Ugg. I told DH that I thought he should tell his mother what had happened. He did not want to but said it was ok if I told her. So I called MIL and told her. I did tell her that DH had not told anyone. So what does she do, she puts it on FB. DH is going to be so mad...
She is known to have a big mouth. Hense, DH not wanting to tell his own mother, but this is extreme.
Omg, Facebook? Bonita, I have no idea where you live, but I wish I could just give you a great big hug right now.
Bonita - OH. MY. GOSH!!!!!! I am in SHOCK right now. Even if you didn't tell her not to tell anyone, pregnancy and loss is such a private topic, it seems like a no brainer that you don't publicize someone else's m/c on Facebook!!!!! I am SO SORRY that your MIL did that. I'm sure that she wasn't trying to be malicious, but jeez louise! Some people have NO filter. (((Hugs))) That's crazy. So sorry hon.
Jina - Happy third trimester lady!!!!!! :yahoo: Soooo exciting! I'm sorry that you are anemic, but I hope that getting on iron pills will help improve your energy levels as you swing into this final 3 months. :) And :woohoo: for passing your GD test!!!! I'm soooo glad you don't have to deal with that. I have to go for mine in two weeks. Boo.
Lynn - Haha, I love having you join us and write a book. :D I am sorry that you're not feeling well, but like Jina I tend to view m/s as a reassuring sign that little babe is moving in and making him/herself comfortable, so I am at least happy to hear that. I don't blame you for feeling freaked out by a little pink spotting after everything you've been through. I have also heard that especially hard BMs can cause bleeding, so if it is not coming back then I would try not to freak out too much.
Jessica - I responded to your other thread, but oh my gosh to throwing up in the middle of sexy time!!!!! LOL I can't believe your DH wanted to just keep going after that...lol Men are something else! LOL
Sorry if I missed anyone - I started typing this like 2 hours ago and then have to leave and come back.
AFM - Not much going on, just counting down the days until my u/s. :) I can't wait to find out once and for all that my little sweetheart is doing well, and also know if we're playing for team hamburger or team hotdog. :p
Hope that everyone is having a great day!!!
ETA: Oooooh! I meant to talk about the NCB thing! I completely forgot! So yes, Lynn, I am definitely thinking NCB this time. I totally understand what you mean about being more freaked out about the needle and the epi than a natural childbirth. That's actually the way I felt with T, up until I was actually *in* the delivery room. THEN I was in back labor, and said "Screw it, bring on the pain meds." :lol: But, even though I was freaked about the epi, I can honestly say that I didn't do a lot to prepare for a natural child birth, and I think that was my downfall. I didn't have much in my toolbox for coping (I don't know, I think I just didn't even want to think too much about how kiddo was going to exit the building...:lol:) so when things got tough, I went for the epi instead of trying to tough it out. Which would have been fine, except that the epi didn't work, and then I was stuck in bed which was the last place I wanted to be. My body was screaming for me to get up and walk around and stuff, and I wasn't allowed. It was...the suck...and now I have no faith in epis, so this time I want to be better prepared to really give myself a chance to have a natural birth without being stuck in bed with a useless epi in my back. I already feel better about it, joining the NCB board, and doing some research, and now I am bidding on a used copy of the Hypobabies home study kit, but if I lose that I will just buy it from Amazon. I feel a lot more proactive this time, which makes me feel like I can really do it. :)
Jessica - Haha, I laughed about the epi going in and the baby magically coming out. I also really laughed when Lynn said that she had read a lot of birth stories, and had never heard one like that. ;)
He is having some issues with his mother aside from that, but I would still like our girls to know their grandparents. We will see them all next week for Thanksgiving. I am sure they will all ask him about it, which will make him more upset.
He seems to be taking things a lot harder than I am. To me, yes it was a loss, but it is also hope that in the future we will get to have another baby. He must have really thought this was some how going to end well, because he seems truly depressed. I know that he wants another baby. More than wanting a baby myself, I wish that I could give him a baby. He is perfectly healthy, it is me that has all the health problems.