Let me start by saying that I love my daycare. They are reasonably priced, good people, love my girls... 95% of the time they are super.
My one concern is this: they always jump the gun and think my kids are sick. I understand that there are regulations that they have to follow, but they have sent one of my girls home on average of once every other week. Most of the time, they call and say that they woke up from a nap with a fever. Many times, I get there and the fever is gone and the girls are fine. The thing is, they aren't allowed to come back to daycare for 24 hours after they are fever free. Several times I have taken them to the doctor, been given the "mystery fever maybe viral" diagnosis and had to keep them home the next day. There have been a few times where there was something really wrong, but more often, it's nothing, and DH or I have to use a sick day to stay home with a well kid. I now have 1 and 1/2 days left until they start docking my pay at work. My thinking is... if they wake up from a nap (where they are laying in the sun sometimes and usually under a blanket) and have a fever, take it again 30 minutes later before you call me to come get them.
Anyway, on Friday they said that Dylan had a fever of around 101 (I don't remember exactly) when she woke up from a nap at 5:30. DH and I got there at 5:45 to pick her up. She felt a little warm, but not feverish and was perfectly fine by the time we got home. When they said that, DH made a comment about her still being on antibiotics for her double EI. The worker said they had a boy go home with strep in her room earlier this week. DH said "The doctor said it covers her strep, too." DH mis-spoke. Scout also had an antibiotic prescription from last week because of one of the "mystery fevers". The doc did a strep and flu test on her - both were negative. He checked her ears and they were fine. He prescribed an antibiotic bc it was the Friday before a long weekend and it was possible that she had strep or an EI that just wasn't showing up yet. He got his kids mixed up.
So, we leave daycare, go to Burger King where we eat and play, and come home about an hour later. I had left my cell phone at home accidentally. I got a message from a nurse at the after hours clinic where we took Dylan 2 weeks ago. I called back and she explained that the daycare director had called her asking about their policies on giving "return to school" notes because of Dylan's note. The nurse explained that she didn't feel comfortable, nor was it legal for her to discuss medical history or records with anyone who wasn't a parent or guardian but explained that if a child is given a diagnosis of EI, they are not contagious, and so a note might be issued. If a child is even suspected of having strep, they would not be issued a note to return the next day. The nurse called me because she said she was uncomfortable with the call and just wanted to let me know that it had happened. She said the director was really directing the questions to their policies, but implied that we may have pushed the doc to write one or changed/ forged it.
Now let me say, that Dylan's fever came at a very inconvenient time. It was finals week for both me and DH, but before we got the diagnosis, I had already called my sister and she agreed to ditch work the next day to come watch D if we needed her to. I felt horrible sending D back that day because she was obviously still sick, but she wasn't contagious and we couldn't afford to miss, so I sent her anyway (with the note). I called to check on her multiple times during the day, and even picked her up 3 or 4 hours early because my finals schedule allowed me to. I can see why they might be slightly suspicious. It really irks me, though, that they would think that we would jeopardize the health of our child or the others there in that way by forging a note or persuading a doctor to write one somehow.
So now I guess my WWYD is two parts. First, would you say or do anything about this call to the clinic or just let it go? If you would say/ do something, how would you do it tactfully and respectfully? This is not something I want to leave the daycare over or anything, it just kind of bothers me some. Second, do I say something about them always taking the girls' temp right after they wake up? Just today, Dylan woke up from a nap and felt warm, but 10 minutes later (after I changed her diaper and got her a snack) she felt normal. I never took her temp, so I don't know if she had one or not.