Thanks Gwen for posting our news! I've had trouble logging on to here and I've asked they reset my password 3 times and I guess they finally fixed it.
Well, well, well, we've been a little busy around our house! I was just telling Greg last night I'm so stinking excited to have someone to scrap other than him!
It's been a while since I updated. Greg and I went through two back to back failed matches at the end of the summer. One through a private connection, and one through our agency. Most of you know what all we've been through already so I'll spare the long story, but let me just say when I got a call from Tate's birthmom in August, I wasn't even sure I was willing to speak with her. My heart had had enough. But God is good and works out the details as he sees fit. If there is one thing I know, its all about HIS time, and not our own.
We've been blessed to have a few months to get to know the birthmother and her family. Greg and I consider them just as much our family as any blood relative. Its been amazing to watch how the Lord has unfolded this story and laid it in our laps. Even after our experiences, we have said over and over through the months how much peace we felt and just knew this was going to be our child to hold. Its been a long few months full of anticipation but the Lord really calmed my fears at times and I just sat back and let him work.
Greg and I decided to not share anything with our families until right before the due date. We finally told them on Thanksgiving (my birthday) that we were praying that they would soon have something to be very thankful for. They all shared in our excitement and caution.
Greg and I had been so busy buying and preparing for this little one that was supposed to arrive on the 14th (due date) that we never even shopped for each other for Christmas. I just couldn't think of anything that I wanted that would fit under the tree. I seriously started to question that the week of Christmas!! No baby, birthmom was having him at the military hospital, so induction was out, and they seemed to be content to let her go as far over as she wanted. They had told her 3 weeks prior he was 8 lbs. and still would not consider induction. Then she went to her appt. on the 20th and they said they were considering her due date to now be the 20th so she wasn't even late now according to the doctor. LET ME PAUSE HERE TO EMPHASIZE that military doctors do things very differently!!!! So, there you have it. No presents under the tree come Christmas Eve and they had told her they would let her go til the 31st! I thought this is going to be one boring Christmas morning with Greg and I staring at each other like we didn't have any sense! lol I just knew he was never going to get here!
Funny thing, Greg said all week, he'll be here by Christmas Day. I kept telling him not to get my hopes up but he was SURE he would be. He even informed my MIL on Christmas Eve that we would not be there Christmas morning b/c we would be going to meet our son by then. I really thought he was insane until the phone rang at 4 am and her water had just broke! Our Christmas Miracle was on his way!!
We jumped in the car and drove to the hospital (about an hour away). A's blood pressure was through the roof and they tested and confirmed preclampsia. I wasn't at all surprised b/c they let her go over. They had to do an IV drip to keep her from having a seizure and that caused a few complications with baby. He arrived at 6:07 pm weighing 10lbs and 5 oz. and 21.5 inches long. He's a big boy! We spent a few days in the special care nursery because the meds caused his heart rate and breathing to be abnormal. They had told us he would be affected by the IV meds but there was nothing else to do. Everything went smoothly at the hospital and he was out of the nursery and with us by Monday and we were discharged Tuesday and finally headed home.
He is such a good baby! As long as he is dried and full, he's so happy. We followed up with our pediatrician last Thursday and she gave us the go to feed him more since he's so big, and boy is he happy about that! They detected a heart murmur at birth and told us they would refer to a cardiologist but by the time we discharged they had said it was uncompromising. Our pedia looked at his EKG and is barely detecting it now so she is giving him a month and feels like its resolving itself.
Birthmom is doing well physically and emotionally. I have moderate contact with her and her mom. She is very confident that her decision to place was the best decision for her and this little man. Greg and I asked that she chose his first name so that we could always share with him that first gift she gave him. After her and I talking back and forth, she decided on Malachi. Greg and I love Bible names so we were over the moon when she suggested it. We chose Tate as his middle name and will probably have him go by Tate. He has about 100 nicknames so far, lol. My personal fave is Tater chip!
Please continue to pray for us. The birthfather has chosen not to do anything which makes this process longer. I'm not worried about him parenting and at this point Tate is in our agency's custody so he would have to fight the agency for custody. I won't go into much more detail about him. We will get a court date after Tate is 30 days old and terminate his rights in court since he's not being responsible for his actions. I'm not worried, he doesn't want to parent, but I can't wait for the 30 days to be over.
Hmmm... what else to say. Oh, that being his mommy is the best thing ever! God is so good!
I am in tears, tears of JOY that is! AMAZING news. I know that I am not on here often, but you are in my heart and prayers all the time. I think about you. I am so over the moon for you and your family! CONGRATS on your Christmas MIRACLE!!!!!!!!
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Absolutely amazing story Kelly! Congrats again! I can't wait to see your scrapbook pages of little Tate! So amazing!
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Kelly, I'm so glad you were able to log in, because I was dying for the story. I love how Greg was right about Christmas. And that's crazy that they wouldn't induce (despite my feelings on induction, it just seems like there were grounds to induce). I love the name Tater (and got a giggle when that was first posted on Facebook). I am so thrilled for the two of you, you deserve every joy in the world!!!!! Don't be a stranger, please keep us posted! And more pictures please!!!
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Oh my goodness! I cried my way through your whole post!
I'm so very excited for you and thrilled that you received a little Christmas blessing!
I can imagine the 30-day wait is annoying but I'm glad you seem confident about the outcome. I'll pray that it all works out perfectly.
God bless your perfect little family this year!
What an amazing journey for you all!!! Congrats to you!
Being a mom to a little boy is the most wonderful thing in the world. I wish you all a lifetime of amazing moments.
Wow!!! I have goose bumps, I am so happy for you. Merry Christmas! I think you win for the best present ever on Christmas day. Enjoy your new family!!! Also have fun scrapping someone other than your DH.
Here I am on my lunch hour just crying tears of joy!!! What an amazing journey you have been on. I can't even write in words how happy I am for you both!!!! Malachi is just BEAUTIFUL!! There is no greater Christmas present. Wow!!! Our God is truly amazing. SOOOO over the moon happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I agree with Charys...words can not even express how happy I am for you guys Kelly. God is sooo good and sooo just and gave you the perfect gift straight from heaven. What a beautiful, fabulous story and testimony of how faithfulness comes with a HUGE blessing. You are an inspiration to us all sweet friend.
Welcome Malachai and blessings to you and Greg this year girl. What a gorgeous picture. Please keep updating and sharing okay? Thank you Father for your grace!
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Oh so very very happy for you!! Tate is ADORABLE! I just want to squeeze his cheeks!
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