losing anything. I've started upping the protein content of my meals so we'll just have to wait and see. It's also helping with more sustained energy which I really really need seeing as I have only 8 weeks left before my first exam.

I just wish I could stop worrying about the visas. It always pops into my head and it always distracts me.

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22w6d

Things have been going much better this last week. My energy levels are better and more lasting now so I think the protein-filled breakfasts are doing their job. I did a decent amount of studying although I'm not sure if I can actually remember anything but we'll just keep working on that. I haven't had any round ligament pains or sciatic nerve pains (touch wood).

On Friday night while we were out at dinner I felt her kick!! Like a real kick, I swear if I'd been looking at the belly I would've seen it move. DH still hasn't felt her move yet but I don't think it will be much longer before he does (providing he is patient enough to keep his hand on the belly for more than 2 min)

So we had a professional family / bump photoshoot today...

It was a bigger mission to get there than I thought it would be, especially since we had to take extra outfits and the dog with. We had to take 1 subway and 2 regional trains (with only 5 min between each transfer) to get there which took about 90 min, but it was loads of fun in the end and I think the photographer got some great shots but now I'm all disappointed because I just looked at their price list for prints.

They're out of their freaking minds!!!

The only reason I booked with them is because I went to the New York Baby Show back in May and they had a special offer of $50 for the session (supposedly valued at $500) which includes 1 framed print. Now I'm feeling all scammed about the whole thing because the "framed print" is only a 8 x 10 size and also they want to charge $1000 (!!!!!!) to put only 10 of the images on a flash drive. Are these people nuts??

And to top it all off we will have to travel the 90 min (1 subway & 2 trains) there and then back again to choose the picture/s.

DH thinks we could find it for more reasonable costs nearer home but I think he's delusional. The photography session alone will be $250+ and then the prints/frames will be over and above that. At this stage I'm leaning towards cancelling the follow up viewing session and writing off the $50 as experience costs.

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23w1d (8/27/13)

DH felt Squishy kick at 8:45am this morning!!!

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23w3d

The belly feels so large right now.

It was so cool! Last night DH & I watched as Squishy made my belly bulge out to one side.

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23w4d

I feel so bruised today. I totally overdid it on the housework yesterday. And I think just being up late with our friends and talking and laughing has also taken a toll on me.

I might even be having some Braxton Hicks, it feels tight really low down.

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24 weeks

6 months

120 days to go

Wow! Kinda scary when I think about it like that. Especially since it still feels s little unreal when I see myself with a baby belly reflected in the mirror, or a window, or just when I look down.

It has been such an amazing experience so far. And I absolutely love the fact that she is so active nearly every day now.

Feeling her move around inside my belly is more wonderful than I could ever have imagined. And seeing DH's face when he felt her kick was so heart warming, but I often wish he could feel it like I do.

I can't wait to see him when he meets her in person.

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24w2d

Yesterday was my 31st birthday. It was a lovely relaxing day, nothing special planned. DH spoiled me with beautiful silver earrings, the full set of digital versions of the Harry Potter books and a gorgeous bunch of roses. I spoiled myself with chocolate Smile Squishy spent the day bouncing around in my belly and I got it on video:
[video=youtube;ObMIorlek9A]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObMIorlek9A[/video]

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25w6d

99 days to EDD. Down to the double digits! WOW!

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26w4d

Had a bit of a rough week. Huge fight with DH. Some scary pains on the weekend. Struggling with the fact that Squishy sits so low down. Had a day last week when Squishy kicked and I felt it way down "there", not in the front or in the belly but "down there" between my legs. Made me a little worried about preterm labour....But doc checked me out on Wednesday and everything is fine. Cervix is long, closed and "no funnelling" (quote from the doc even though I don't understand the significance). No risk for preterm labour just yet, but doc wants to see me in 2 weeks instead of the usual 4. Also waiting on the results of my 1-hr glucose test. And now today i went for my quarterly skin melanoma check and the doc decided to remove another mole, so now I'm waiting on those results too.

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27w4d

Earlier this week I started wondering how to tell the difference between braxton hicks contractions and whole body movement by the baby because my belly gets super hard really often. I started paying closer attention to whether it made only one section harder, how long it lasted, stuff like that. I noticed a distinct increase in pressure to a peak and then it would subside, and this would happen over about a minute which to me seemed like too long to be body movement.

Conclusion: braxton hicks. Complication: it happened OFTEN...

