Jury Duty

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Jury Duty

I have a vent/prayer request.

I was called to jury duty today, and I got picked to be on a jury. That is even after telling the lawyers that I had 2 kids at home and I didn't know really know how I was going to get childcare for the week. So now DH is really frustrated with me, because I supposedly didn't answer the questions right. It is making me sick to my stomach with him be so frustrated with me over this. His parents are retired and live very close and have offered to watch the kids, but he doesn't want them to, because he claims that they see our kids more than her does. Thy don't. Anyway, if you got to the end of this little rant, can you please say a quick prayer for me and my DH. Thanks

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It could be very well because you said you didn't know what you'd do for daycare that a lawyer may have liked you. You never know with them. I'm sorry hubby isn't happy about it, but there is nothing you can do about it. If he doesn't want his parents to watch the kids, is he going to take off and watch them then?

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I don't know what we are going to do, I think he is going to try to work from home, which I don't know how he can do that with a 2 yr old and an 8 month old. He has also looked up some daycares that do emergency care. So we will see. To much stress for me, and he is not really speaking to me at this point, which just makes me cry.

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It's weird that he won't let his parents watch them. Wouldn't that save money? I understand how that goes though.

I'm saying prayers for you and your husband. You'll get through this. (((hugs)))

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Many prayers going out to you and your dh. I pray that something can be worked out.

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It isn't your fault, you answered honestly, that's all you can do. IMO, the ones picking for jury duty don't really care. My dh was on call for jury duty and we didn't have childcare either and told them that (because I work a couple afternoon/evenings a week and dh is with Miles then). They said they pay for childcare if needed, so I don't think there's really a way out unless you're nursing or something. Goodluck. Everything will work out. :bighug:

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Hope you can work something out.

He shouldn't be angry at you for getting jury duty. It is just part of our civic duty. Although I think you could have got out of it if you had replied to the thing they send out saying you are the care provider for children. I got called not even a month after having Mason and since I am home taking care of him and he is not school age I didn't have to go.

I wouldn't mind going except that I didn't want to leave him when he was that tiny. I never get called at very convenient times. The last time I was in college and couldn't miss class.

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:bigarmhug: Praying for you!

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DH apologized to me last night, and told me he is not really mad at me, he is really frustrated with the situation. This was after I stood my ground more so than I usually do, which I should do more often and told him how I was feeling.
I knew I had said what I felt was honest, and what I thought would get me out so I could be home with my kids. If it wasn't for my kids, I wouldn't mind doing jury duty. So he is going to stay home with them today, and tomorrow is a holiday, so I will be home, then we are looking into some temporary care for Thursday and Friday. Although, one of my good friends just offered to watch Heidi.

Thanks for all your prayers, and when this whole ordeal is over, I have 2 new LO's to take pictures of and post. Smile

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I'm glad he apologized, just sounds like it was stressful for both of you. But I think he's silly not to let his parents watch the kids while you do this. You're so lucky to have family that close that CAN help in times like this.

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Glad you are working through it. Sorry you couldn't just use his parents. Hope your jury duty is over quickly.

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I will keep your situation in my prayers but I am glad your hubby apologized. Mine too always gets grouchy with me when he's actually mad at the sitation. And like you, it takes standing up to him to make him realize and come to his senses.
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"melly14" wrote:

To much stress for me, and he is not really speaking to me at this point, which just makes me cry.

Awww, sweetie, my dh does this to me too and I do cry, then he says I'm playing dirty. I'm so sorry he's made you feel this way, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it and he should understand that. I hope you find a solution, sending you positive thoughts!!

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So far so good with being on a Jury. DH stayed home with the kids yesterday, and today the courts are closed for veterans day. So we are going to figure outwhat we are going to fo for tomorrow and Friday. Possibly Monday, but I am hoping not. Thanks for all your support, I really needed it.

A lot of good has come of our troubled night, we seem to be that much closer. Smile DH has been a different person to me in a GOOD way. Smile

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I'm so glad things are looking better for you - hope Jury Duty is over soon!

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Glad things are better. I hope things continue to work out for you both.

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Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts and prayers. DH and I are doing great!It has been nice to be on an equal playing field at night and working together more and better than ever to get house things taken care of. I am kind of enjoying being away a little, but missing my kids a lot. Jury duty is going slow, the Judge told us yesterday that we would need to make plans to be there on Monday also. so wish us luck tomorrow as we are taking the kids to daycare for the first time ever, just for a half day, but still. It is going to be an early morning for all of us.We have to leave by 7. DH usually leaves at 10am for work. Wink We are usually up and out by 9:30 or 10 at the earliest. There could be some fun and excitement tomorrow. Wink Thanks again for everything. Biggrin You all have been my support, and great support at that through this little fun this week.

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Glad it is going well Smile

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Glad to hear it!

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I am glad to hear things are going good for you girl. Thanks for updating.

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I am so glad that good could come from this!

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