I'm ecstatic. I found out last night that I'm 4 weeks pregnant. Our baby is due 9/26/03. We are both really excited.
This is our first baby "together". We both have children from previous relationships. I have a DS, age 6. He has a DD & DS, ages 8 & 10.
This is really great. We've been TTC since May 30, 2002. We had a few rough months. We almost stopped TTC twice. But we relaxed and gave it to God and now our precious baby is on the way. What a blessing.
Well, until later.
We told our families this weekend. They are all very excited. I even got a good response from my mom. I was concerned about her. The kids are really happy also.
DH really has started treating me special. He talks about the baby as if its here already.
Everyone has been referring to it as a girl. I hope it is. If its a boy, I'd be just as happy though. I'm just so excited to finally be at this point.
Here are some names:
Summer Christine Milton
Allen Duywan Milton
The girl's name is pretty set but the boy's name is likely to change.
There is one unhappy person. DH's EX. I knew she would be. DH's daughter told her as soon as they arrived home yesterday evening. She is really a pain in the ***.
Well, I can't be concerned with negativity. I have to stay positive, happy, and healthy for our baby!
I'm starting to feel pregnant. I had a hard time putting my jeans on this morning. I'm gonna have to get some bigger pants. I don't think maternity clothes will be necessary until the second trimester but at this rate I might be wrong. I gained 5 pounds over the last couple weeks. I weighed myself around the first of the year and I was 135. Now, I'm 140.
I'll be 5wks tomorrow. I go to the doctor tomorrow too. I can't wait. I'll update after my appt.
I went to the doctor today. I only saw the nurse. She confirmed my pregnancy. She set my due date at 9/27/03. They also took blood. I have to go back on Monday 1/27/03. I won't see the doctor then either. I'll get the results of my blood work and watch some prenatal videos. I'll finally see the doctor on my next visit.
Well that's it for now.
I got the results of my blood work today. Everything is fine. I have to schedule my first OB appt. I'll try to do it today for sometime next week. I'm glad that i'm in "perfect" health going forward.
DH dreamed of twins. He said that I needed to go back and forth to the doctor pretty often. Honestly, I'm not hoping for twins. He said that he didn't want to scare me but the dream is recurring. We will know pretty soon if its twins.
I'm gaining weight. I already need to get a few maternity outfits. That is crazy to me. This pregnancy is definitely different from my last. I didn't start showing until 5 months with DS. It looks like I'll be showing around 2-3 months with this baby.
5 weeks 6 days
The m/s is beginning. I feel terrible. I started throwing up this morning but not much. I've been nauseous ever since. I forced myself to eat and take my vitamins.
Last night I felt real bad too. I have this headache that won't go away. Last night I also had the sniffles so that didn't help!
Well hopefully this will be over soon. DH is kinda worried. I told him that it'll be over in a couple of weeks (hopefully).
6 weeks 1 day
Yep!! M/S is definitely here for me. Every morning I'm sick until about 11am. Last night I was pretty nauseous too. I got up about 11:45 and ate and I felt better. I guess it has something to do with keeping my stomach somewhat full all the time. I'm trying to stay balanced but its not easy to eat when you feel sick. I want to make sure the baby is getting enough nourishment. I read that embryos at this stage don't need much nourishment but I know that its still important for it to get vitamins it needs for healthy development.
Well, that's about it for now. I'll write back soon.
7 1/2 weeks
I'm getting excited about showing. I'm just bigger all over now. Especially my breast, butt, and thighs. DH loves it. He has been a horny little devil. He says its because it feels different now that I'm pg. I told him he has 7 months to enjoy it! I'm a pretty slim person normally so DH likes seeing me bigger. How big? I don't know but I have the feeling he'll like every stage of development. That makes me feel good. I feel sexy.
DH is pretty scared. We had a long talk yesterday. Although he has two children he didn't experience the pregnancies. They had a disfunctional marriage from the very start. He says that sometimes he has to pinch himself to make sure this is real. At first I was upset with him because we "tried" for 7 months (we didn't try that hard just no BC). I felt that he should have resolved any anxiety then but after talking to him we have a better understanding. I actually think he's having a sympathetic pregnancy. He's moody and eating all kind of candy. He is really funny. He said that I need to understand that he's going through emotinal changes just as I am going through hormonal changes. I have to remember not to put all the emphasis on me. We are in this together.
8 weeks 1 day
This morning I had my first OB appt. Dh went too. He said it was the best Valentine's gift that we could share.