So I kept an eye on it the whole of wednesday, noting the frequency and duration: 5 times in 1 hour in the morning, 16 times in 90min in the evening! It seemed to let up in the late evening and i didnt notice anything more the next morning (yesterday). Then i started noticing contractions around 4.30pm yesterday and they did not let up the whole time I was out walking the dog so around 5.45pm I called my OB and he sent me off to the hospital. I unfortunately messed up my DH's night because we were supposed to go to a concert last night to see his favourite rock guitarist perform but we got stuck in the L&D ward at the hospital for 6 hours.

They hooked me up to some monitors and could see that the contractions were very regular and fairly significant (albeit painless). The whole time I was hooked up the contractions never let up. In fact they didn't stop until I fell asleep around 3am.

Squishy did not like the things strapped to my belly. She tried to kick them off often!

Around 9pm the resident doc came in with an attending to say that although there was no dilation or cervix softening and that all the tests they did say I probably won't go into active labor in at least the next 2 weeks they wanted to keep me for observation for a few more hours just because the contractions were so regular. I sent DH home to take the dog out and to (try) get some rest as he had a big meeting this morning.

Around 11.30pm the resident doc came in to say that there was no change in my cervix or the contractions and so they needed to consult with my OB to find out if he wanted to book me in for steroid treatment for her lungs in case of preterm delivery. That worried me but thankfully my doc decided it wasn't necessary right at that time. So they sent me home around midnight.

The contractions continued and kept me awake most of the night.

I felt them start up again around 7.30am as I was taking the dog to the park for her morning romp. They're not as intense as they were yesterday afternoon or last night, and not as often, but yesterday they only started up in the late afternoon. I'm off to see the OB for a check up and he will give me a better idea of what we're facing.

Based on all of this it turns out that what I thought was pressure from the baby sitting so low down when I walk has actually been contractions the whole time. So I've been having them since about 19 weeks, but yesterday was the most noticeable.

DH is a bit freaked out at the prospect of a preemie.....

Doc checked me out again this afternoon and says everything is still fine. My cervix is still long and closed so he's only wants to see me in 2 weeks.

He did an ultrasound and did some measurements on the baby: she's weighing around 3 lb 4 oz and is measuring around 29/30 weeks. But all in all she is growing nicely.

Still having them regularly but no increase in intensity so I'm not worried. Doc said I should only worry if they get sore, or if they move into my back.

Amazingly this whole time I have never thought that she was trying come come early. It's always felt like it was only my belly giving me issues. To me she seems happy to be there and bounce around her little kingdom.

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On a better note: got the results of my mole biopsy and although there were abnormal cells present they got a nice clean margin in this excision and they don't have to cut more out. Dermatologist only wants to see me in 6 months.

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Had a scare this morning when I took my FurBaby to the dog park: I was sitting on the bench to throw her ball for her instead of having to bend down all the time and before I realised what was happening her ball had bounced through the fence and she had gone after it. Normally she will wait for me to go fetch it for her but I think she knows that I'm not so fast on my feet any more and that I'm struggling to do things nowadays because she just slipped through a gap by the closed inner gate and out under the outer gate right into the street. She was in the middle of the street within 15 secs of the ball bouncing over the fence. All I can say is THANKFULLY it is a very quiet street, and THANKFULLY all she wanted was her ball, not to run away. As soon as she had retrieved her ball she came trotting back to the park, proud as punch.

Unfortunately the shock of all this gave me some belly cramps so I lay down for a couple hours. It didn't turn into full-on contractions but it was rather sore. Squishy was also very agitated from the stress.

On a lighter note, I think I felt her having hiccups last week Dirol

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28w2d

Today has been a tough day. Actually been a tough week so far. I'm still not feeling great since ending up in the hospital. And I can't stop wondering if this is all means that she's coming early. And if so, when? Is it going to be weeks of this? Is it going to be next week? Is there any way to tell?

Every symptom I feel gets me wondering all over again.

The contractions are still going. Tonight I've had 8 in one hour so far since I started counting. But I know I've been having them all day on and off, just as I have been all along. Now I've also had mild diarrhea for 2 days. If I still have it tomorrow I'll have to call the doc. Belly has been achy as well, feels a little bruised.

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28w4d

Best day this week, so far! Nausea is down and the contractions are minimal. Squishy seems to be sitting higher than usual which helps a lot, except for an increase in reflux and burping Wink But I'll take that for a change over the constant pressure on my bladder.

I can't wait for my doc appt on Wednesday, I'm really hoping it will ease my mind re the chances of early labour.

I sent out the invites to our baby shower last night, and sent the registry link to the families a few days before that. Soon we will be able to start buying stuff once we have a handle on what we still need. The baby shower is set of 4 weeks time but could change if most peole can't make it. It's after my exam so I will have to work extra hard at focusing on studying.

