Is there anyone here that is a stay at home mom that feels like they need external fullfillment?
I feel like I need to go to school for something so that I can get a part time job when Eli starts school (if I don't homeschool) or something that I could start at home.
I have so many interests I don't know what to do. those of you that have careers outside the home, what made you decide to do that type of work?
YES!!!! I can say that this is sooooo true for me, particularly with my first not so much these two. I went from job to job with him looking for that "fulfillment", but hating not being with him. It's soooo hard. And you know you're doing a great thing by being with him, but at the same time you miss adults and having your own life. I soooo understand Liz. Honestly, my BB really helped me this time. I am completely isolated where I am now, with no family at all, but having PO really helped and now this board and scrapping. My online friends are my best friends. And I feel like I've made a choice to be home with my kids, but I can still be sad about it once in a while. That's okay and doens't make me a bad mommy. Hugs to you...PM me if you want to talk more okay???
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YES!! I have been a stay at home mom for about 5 years now and as much as I love staying home with my kids I feel like i need to contribute more than just taking care of the kids. Part of this is because since I was 15 I was working and never was out of "work" for this long. So I feel the need to go and do something. I want to go back to school once all my kids are in some sort of school and will probably be back in the working field by the time they are all above grade 3 or so.
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I'm so glad I'm not the only one!!! Don't get me wrong i LOVE LOVE LOVE staying home with Eli. I guess my hang ups on wanting to be outside the house are that certain people around me (not dh, other family) feel that being a stay at home mom is not a job, that it's not worthy. My mom has a college education and has always thought that to be successful, you need a college education.
I just don't know what to do..lol Cosmetologist, esthetitian, CSI, graphic artist....all of these things interest me but I don't know which one to do. LOL
I'm trying to get my "fulfillment" by going to school online. The college here in LR offers fully online degrees so I'm working on that. They allow you to choose three emphasis areas so I'm getting mine in Sociology, Psychology and Health Sciences. I really feel like I need this because if I get a degree, it is something that no one can take away. Paxton is "our" child, this is "our" home, they're "our" cars....when I graduate it will be MY degree and I think that will really just round out life!
I'm in a wierd situation because I have worked since Andrea was born and also been with her full time. I find that I don't really get fulfillment from my job at all. I'd rather not have to work to be honest. Much of my fulfillment comes from my crafts - I get much more satisfaction in finished stuff at home than in my day-to-day tasks at work. I only say all this to show the other side of the coin.
Basically since becoming a SAHM/WAHM I have been torn. I didn't really have a "career". I have been waiting to decide that we are finished having kids. Then, I will go back to school and start something. I waited so long to do school that we didn't want to start and stop for fear that some of my schooling would become outdated before I could get into the workforce. I technically work at home. I homeschool 2 kids approximately 3 days a week. I HATE IT! I love the kids but homeschooling someone else's children is not the ideal situation for anybody. I do it because I make just as much as I was outside the home and I don't have to pay for daycare. Plus, now that we are baking #2, I couldn't really see us paying for 2 kids in daycare so it's homeschool or nothing.
I miss humans. I have found that I have been doing a lot more on the internet. I have been forcing myself to use this "free time" wisely. I am picking back up on my reading and learning to do the things that I didn't know before like cooking and such. I look at SAH as a short term situation lasting for a few years. In the meantime, I'm not just sitting here waiting. I'm learning what I can.
I know what you mean. For me it's mainly I know I could get a job and contribute, but I also want to stay home with Kayson full-time. I have nothing against childcare, but here where I live the pickings are slim and not something I want to put K in. We also don't have ANY family within 3 1/2 hours, so that's not an option either. God has always provided and worked it out, so for that I'm so grateful.
But I do cater part-time from home. I just got 2 more jobs this morning booked, and it's a job I can do from home without sending K to daycare. I earn probably as much in 2-3 jobs as I would with a "regular" job working 40 hours. It's a lot of work, but I love it! I also help a friend who owns a catering business a few times a month on her huge jobs. I sell Pampered Chef too. All of these things I can do from home.
Do you have MOPS or something similar where you live? I am going to a MOPS meeting tomorrow with a friend. It's nice to get out and visit with other moms. So important to stay sane.
Plus, like Carrie, my internet friends are my best friends. I have met some of the most amazing woman on PO who I consider more than friends.....more like sisters.
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Thanks for all the different sides ladies.
I think I'm wanting to be able to contribute financially to the family. I know dh struggles with the fact that he doesn't provide well enough to keep food on the table by the end of the month.
i've thought about getting my cosmetology or esthetitian license. I could do that from home, or part time evenings. I don't know how we'll afford it though.
Liz- a lot of times you can get help from the gov't to go back to school. The FAFSA is what helped me pay for school, until Randall and I made too much money. Which still wasn't enough in my honest opinion b/c school is one hour away. Anyways, try finding a school close-by and looking into things. Sometimes, you might find medical transcriptionist classes online, or something like that. I don't know how much $ they pay, but it's worth it just for some extra income. Usually they offer jobs where you work from home. Or at least that is what I have heard. Don't think school is out of reach, b/c if you guys are struggling, FAFSA should help. It did us. I am hoping after this baby, we will get it again, and I can FINALLY finish.
I also wanted to add, that when I was staying at home, I felt like I wasn't human anymore. Of course, I was keeping a few kids, and that was what made it hard, but honestly, PO was what kept me going. That and scrapping. So, remember, we are here for you no matter what.
Also, what about keeping a few kids in your home? What do you think about that? That would give Eli someone to play with, and you could make a few $ on the side. In some states, you can have so many kids without having to get a license. I never got one. I won't say it's easy, but if I would have had more room, I would have kept going. Plus, just a few wouldn't be too hard. KUP ok hon!
Sadie- mommy to Ruthie & Randy