Everything looks great. After the internal exam the doctor remarked that this should be a good pregnancy.
It was my first time meeting him and I was real nervous. I'm uncomfortable with men doing pap smears. He was real nice though and the pap only took about a minute.
He scheduled me for an Ultrasound next week. I'm real excited to see the baby. He didn't try to hear the heartbeat. He said that we should be able to hear it at my next visit.
Oh, I didn't gain any weight. In fact I lost a pound. That shocked me because I can't fit my clothes or bras anymore. I guess my body is changing shape but I haven't started putting on the weight yet. I'll be excited to see my weight gain next month.
We are so excited. Things are beginning to feel so real. I also started telling my co-workers today.
9 weeks 2 days
We had our first ultrasound yesterday. It went great! The baby is healthy and it was also a lot of fun to watch DH as he became fascinated by what he saw. It dated the baby at 9 weeks 1 day. The due date is still the same.
I've been so sick lately. I've had the flu along with a healthy dose of morning sickness. Its been rough but I feel better today. I can't wait to get through the rest of this trimester!
I actually feel good today. This is the best I've felt in a couple of weeks. I had some vommitting Sunday but I've been feeling better. This morning I had a little more energy and I just didn't feel yucky. That's good. Hopefully I'll cruise into my second trimester. DH was really happy last night and this morning. He said he hadn't seen me smile in a long time. I told him that I knew it would get better. Hopefully the worst of the first trimester is over for me.
11 weeks 2 days
I'm doing good but very very tired. I've had long days at work and school. I am so drained! I wish I had a vacation now!
Well, I'm just checking in. Nothing much to report.
12 weeks 5 days
My tummy is sticking out there a bit now. I put on a some lingerie yesterday and my tummy totally stole the show. DH said I was sexy and pregnant. He has been so horny lately. His sex drive had dropped off after the ultrasound. He is scared because the baby is so low. DH is well endowed and he's afraid of hurting me or the baby. Since yesterday though we've had sex 3 times. He stills asked if the baby was o.k. and if he hurt my stomach. I assured him that I was fine. We better enjoy all these fun positions now .
I'm looking forward to my second trimester. Its about 3 weeks away. DH was also concerned about miscarriage. He doesn't like talking about any of this. I just pulled it out of him one night. I told him that the risk drops off considerably in a couple of weeks.
14 weeks 1 day
I can feel the baby moving. Its starts around 3pm. At first I thought it was gas. Its funny though because the movement seems to cause gas. It is quite distinct though. Sometimes I poke my tummy with the hopes of making him/her move. I can't wait to find out what it is.
DH is funny! He says that we aren't done. He says that he wants a large family. I don't really want a big family. I feel that its big now. I'll have 2 children and 2 step-children. He also said that I couldn't tie my tubes without his consent. I guess that's true. I wouldn't do that anyway though.
I got some Palmers Coco Butter for stretch marks. I hope it helps. It feels great. With DS I used the coca butter lotion. I think it helped. I have very few stretch marks from that pregnancy. I know I'll be bigger this time around because my breast are already bigger than they ever got with DS. I'm starting to show too. With DS I didn't show until about 5 months. I'm a month and a half ahead.
Also, DH wants to keep my breast. Yesterday he said that we have to figure out how to keep them. I told him that its a real possibility that every bit of them will go. I hope not. I like them too .
I got my tax return today and I put $3,150 into a 3 month certificate. I'll be unemployed for a period of 4 months(at least). My internship ends at the end of July. I don't want to go back to work until the beginning of November. I will start job hunting when the baby is born. Hopefully it won't take too long to find a job. With the war and the economy in bad shape, I don't know. I plan to put away another $1,850. It will be tough but I will have to try. DH is less "worried" about our circumstances. Well I'm not "worried" per say. I just want us to be comfortable and stable around that time. It should be a happy time and I don't want to worry about paying the rent!
I'm finally in my second trimester. Well, according to some authors it started at the end of 12 weeks others say end of 14. Well I'm past both points and the second trimester is here. I've been feeling pretty good except for being very exhausted. I'm glad that the risk of miscarriage has dropped dramatically. I never worried about miscarriage before until I joined the September board. A number of women lost their babies in the first trimester. That really began to scare me. Thankfully we have been blessed. The next crucial point is 28 weeks (7 months). The fetus is a viable baby at that point. I think it happens a little sooner like 26 weeks. I will just try to stay as healthy as possible. the only thing I can control is eating and exercising. I try to make sure most of my daily meals are "good" for me and the baby. It gets hard sometimes because I'm always on the go. As for exercise, I only plan to start a walking routine when I go off work. I may add swimming to it.