I have not been studying hard enough, I know it. But I still find it extremely difficult to focus. I at least passed most of my assignments. I missed the deadline on one Sad

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28w6d

I'm struggling with backache, sore ribs, nausea and aching hips, on top of the still-happening contractions. At least the contractions are less regular albeit a bit more intense.

Got our first baby gift yesterday Smile

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29 weeks

So I ended up in the hospital again this morning. Last night I had quite painful period-like pains the whole night which kept me awake and so I called the doc this morning.

Only 3 hours there this time. Contractions are still happening, even tho I thought they were easing. They were still pretty regular. The new pains seemed to ease after I got there tho, and then came back again kind-of when I got home.

But still no effacing or dilating, ffn test was negative and no trace of amniotic fluid so there wasn't anything they could do.

I guess this is just how it going to be until she's fully baked. It is very uncomfortable to move now, and I'm struggling to find a comfortable sleeping position in bed. I might have to sleep on the couch for the next few weeks. It seems to be the only place that doesn't give me pains in my hips, or make her kick and punch the crap out of my insides.

Seeing the doc on Wednesday. And then its probably "you're good for 2 weeks" again.

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Had a check up with the doc on Wednesday. Baby's heartbeat is still strong and steady and easy to find. He did another belly & internal u/s. Squishy is still head down so we don't have to worry about a breach baby at this stage. she doesn't seem to change that position much but I did feel her "head spin" on my bladder the other day OUCH!! He measured her head & abdomen again and she is measuring 31/32 weeks so still bigger than usual. Doc says that doesn't necessarily mean she will come early but I think she will be at least 1 week before EDD.

And then I will never hear the end of it from my dad because he's claiming she's going to arrive on 12/16 (my grandfather's birthday) and he's still gloating because he "knew" she was a girl from the start...

When the doc did the internal u/s he commented that there was fluid in my cervix but that it was mostly closed.... so I'm not sure of the significance of the fluid. Other than that he said everything is still looking fine and that other than the contractions there is no indication of labor in the next 2 weeks.

So we're doing appts every 2 weeks now.

I have noticed that the contractions get worse if i rub the belly too much, or if she is moving too much, or if I'm walking too quickly.

We went to our first Child Birth Education class on Wednesday as well. It was really informative and exciting. I think DH really enjoyed it because our teacher was backing all her claims up with scientific studies and the websites where we could get more info. Totally up his alley Smile I'm really looking forward to the next one.

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I had to relinquish the dog park duty to DH after this morning Sad I can't do so much bending down anymore because it triggers the contractions and makes them sorer. I'm sad to have to stop taking FurBaby because that's like "our" time and I'm going to miss out on my social mornings.... But I knew it was going to happen some time.

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30w6d

Was chatting to my sister on video Skype yesterday when Squishy gave a huge starfish stretch and it hurt like HELL!! I felt it on the left and right of my ribs, the left and right of my hips and straight down on my bladder. I have never felt anything like it before!

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Was chatting to my sister on video Skype yesterday when Squishy gave a huge starfish stretch and it hurt like HELL!! I felt it on the left and right of my ribs, the left and right of my hips and straight down on my bladder. I have never felt anything like it before!

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31 weeks

9 weeks left - down to single digits!!

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32 weeks - 8 MONTHS!!

I almost can't believe it. It means technically I have only 5 weeks left before Squishy is "allowed" to arrive!!

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32w2d

Today has been sucky. Last night got into a stupid fight with DH, which ironically started because I was trying to control my temper. Went to bed not happy so I woke up depressed. Got into another argument with DH this morning before he went off to work. Cried for an hour and eventually fell back to sleep.

On the better side of the day: I put the crib together and installed the new mattress. And now every time I go into the bedroom it makes the whole situation more real....

Tonight is our last Birth Edu Class. Had an assignment to do but I just couldn't finish it. All the items I thought of seemed convenient or not special enough. I only found something that represents DH's energy & role in the birthing process. Oh well. It's supposed to be difficult and make you think properly.

I totally overdid it today with the building of the crib. The stress of last night's argument and the resultant aftermath has not helped either. Contractions are pretty noticeable today, backache too.

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32w3d

Oh......my.......soul!!!

Tonight has been the most physically taxing night so far! Squishy has punched me 4 times in the hip, hard enough to make me curse; she has kicked my ribs at least twice; and my back and thighs ache like I've done weightlifting.

I am not a happy camper.

Oh yes... And the most comfortable position to sleep in is on my back but that means I can't breathe.

I'm seriously starting to wonder if I can make it another 8 weeks! Just make your grand entrance already!

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