Thread: Advice?

I just found out 2 days ago we are having twins.... DH and I went through fertility tx so we def knew this was a possibility and while I'm happy... I'm instantly overwhelmed at how I'm going to do this... I know I can, its just a little scary knowing they are coming 2 at a time and how I will balance with work and my 2 other children (16 & 4). Anyone else experience this? Any advice on making myself more at ease?

I juggled with this and honestly still juggle with how I'm going to work full time and raise 3 young children but I truly believe that you are not giving anything you can't handle. My biggest piece of advice, if ppl offer help take it even when you are pregnant. Because being pregnant with multiples is so much harder then being pregnant with a singleton. Take it easy and don't stress out and most of enjoy your pregnancy... This one flew by for me and as miserable as I was as I actually miss it! Congrats again.

I second Krista, accept help whenever offered! And you just do what you have to do. I always have ppl tell me I am amazing for raising twins, and I'm really not, you just do what you have to do.

It's also good to know ahead of time that with twins there's a chance you'll be pulled out of work far earlier than you ever expected.

Originally Posted by rachelrazzle

I second Krista, accept help whenever offered! And you just do what you have to do. I always have ppl tell me I am amazing for raising twins, and I'm really not, you just do what you have to do.

I keep getting " you're super mom" and all I can keep thinking is I struggle to keep my head above water! I've learned the dishes and laundry can wait.

It is all very overwhelming in the beginning when you find out you are having twins. It takes some time to really adjust to the idea. It also takes some time for your family to adjust to twins once they arrive. I am still not sure that we have completely adjusted. It seems like once we get comfortable, something changes. What I will say is what I do know to be true. You can do it. Your kids will adjust. All will work out. I often get similar comments about being super mom, etc.. However, the reality is that you do it because you have to do it. You feed your babies, change their diapers, stay up with them, volunteer to go with your 4 yo in a field trip, and go to your 16 yo's events because that is just what being a parent is all about.

I will be honest and say that twins complicate things. I have had many ocassions where I feel jealous because a friend only has a singleton out at the soccer game or at the music concert. We often have to adjust our expectations or do some things differently. For example, we let our son pick who would go with him to his violin concert at school. He had to be there by 6 to tune his instrument and the concert would not be over until close to 8. We knew that our girls would not handle that well, and we decided we would not torture them or ourselves. This way, Isaiah had all of the attention of the parent going with him, and we weren't trying to wrestle 2 yo twins all around a quiet auditorium. So, the way you handle some things might end up being different. However, you figure it out and it ends up being just fine.