Well I'll be 4 months next week. I'm very excited. I'm starting to show.
15 weeks 2 days
I hope Dh gets over his "fear" of sex soon!! Yesterday we made love. Only the second time in a week. Well anyway I couldn't really get into it because he kept being extra careful and asking me if my stomach hurt. It was hard to enjoy it while he feared hurting me. It was finally good in the end. What am I going to do? I don't want to have lousy sex until the baby is born.
I've talked to him about this. I explained that every thing is o.k. Now that my tummy is getting big he's getting worse!
*** 4 MONTHS ***
I'm 16 weeks today and I'm so excited. I'm starting to show now. I'll really be showing by 5 months. I guess I feel o.k. Just tired all the time.
DH and I aren't having sex much. I wish we were doing it more often. I hope he gets over his anxiety. If not, I understand but that doesn't help me being horny .
Things are pretty good. I can't wait to go to the doctor to check on the baby. I'm sure its o.k. but I want to hear its heartbeat again. I also can't wait for my next ultrasound. If baby cooperates we will be able to determine its sex. I can't wait!
WE DID IT!!
Yes, we had sex this morning. It was nice too. He wasn't all careful like last time. We both really enjoyed it. Its only been a week and a half but I'm not used to going that long. We usually do it 3 to 5 times per week. DH is just so concerned about the baby. He's afraid of hurting my stomach too. It seems like he may be getting more comfortable with sex though. Which is good. We have 5 more months to go .
Another week has gone by!! DH bought us a new bedroom set and new TV. It came yesterday and it is so nice. It took us all evening to assemble it but it was worth it. Its a canopy bed with a bed bench, two night tables, and a vanity. I'm so happy. We're going to buy two chest dressers. One for him and one for me and the baby. I wanted to buy the baby his/her owns but none of the baby dressers we saw match our bedroom set. So I'll have to share with baby. I can't wait to find out its sex. A lady a work is having a girl. She had an amnio. I want to know whether I'm carrying a boy or girl so bad. I hope its a girl. It doesn't matter though. I'm already in love with it. I love when it moves around in my tummy. DH is so funny he gets scared when I put his hand on it. I'm pretty slim sometimes when I lay in bed I can feel the baby move to one side and I put DH's hand there. Then the baby moves. At first I wasn't sure if it was the baby but it is. He's so funny he says that I'm disturbing the baby and to leave it alone. This morning my dad came by and it really seemed like the baby responded to his voice. He was talking loud and the baby was turning flips. I was really amazed. I'm pretty tired but I'm grateful everyday. I was receiving cash aid and food stamps but they cut me off. They say that I make too much money now. That's fine but I'm worried about the Medi-cal. They are changing it and I hope my doctor will take it. I'm not comfortable changing doctors. It'll all work out in the end! Until next time.
We got a new car. I'm so excited! Well, DH got an offer from a local dealership last week. He went to meet with a salesperson yesterday. He picked me up from work in our new car!! I was so shocked. We had been driving my car for a long time now. Its a 92 Oldsmobile Cutlass. It was getting pretty tense sharing a car. DH has a van that he's working on and another car that pretty much died a while back. he had planned on fixing one of those up but we have to dump so much money into them. Anyway he got a 1999 Dodge Intrepid. It is so nice and big. This is our first "new" car. Its used but definitely new to us! The only bad thing is that I have to take some of the money I put away to help with the down payment. We have to be real careful with the way we spend money until after the baby is born. Well, it'll all work out. I'm just so happy about this!
I had a doc appt today. It went well. He said that the baby's heartbeat is strong and my blood pressure is low. I also gained 9 pounds. They are doing the AFP test too.
The baby has been so active. Its movements can be felt from the outside now. DH hasn't felt them yet. He's so funny. He actually kinda scared to touch it. He doesn't want to bother it. He talks to it though. He seems a little more comfortable with sex. We've been doing it about every three days. That's better than a week and a half. Yesterday he said that the baby was mad because he was knocking on its door. I laughed so hard. The baby is starting to respond to sounds more. When I'm in the car with the music up it just moves all around. Its so exciting. My maternity clothes are fitting now. I'll probably have to go another size up next trimester. Summer is coming though. I'll be wearing more dresses. I complained to DH about being pregnant this summer. I told him that I will make up for it next summer and he asked me how I knew I wouldn't be pregnant next summer! Boy I hope not. I think two in a row would be tough.
