I'm 30 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and feel like talking about myself.
My DD Violet was born April 13, 2008. Born at home, in a tub of water, 4 days before her EDD and within 4 hours. Couldn't have asked for more.
It's been fun to go through a new pregnancy and really compare the differences. Makes me wonder if Michelle Duggar does that anymore, or if one pregnancy just blends into the next.
This baby isn't too much different than my little Violet. The only major difference is my placenta is anterior this time. It's on the left side of my belly and I know babe likes to face it, kick it, and snuggle into it. This means the biggest movements I can feel, so far, are little punchy hands at my pelvis, bladder and cervix and a tiny baby arse jutting out the top right side when s/he is trying to stretch out.
I've finally been getting things done around here, too in preparation for the birth. Organizing closets, clothing and baby things. I still haven't bought a single damn thing though. lol...maybe today. I just don't have the drive, since I have everything a baby will need. The colour of clothing doesn't matter to me really. And what else does a newborn need other than nunnies and dipes?
Will be working on my birth kit this week, pics to come. There's lots to have on hand when one pushes their baby out in the kitchen on purpose.
It's funny how some people get offended when they are told how huge they look. I have a hundred and three pregnant friends and family right now and hear this complaint lately.
I feel the same when I'm told I look so small. Or that someone who is months behind me is just as big. Of course, when it's a single, childless dude who has no experience with pregnancy telling me that his FTM preggo sister looks bigger than me and she's 10+ weeks behind, I guess I shouldn't put too much effort into deflecting it. I wanted to say that she's either just fatter than me or remind him that what fills my belly is actually baby and not just rising intestines and other organs being pushed by the uterus.
Every preggo finds something to be offended by, right? Ya, I own that. Measuring perfectly I am neither HUGE nor tiny for my gestation. I'm just right and my baby fricken rocks anyway, so what the eff ever.
Can I just say belly mapping is hard to do when one has an anterior placenta!!! I wish I could see into my belly like that dream I had a few weeks ago. That was really convenient.
Anyhoo...a bit on babywearing. It's the hot topic of my facebook right now:
There has been a recall on the very unsafe Infantino 'bag sling'. It breaks every rule of safe babywearing. And so now this means that ALL babywearing is getting a bad wrap. This is truly sad since babies love to be right next to mama! Here's a great blog on safe babywearing and explaining a bit more about the evil bag sling:
I made the dining-room my b*tch the other night. I got into such a mode that I couldn't be stopped. It's pristine and beautiful and ready to welcome my new baby into the world. I think it kick started the cleaning dragon within. I have much to do. I'm so excited.
My Hypnobabies is going really well. I sleep so well when I do them just before bed (which is when I usually do them). And I can get back to sleep easily too after pee breaks. I'm working on my birth visualization lately. I have been a lot actually since I started the program back up again. It's had/s been stressing me out that my entire birth team might not make it in time. Part of the scripts of HB's have you saying how 'I deserve and easy, fast and comfortable birthing time'. Which obviously is true. But- I would rather it not be TOO fast. So, as per recommendation of one of their counsellors, I have just changed it in my head to 'easy, ideal length and comfortable'. That way I don't have to work myself up to a lightning fast birth.
It's quite possible that a few of my birth team (Al and Allie) will be downtown Toronto when I realize it's time. My mom could be anywhere. My midwives and Arty will be in Pickering/Ajax area. Em will be here right away. DH might be here, he might be somewhere in Durham region in an ambulance, which he said he'd drive right home, lol.
So I'm working on being okay with not everyone here in time. Of course, thinking back to Violet's birth, at the time I was pushing her out I didn't care who was or wasn't there. So I'm sure it will be the same way, I just don't realize it. And the thoughts occupy my mind for nothing.
Off to put brand new duct tape on my fetoscope so it doesn't leave red marks anymore.
I'm so excited to check my own cervix this time. I have had my fingers up there many hundreds of times during my years of charting and my combined 12m of TTC, so it's not totally new to me. But I was too scared to during V's pregnancy. I'm pumped this time!
