Sorry for putting this on here i am just so upset right now and my sisters are all at work.
I just found out my mil had ''the talk'' with jazz!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not sex but the puberty talk. I am so upset if i don't chill out before calling her i will end up screaming at her!
So jazz had this puberty health class coming out and i had not signed the paper yet cause i guess i felt rushed like this is my baby and why do i have to tell her now when the school is ready and not when i am ready. Well i got over it and decided that she has to learn sometime. So i wanted to take her out before the class to talk to her but when i tried i chickened out and could not do it. A week goes by and i forget about it, well last night jazz went to mil's house after school since she lives 1 min away and i am 20 min. Mil calls to see if she could sleep over since i had an appt this morning so i say yes. Big mistake. I guess the class is today okay i lost it now i am bawling and so jazz tells mil she needs the note signed by me and mil decides to talk to her. This is my only girl! The only one and only time i can do this and that ***** took that from me. I called to check on jazz this morning and mil tells me oh she has her class today so i talked to her. I was like what! I was in shock and thank god cause i would have went off so bad. So i say please tell me you did not say anything about a period! She said no but i could tell she was lying. I mean jazz does not even know about the hair down there thing and my mil already has a dirty mouth and i can't picture her telling my innocent daughter these things. I am calling her back after jazz goes to school to tell her how hurt i am and i am asking jazz what she said!!! I mean i just feel robbed!!!!! Sorry if i sound crazy just really upset!
Oh Tia- I completely understand why you are upset. That is something you needed to share with your daughter. I hope that you and Jazz can have some girl time and talk with her. I bet that even though g'ma spilled the beans she will want to hear it all from you. I know that may not make up for it, but I still think you two could have some special time too.
Now I have a g'ma that is quick to open her mouth too. I'd like to believe that your MIL had good intentions and didn't mean to step on your toes but you have shared a few stories to make me partially believe otherwise. What was definitely wrong was for her to be dishonest with you when you confronted her about it. I would be more mad about that than anything.
Jazz is teeny bopper! She probably thought g'ma was out there and paid little attention to her anyway!! Talk to her yourself. I bet she is still full of questions that she will ask you and never dared to ask her.
Oh Tia. I'd be so upset too. You have the right to disclose this information- or not. You are her parent. I hope that you can still talk with Jazz and maybe clear things up better and dispel any myths or out there or scary seeming things that your mil described.
I can completely understand why you would be fuming. I swear if my MIL or even my own mum did anything like that i would REALLY want to shout at them and i am not a shouting person. She had absolutely no right to tell your daughter about something so personal.
You are right to feel robbed. Talking about this is something i have thought about and started planning for and my DD is only 5 months old.
I'm sorry, i have no constructive advice what so ever because i am so so so angry for you. GRRR!
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oh hun that woman has crossed the line so many times in your lives...I'm so sorry you have to deal with her I would be really upset too. I agree that Jazz probably still has a lot of questions that she wouldn't feel comfortable asking her crazy g'ma, so still go there with her...but I am very sorry your mil took this from you.
Thanks girls, I am picking up Jazz from school today and taking her to starbucks. She always wants to get starbucks when I get one but I have always told her that it is for grown ups. I am going to take her and let her get something and tell her now she can since she is growing up. (my sisters idea) I love her. I ended up making a page on Jazz to calm me down and mil did call and I was in tears. I did not scream cause I wanted her to feel bad as she knew how I felt about this and she knew it was my job to tell her. I was crying so loud and told her how hurt I am that she took that away from me. She was just quiet and sounded more irritated. I then told her I would not need her to pick us Jasmin and I would be picking her up. Right then she knew I was upset and said okay and then hung up the phone. We left it at that. I told dh who I thought would not understand how and why I was so upset but he did. He said Tia I understand that is special to you and she ruined it. I love him. Well I will update you all when I hear what she tells dh. I am better after scrapping. Off to post the page
So sorry this happened Tia. She had no right to do that!!!! HUGS!
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