Mine, His, now ours
I'm Christina. I have two children from a prev marriage (mine) my DH has two from a previous marriage (his) and we are unexpectedly expecting a new LO in May (ours).
I have a DD from 8/2001 and DS from 9/2003. DSS's are 11/2003 and 9/2006. We are expecting a boy (yes, the disappointment was audible from all of the kids, and the grandparents - no girls on DH's side and only 3 out of 11 girls on my side). But that's what God has blessed us with so we are ready and happy to welcome our little guy.
I'm pretty behind here as I'm already 22 weeks today so I'll try to catch up as best I can.
I don't have a journal from my first two - wish I did. I know my DH doesn't have one from either of his. So I figured since this is our last I should be able to look back and remember.
I'll do my best to recap the fist 22 weeks over the next couple of days.
So I got my BFP on September 19th much to my surprise! Here's the reproductive history prior to BFP:
1. on depo from Jan 2006 to my last shot in May 2008 (doc wanted me off because I was developing some side effects).
2. Doc would not put me on the pill because I had fluctuating high BP and she said that could kick me right into chronic hypertension. She said use other bc instead.
3. No AF until June 2009 - a full year after last shot.
4. 3 irregular cycles.
5. Expected AF on 9/18/2009 and bled on 9/16 - thought it was AF but only bled for one day.
6. I waited until Saturday morning because I really thought it was a wonky cycle but then I felt a little weird. Nothing I could put my finger on but I just felt weird.
7. I tested and got that BFP. Showed my DH and whoa - that was just, well, weird.
With four children already in our lives this was not planned and we made our attempts at prevention without hormones. But we were offered a chance to have a child together and both of us felt that this was just meant to be. We will find a way to make it work.
I spent the first 6 weeks after my BFP in a bit of a daze. DH (well, SO at the time) and I were finalizing the plans for our wedding on 10/9 so I was busy busy busy. The ceremony was very small and went great for the most part. No one knew there was an extra little person in the room but us - a sweet little secret I will always treasure.
I was looking for some support during this time and found pg.org - which has been wonderful!!!
Ok, more later but at least I got a start - no more procrastinating - my last little LO deserves this loving journal and so do I.
The first few weeks...
So now I'll try to remember and capture the first few weeks.
October was a blue with the wedding and kids and school and work. I was feeling mild to moderate nausea most days and admittedly missing my evening glass of wine. Trying to get ready for Halloween with the kids and making sure everyone has what they need each day made the time go very quickly.
I had my first appt on 10/20/09 and I was nervous. But we found the heart beat right away with a trans-v u/s - what a little rush that was. My BP was high and with my age and asthma my regular OB referred me to a perinatologist for more elevated care.
I wasn't thrilled about that because I really love my regular OB but she isn't doing deliveries anymore anyway so I sucked it up and agreed.
My first appointment at the new doc was ok but I did get another u/s at 11 weeks and the baby looked great - strong h/b and wiggling all over the place. DH looked so happy.
We opted for the extra Down's screening so we set all that up.
In the mean time I was trying to hide my bloated look at work and feeling just so weird all the time. It's been a while since I went through all this with Anthony. Plus DH and I have been having our issues making things so stressful. We both agreed to counselling (which we have yet to start) to help us through. We want to make a great life for ourselves, our other children, and our new LO and in order to do that we need a little help - and that's ok.
In November we had the holidays to start thinking of and another u/s. We opted not to do an amnio even though our risk for Down's was slightly elevated. We chose to wait for the level 2 u/s to see if any soft markers were present. This was a very stressful time. But overall November was rather unremarkable - I'm thankful for that.
I told my boss about the pg at about week 13. He was very supportive as were my colleagues. Even though work is stressful it's so nice to have a supportive team to work on - it makes all the difference.
Between weeks 10 and 13 my nausea started to subside. By week 15 it was gone completely and my energy level started to pick up some. Now just waiting for that magic moment when I feel the baby move for the first time I'm hoping some time after week 16.