Can I just say how glad I am for my fetoscope? It's SO HARD to tell where this baby is based on movement or palpating due to this blasted anterior placenta. Thankfully, to find a hb with a fetoscope you pretty much have to be dead on, so it gives a VERY accurate assessment of fetal position. Each time I check, even though I feel strange movement, babe is almost always in a nice ROA. Puts my 'DAMMIT IS BABY BREECH?' fears to rest. lol.
I rearranged the furniture in my livingroom this morning. Now I have no excuse to sit on the couch. I've got my laptop set up in front of my birth ball complete with knee cushion.
I'm very excited to keep this baby in a good position. So far it prefers ROA which is okay, Violet always did. Plus, since the placenta is on the left, it would be a little more difficult to get an LOA out of this kid. But I can try!!
Just got back from the park. Had a great conversation with a neighbor. She moved into the neighborhood a month before we did, so she's still just meeting people too. She moved from Quebec though, so she's farther from normal. Especially coming from a town of 300. Apparently B-ville is a big town for her! lol. See, for us moving here was like moving to the country from the big city.
Anyway, she has 3 boys. Her youngest is a year old. We were pushing our kidlets on the swings and she asked if we knew what my unborn babe is, boy or girl. I said we didn't know. Then she went on to say how every time they had a baby she'd hear 'oh well hopefully it's a girl this time' and then once another boy was born she'd hear 'well, maybe next time, ah well' It so rang true for me!! I haven't heard it, really at all, but I would be so upset if someone were to be disappointed that I had another girl instead of a boy. To think kids are like a collectors item that you would hope to have one of each kind! She agreed and said it did bother her that people were sad for her that she 'only has boys'.
Luckily, I know my family and friends don't really see it like that. We all just like babies and know that we are getting a little person/personality and not just a particular 'sex' of young human.
Anyhoo, it started thoughts in me and thought I'd share! She was really nice. Glenna. Her boys are Cameron, Noah and Matthew. I hope I see her at the park again. Even though she's from Quebec, she sounded like a Newfie, so I totally dig that. Even she admitted it. lol.
Heading out today to actually purchase something for the wee pirate. So far the ONLY thing I have bought is a brand new pouch sling. Which is awesome and I'm pumped to use it, but it wasn't totally necessary. lol. I have had some good friends donate items for the cause though. My dear friend Allie loaned me her gorgeous bassinet and enough boy clothes to fill Yankee Stadium for the chance that this wee one comes out with a willy winky. She also loaned me her wicked awesome double electric pump. That will come in handy for kick starting labour. Woot! hehehe.
My friend Meghan came over yesterday and brought her Bumbo chair. I didn't have one with Violet and was considering getting a second hand one, but if I can borrow one for free, that's even better!!
For the actual birth my very own amazing midwife, Carolynn, has GIVEN me a La Bassine birth tub. I can't get over how freakin' lucky I am!!! We were gonna buy one. But she had one that she can't use with clients (luckily, we knew eachother personally before I was ever a client of hers) and she doesn't plan on more children for herself. I just hope there's time to fill and use it.
So, what we're buying today hopefully is sun dresses for the lady, crocs for her too. And for the new babe I want one of those old style bouncy chairs, some more sleepers, a play mat and some more mat clothes for me. All from Once Upon a Child, hopefully. I also want to price out double strollers and maybe get a tray for the Bumbo.
I am just beside myself with excitement. (sometimes beside myself with terror, but whatev) I can't wait to nurse a new baby. Cuddle and sleep with a new baby. I can't wait to see the relationship my daughter develops with her sibling. I can't wait for that new baby smell. The gurgly sounds, the stretch/farts, the popcorn poop. Is it possible to have baby fever for a third before the second is even done baking? lol!!!
I'll be back with pics. I'll also get some shots of the sleep arrangements we are planning for.