Shelia !! how are you and the wee ones doing?? (triplespiral)

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Shelia !! how are you and the wee ones doing?? (triplespiral)

Just curious how life is going on the flip side? having the babies on the outside that is....

was there anything that made you think, gee I wish someone would have told me that??

or

gee, I should have had this done at home already...??

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Well, it's definitely insanely tiring but it's somehow more acceptable to the outside world for me to look tired and get help, so it's in many ways easier than being ridiculously pregnant. I guess at least pregnancy has an end date though, so there's this idea of an end in sight. With babies? I just keep thinking this lack of sleep and achy boobs is never going to end! Breastfeeding is HARD and I was glad I'd been told repeatedly to get a lactation consultant. I still feel a little like giving up but I aim for 4-5 feedings each at the boob, more by pump, and a couple by formula every day. I was also glad someone warned me about lochia. I was birthing a lot of seriously horrifying gelatinous bloody golf balls in the first days (and beyond). It's really gross. Labor and birth was painful and incredibly tiring. Not unexpected. Being told to push again immediately after getting one baby out was like the cruelest joke of a lifetime. The relief though, oh the relief, when those babies came out. I actually didn't have any sort of emotional response or want to see the babies right away, I just spent the moments enjoying the empty belly. The front-to-back tear and hemorrhoids sucked, but it wasn't as bad as I would have expected and also nowhere near as bad as the swollen ankles hurt for nearly two weeks. I wasn't prepared for that pain. Emotionally it was tough to see the big soft belly fall all around but it's nice to see that it changes for the better on a daily basis. At home I was glad to have a pump ready to go with parts washed. I still need to buy more nipples but having loads of bottles has helped. Separating baby gear into little labeled bins has worked well, too, especially when asking other people to grab something for me. Bouncy chairs = greatest invention EVER. Oh and I learned that two tiny babies can ride together in a swing, making it not move about so wildly and also it's incredibly cute. Pillows and blankets and little receiving blankets are strewn everywhere in the house and that makes it easy to put sleepy babies down for a minute. Oh! I thought of something important. We brought what we thought was enough hospital snacks for four days (in case of c-section). We didn't consider the fact that we'd be up 24 hours a day and want to snack constantly. We ran out in less than a day. Bring SO MANY snacks to the hospital!

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Labor and birth was painful and incredibly tiring. Not unexpected. Being told to push again immediately after getting one baby out was like the cruelest joke of a lifetime.

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Bouncy chairs = greatest invention EVER.

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Oh and I learned that two tiny babies can ride together in a swing, making it not move about so wildly and also it's incredibly cute.

I bet that after getting one out, I would be exhausted too!! - I am kinda glad to be having a c-section.

Our dd loved the bouncy seat so much it was the only "gear" item I instantly insisted we have 2 of !!

I can't wait to see 2 in the swing - I bet it will be adorable Smile

Thanks for the response !! dh also read it and he said snacks... we should take lots of those, haha!!
Glad you are home and your babies are doing well Smile I am working on the breast pump, i had complications and was not able to bf last time... so we didn't get one. this time around I am so afraid to spend the money and it not work out... maybe I will look into renting one from the hospital.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

I just keep thinking this lack of sleep and achy boobs is never going to end! Breastfeeding is HARD and I was glad I'd been told repeatedly to get a lactation consultant. I still feel a little like giving up but I aim for 4-5 feedings each at the boob, more by pump, and a couple by formula every day.

I promise...it gets easier. I wanted to give up and bottle feed so bad because Kaylee wasn't the best at latching but I keep at it and now I'm so glad I did. It is so much easier BF, no cleaning bottles, no warming bottles, so much cheaper. It makes your life so much easier. And the supplementing will end, I was able to stop when they were almost a month. As for tandum, I only do it if necessary, I hate it! Keep at it, you're doing awesome.

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You are hilarious, probably only hilarious because I can relate, but I love your wording! lol

I LOVED putting my two tiny boys in one swing or bouncer, such fun pics! Smile And bf does get easier. I don't think I got the hang of tandem until 4-6mo, at the earliest, then it got easier from them, and like Krista said, cheaper, and less to clean! Smile

Shelia, hope you are healing well!

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Thanks guys. It was impossible to believe that breastfeeding could ever get easier, but it's just starting to. I mean, exclusive breastfeeding is not within reach anytime soon (ever?) but the latching is easier and I want to believe everyone that one day it won't take 1.5 hours per baby!

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Thanks guys. It was impossible to believe that breastfeeding could ever get easier, but it's just starting to. I mean, exclusive breastfeeding is not within reach anytime soon (ever?) but the latching is easier and I want to believe everyone that one day it won't take 1.5 hours per baby!

I PROMISE, there will be day,very soon, when each baby feeds for 10 minutes and they are done. Keep at it, you're doing awesome. Why do u feel you still have to supplement, I found that I was able to stop supplementing @ your point because my supply was up more. Maybe try pumping more to your supply up. Keep it up, it'll be completely worth it in the end... Plus it's the best diet ever, weight just falls off!

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"krista83" wrote:

Why do u feel you still have to supplement

Well, the supplementing started because of a concern over one baby's weight. She's back at her birth weight this week though. I'm definitely not pumping as much as I could and part of that was because it was just too painful sometimes with poor latching during breastfeeding. It's better now but I wasn't ramping up my supply as they started to ramp up their eating, so I kept falling behind.

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You're doing awesome keep it up:)