December was even more stressful. We got a new roof (through insurance) which we are still working on the finishing touches with, found out that my work location is moving even farther away from home - ugh. Started looking for child care options for the new LO b/c I want to breast feed so I want him close to my work for the first year. That has all had me in a tizzy since then - still working on all of it.
One wonderful thing was that around the 20th (a little over 17 weeks) I felt LO move for the first time - so cool! That really makes it hit home.
LO moves a lot!!! Amelia was a mover and shaker too. Anthony was a bit of a lazy belly-dweller :) but once he came out he hasn't stopped moving yet. We'll have to wait and see what this little guy will be like!
Another one of the best parts of December is that on the 23rd we had the level 2 u/s. No soft markers for Down's so the risk dropped in half and we got the money shot - boy all the way!!!
We told the other kids. Everyone was admittedly a little disappointed b/c we have so many boys in the family. But I reassured everyone that this new little guy was going to be awsome. Plus the fact of the matter is we have LOTS of boy stuff! Amelia is already in mothering mode.
By Jan 1 I was 19 weeks and fast approaching the 1/2 way mark. Feeling LO move every day. We ordered new windows for the house and we're still struggling to finalize the roofing payments and stuff. It's a lot to take on while I'm still feeling pretty tired most days.
But we got the basement walls painted and in a week we'll have the flooring done. Then the windows and hopefully the roofing will be resolved as well.
Then we can concentrate on the walk-in closet we started in our room 3 months ago. That's where LO will sleep until he's sleeping longer hours on his own.
Ok, more later.
Ok, a little more before the weekend hits.
DH got to feel this little guy move for the first time right at 21 weeks. He was able to feel him move again last night at 22 weeks. None of the kids have been able to feel that yet but they have been so patient - they'll get to soon.
Over all I feel pretty good most of the time. I have heart burn some days and I've had to use my asthma in haler quite a bit more often as i get bigger. The good news is I've only gained about 9 lbs at this point. I hope to keep the weight gain minimal since I was already heavy to begin with. DH and I will have a time losing weight togehter this summer!
That sums up most of everything to this point. My tail bone hurts by the end of the work day and I'm ready for bed by 9 but that's the way it goes. I keep enjoying feeling this little guy squirming around and hope everything continues on it's way.
I have a u/s scheduled in 3 weeks along with my glucose test - should be fun! Well, the u/s will be :)
Right now I'm thinking I will use a ball to sit on at work to reduce my tail bone pain - it hurts and makes the rest of my back hurt too.
That's all for now - on to the weekend!
So we had a pretty good weekend but too full of work. DH decided we HAD to start on flooring the basement. Now my back and hips are paying for it.
I haven't felt this little guy move as much over the last few days but his heart beat sounds good on the doppler. I can't wait until the next u/s, I love looking at him already.
Amelia is so sweet and every time she sees me she gives me a kiss and my belly a kiss. I'm so lucky to have her.
The boys mostly are still fascinated by this little guy's heart beat.
I've been beginning to feel so unprepared for all this. I'm struggling with finind child care and we don't have all the "stuff" we need. I know we still have time but I keep thinking what if something happens and he comes early???
Well, I'm just trying to stay calm and hope for all good things.
So after doing some flooring I am pretty sore. Plus yesterday I took a spill and landed on my knee and hand making things a little more painful for me :(
But it's all good. This little guy has been moving a lot less (or that I can feel anyway) but it could be because he's changed positions. When I use the doppler to check his hb the tones are coming from a different place then they used to. It's still very reassuring to hear the hb whenever I want :)
Amelia has picked out several outfits for this little guy - it's so cute. DH doesn't want to buy anything yet which is going against what I want to do. But we are making progress elsewhere and I know once the basement is done and the closet is closer to being done DH will come around.
I'll be 23 weeks tomorrow. 2 more weeks and if this little guy were to come early he would have a great chance of making it! Seems like a good milestone to me!
I keep looking at baby stuff and thinking about Amelia's and Anthony's births. Funny how that happens.
We had a very busy weekend this past weekend. We worked on the basement floor and the skylight in our bathroom (framing, insulation, etc). We still aren't done with either but much further along in the process.
