I tell my friends I'm worried to death about this baby....
I keep getting outraged by their comments. They have no idea what I'm feeling or what I'm thinking!!! Like I can just get over losing my baby?! Which was 9 months ago. I'm still not over it!!
Better to have loved than never loved at all?! Are you serious!?!?!? I'm so pissed.
(((hugehugs))) I'm sorry I think a lot of people just don't get it until they have been there. You'll never just "get over it". The loss of that child is part of who you are. It's impossible to forget that experience and go through a new pregnancy without having those memories affect you. I hope next Monday comes quickly and that seeing your baby's little h/b will help take away some of the anxiety and worry you are feeling.
Awww...I'm sorry Star. I'm sure your friends aren't trying to hurt your feelings or make you mad. I bet they just don't know what to say. Like Lynn said, unless you've personally suffered through a loss, you just don't "get" it. Even people that have gone through a loss sometimes just won't know what to say. I'm really truly sorry about your loss. I hope you are feeling better today.
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I agree with the other gals. I'm sure that your friends aren't intentionally trying to hurt you or minimize the way you feel, they just don't really get it because they've never been through it. I'm sorry that you were feeling so badly though. Are you feeling better today?
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Omg. I hate the "better to have loved and lost than never loved at all". Uh, no thanks! I'd rather never to have loved and then I would have never felt the disappointment and hurt that comes with losing. I agree with Alissa, Lynn and Jina. They probably aren't intentionally being hateful, but it's hard to really know what you're going through unless you've been there yourself. I hope you're feeling better. Crying and anger are completely normal for me and have been for weeks, so don't feel bad!
Yeah I feel better... But I wish they would stop trying to understand. They have no idea.