Asha - I know, I hope the doctor tells us! But I've heard that they're pretty reluctant to make a guess this early. Depending on who we get though, I might just ask. DH says we should just wait, but I am so impatient! I know what they say is not 100% accurate, but it would be nice to see what they think at this point. I will be 12 weeks and 5 days when we go in.
So, I was doing some research online and found this article that said at 13 weeks they can guesstimate with about 80% accuracy the sex of the baby. It's just totally dependant on the doctor if they want to do that or not. I'm thinking we'll probably get a doctor who does not want to make a guess. DH said that technicians would be more likely to guess, since the doctors have more to lose (in the way of credibility, someone suing, etc.). He's probably right. I checked, and we're definitely going to have a doctor, not a technician. Oh well, I can wait another 7 weeks after the NT scan to find out! (I think )
They moved my appointment back 2 hours on Monday. Some lady needed to come in for some semi-urgent procedure so I gave up my spot. It's not like ours is an emergency. Maybe I can convince DH to take me to a nice restaurant for lunch since we'll have two extra hours to kill.
My neighbor, who's a Bradley instructor, brought me all these books to read about childbirth. She's so nice! We're going to be taking her class in August. She does them right out of her home, so all we have to do is go across the street. So far I haven't told anyone I want to do this naturally. I don't want to deal with all the "Are you crazy? You don't know what you're in for!" talks that BTDT moms sometimes think they're obligated to give. So I'm just smiling and nodding when someone mentions epidurals. Actually, until about two weeks ago, I did expect to do this with epidurals and all the drugs possible. But then I really thought about it, and realized that I don't even take Tylenol because I don't want that in my body when the baby's in there too. So I really started to think about what I want out of my birthing experience, and that's when I read about husband-coached childbirth.
Oh I hope you get the coolest, easy-going Dr. who will tell you his guesstimate!!!
As far as labor goes- I hope you can do it! I heard the Bradley class is great and helps a lot. Did you check out birthing naturally board? Those ladies seem awsome ( I lurk there).
This has been weighing on my mind lately. I debated posting about it here for fear that someone might not understand what I'm trying to say, but then I figured, ah well. I still want to get it off my chest.
I'm a little worried about my attachment to this baby. I mean, I care immensely about this baby and I only want good things for it. But I'm not so sure I have a lot of love for it yet. I read all these things about maternal love, and I know I don't feel anywhere near that for this baby. Is that normal at this stage? I guess whenever I pictured myself pregnant, I always imagined being madly in love with the baby right from the start. And now that it hasn't happened that way, I'm a little concerned. What do you ladies think?
Ah, feels good to get that out there. Anyway, time to go get ready for my sub job! Be back later!
when I was pregnant with joshua I didnt feel that instant love.. I actually was kinda weirded out at times that I was growing a human being inside of me... but I was attatched to him and loved all the kicks and stuff becuase I knew he was growing.... so I think it is normal to feel that.. I felt that pretty much up until the 3oth week or so when I had me last ultrasound and he actually looked like a tiny baby,.... dont feel bad... I love my son more then anything right now... so I think its normal.
I felt similar with the beginning of each pregnancy. I often doubted if I really was pregnant. Some of the love comes when you feel the first movements, some more comes when you find out the sex and you can name him/her... but the overwhelming LOVE and amazement comes at birth!!! Then steadily the love grows as you bond with the baby. It will happen! It is still early and right now the baby is still a "concept". It is "technically" there inside you. You need some daily kicks of reassurance from him/her to start the "love juices" flowing!
Thank you, ladies. That makes me feel better. I definitely don't feel that there is a baby in there yet. I know it logically, and all my symptoms make me believe it, but I don't know it with my heart yet, I guess. Can't wait to feel those first flutters!!