Its a GIRL!!
but there's a story behind the ultrasoud.
This has been one h$ll of a day. Well it started off nice. DH and I went for a walk. We came home and I left to run an errand with MIL when we got into a car accident!! In our new car . This no good SOB ran a red light. My light wasn't even yellow! I brake significantly so the impact wasn't as good as it could have been. The airbags didn't deploy. Thank God.
Well I went to emergency. The paramedics sent me because I'm pg. I have slight abdominal pain. It hurt when I was examined.
Here comes the good news:
The baby is perfect. I got blood work and an urinalysis. Then they did an ultrasound. The baby was perfect. And its a GIRL!!! She was swimming around. Kicking her feet and waving her arms. All of her vital organs were perfect. She also measured 20 weeks 3 days. That about a week ahead according to my LMP. Of course, the technician said that he wasn't 100% sure about the sex but he didn't see and testicles.
I'm so excited about my little girl. DH met me at the hospital. I was sorry to have given him such a scare. When we were leaving he asked me what it was. When I told him it was a girl he lit up. We are so happy that she's healthy. Today was a terrible scare. I'm so grateful to have him, my kids, and our family.
19 weeks 4 days
I'm going back to the original way I was dating my pg. I had cjanged after the first u/s but after this last one I realized it is more accurate just to go by my LMP. According to this last u/s the baby's growing about a week ahead according to my LMP. The doctor has given me a due date of 9/23/03. I'll stick with that one just as a reference point.
Anyway, I'm so excited about my baby girl. Summer Christine Milton. I know she's going to be so beautiful. She has been moving so much lately. I can really feel her now. Her bones are getting stronger and so are her movements. I can't wait to hold her in my arms.
The last ultrasound was so amazing. She was actually a recognizable baby especially when her arms and legs waved.
I can't wait to see her!
I'm half way there. Half way to seeing my baby. She has been moving around so much! My tummy is stretching. No stretch marks yet. I'm still using the Palmers. I need to buy some more! I feel it growing. I've been having aches and pains. Probably because I'm getting big. My breast haven't stopped growing yet. There's no wonder this is a girl. My body is changing so differently than it did with my DS.
Oh, DH's kids are staying with us. They came this weekend and didn't go back. Actually its working beter than I thought. DH has really picked up the slack! Everything will be fine.
20 weeks 4 days
Its our 4th Anniversary! I'm in a pretty sentimental mood today. Also, I finished school yesterday. I have so many emotions inside of me right now. I'm excited about Summer. Excited about my DH. Excited about graduation but also a bit nervous about my future. I've spent the last 4+ years of my life in school. School is a part of my identity. Not anymore. Well now I'll have a Bachelor's degree as part of who I am. I'm not job hunting right now. I'll be unemployed for a couple of months and yes that really scares us. We will figure it out though. I'll kick the job hunt into high gear right after the baby is born.
I'm feeling pretty good except for extreme fatigue! Its pretty bad! I'm being convinced more and more that this is a girl. I'm not getting to big in the tummy but my breast, butt, and thighs are making up for that .
Well that's all for now.
Thank you guys for your well wishes.
I participated in two graduation ceremonies. Last night was the Black Graduation. Steve Harvey spoke. It was a smaller and less formal ceremony. It was truly a party. A lot of my family attended including our kids. Today I participated in the Marshall School of Business Commencement at the Shrine Auditorium. It was really really nice. There were about 900 graduates and about 5,000 family and friends. DH, my mom & dad, my little sister, and my cousin-in-law attended this one. It was really great. It made me feel the true impact that this accomplishment will have on my life.
So, I'm relaxing for now. I have to finish my internship. I should be there until about the 3rd week in July. Then I will take some time off to have the baby and get to know her . After that period I will be job hunting.
I'm considering grad school. Nothing definite yet.
Once again thanks for the well wishes and I'm looking forward to hearing about the other graduates happening this semester!!
In about 18 weeks I will have my little baby in my arms. I am so anxious to see her. DH is getting the room ready for her and her big sister. Her big sister will probably move in today. This is a great step. Now we can get the crib and dresser and start preparing for her arrival. I am so excited. I can't wait!
She's getting so strong. She's growing a lot too. She had a growth spurt. My family says that I've grown a lot since Sunday. They saw me yesterday (Thursday).
She reacts when her daddy talks to her. She also reacts to other sounds such as the car radio. She's gonna know daddy's voice when she's born! He makes it a point to talk to her every morning before I leave for work. We are so excited about her.
Well there's not much else to report now. Until later.