I have to take it easy today though. With the extra weight and my center of gravity shifted forward - not to mention the extra hormones floating around in my system - I'm pretty sore. My lower back and hips were hurting so badly last night. I'm feeling a bit better this morning but still sore. And DH wants to finish up the insulation tonight, ugh.
But then we'll concentrate on the finishing touches in the basement and the walk in closet.
The fun part is I bought a car seat with stroller and extra base as well as a pack and play. We weren't going to do that initially but Babies r us had an old car seat exchange program so I took advantage of that. It was still expensive but 25% less expensive with out the trade in - not too bad.
We sitll have several more items to purchase that won't be cheap but all the really big stuff is done, whew.
I listened to my little guy's hb this morning as I often like to do when I have a few minutes along. It so nice and always puts a smile on my face.
Hehe - LO was kicking so hard last night my whole belly was moving - so cool to see!
I've been having some BH contractions which I didn't really get with Amelia or Anthony - so that's kind of a new experience for me. It also gives me some hope that maybe I can labor without the aid of drugs this time. I would like to avoid the pitocin if possible.
I've started thinking about a short but sweet birth plan. Funny, you'd think after going through this twice already I would know what to do. But my L&D with Amelia was so not what I wanted and so out of control it feels almost surreal - like it wasn't me.
Anthony's was a bit better but I still needed induction so again, a piece I couldn't have any control over.
This is it. My last opportunity to get it the way I want it. For some reason I'm terrified.
BUT...I bought a Wonder Woman tank/underwear set so I think I'll be wearing that at the hospital - that should help me feel the true wonder that I am :)
I've been having a rough couple of days. I haven't been sleeping well and when I do I'm having terrible night mares. I wonder if LO is turning head down or something and that's what's causing my insane dreams - that's just a theory though.
Yesterday I also had a terrible tummy ache - gone now, whew. I'm excited for tomorrow's appointment since we should be getting another u/s so I'll get to see this little guy again :) DH will be able to come too which is so nice.
But, I can't seem to shake my uneasiness - I'm sure it's lack of sleep. I might ask my doc to check my iron count - maybe I'm getting a little anemic.
We have the hospital tour in 2 1/2 weeks so that should be fun. I purchased the baby bjorn carrier so things are moving along.
I've also scheduled belly photos with a photographer for late next month and I'm really looking forward to that.
I really hope the hospital will lift the visitor restrictions before May - I want the kids to be able to come see their new baby brother (and me) in the hospital. I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
Erg, not a great start today. After I dropped off DD and DS I realized I forgot my purse and my GTT drink at home and had to go all the way back. DH was trying to be nice and grabbed my purse for me - unfortunately that wasn't the best idea, poor guy.
Anyway I was super late to work. I've been sooo tired I feel like lead. I stopped by DH's work to get my purse. I'll be glad to leave early today for my appt.
I can't wait to see this little guy but I can wait to see how much weight I've gained - yikes, not looking forward to it.
But LO has been pretty active today which is nice - especially since I have fallen twice in the past two day - I hate that.
Now to go find some chocolate...
Ooo, what a depressing last post. Didn't turn out so hot. I failed the GTT screen and went for the 3 hour yesterday. I also busted the passenger side mirror in the parking garage that day. Should get a new one tomorrow for DH to install.
DH made a urology appointment for next month. I'm glad but a little sad. I mean, 5 is good but 6 could be great? Erg, maybe not, I don't know how I feel about it.
LO is looking good and measure a week ahead at 2 lbs. He even has hair already!!! That must explain all the heart burn!
Both DSS's are sick so I'm not looking forward to tonight. DS had strep on Tuesday when I picked him up but we went to the doc and he was already feeling better by night time with his antibiotics on board.
I just don't want to get sick. Being sick while pg is waaaaay worse than when not pg. Plus I've missed so much work over the last 2 weeks with sickness and snow days I just can't afford any more time off.
I guess what will be will be - keep washing hands and covering mouths. The only problem is MIL doesn't enforce those rules so I'll have to disinfect the whole house tomorrow when I get home after her being there.
Well, I'm down to 98 days to go - woo hoo!!! I told DH and he was like, "I better get working on that closet!" funny :)