I COULD ONLY SHOW A FEW CAUSE MY EX IS IN THEM ALL BUT HERE ARE SOME!
Long story but so worth reading. So as some of you know I had Anthony when I was only 16 years old. At that age I knew nothing about being a mom but did my best. I met my dh when Anthony was only 5 months old and at the point it was honestly love at first site! I mean I was still with Anthonys dad and we never fought or had 1 problem but when I saw Justin I just knew I would be with him forever. I left my ex for him which made things bad between us. We had to go to court and I made sure I had 50/50 custody. The thing was I did not know yet what placement meant. I said Anthony's father would have placement cause the apartment was in his name. So I had Anthony living with me till his dad said I would only get him every other week cause he had placement!!!! I tried going back to court to say I did not know what I did but being 17 then without any money for an attorney I did not get very far. Well my ex kept keeping Anthony from me and when I went to the cops they said that I had to go through court. As time went on he told Anthony I was not there when he was younger but I always was! He even moved and changed Anthony's daycare and his # so I could not find Anthony. I started calling every daycare in the phonebook but they said they could not give out info on what kids they had. I started the court papers but my court date was 3 months away. Then I tried something else. I called every daycare but said hi can I speak with Anthony ******S teacher. So many times I got, um mam this is the wrong # till finally one answered and said sure hold on. By now it had been 2 months since I had seen my son so I hung up and raced to the daycare. The thing is when I got there I was balling trying to tell them my story and they said they could not let my son see me like that and had no proof that I was his mom. Looking back now I must have looked crazy but what mother who had her son basically kidnapped would not be crazy. It ended up being 4 months till court due to a conflict of intrest with the judge. The only address I had was my ex's mom so I sent cards telling Anthony how much I missed him and loved him. I tried calling her but she said her son would also not talk to her. After court I finally got Anthony along with papers stating that I got him and what days. Years later I had money for an attorney and started the custody battle which you all know I now just won!!!!! I never told Anthony all the things his dad was doing as a kid cause I did not want to hurt him but now that he is older I tell him anything he asks me. I told him that I was always there and sent cards and everything. He believed me but I always wondered if he believed me for sure.
Now to the important part. So monday I get a call from my ex's mom. She called all choked up saying how bad she missed Anthony. My ex has a crazy wife who does not want my ex or Anthony to see his grandma. Anthony's grandma could not hurt a fly and is the nicest person ever. Well I tell her I have Anthony now and if she would like I could bring him to see her. She started crying and said she had not seen him in almost 6 months! I took him there and picked him back up later that afternoon. He came back with an envelope. On the cover it said ...To Anthony when he turns 18. It then said... So you always know you were loved from the beginning. She told him to open it with me. Inside were all the cards I sent! All the pics of Anthony and I when he was younger. The hospital pics, the baby shower pics Anthony walking and crawling and holidays! SHe even had the grandparent cards I had sent her in it! I started bawling! I hardly ever took pics when I was that young so while Jazz and Tyson and Damien's albums are full Anthony's has missing chapters. I showed him and it healed him so much to know I was not lying to him and that he was taken from me and I just did not leave him like his dad told him. I have to make the best thankyou card to send her for giving me and Anthony back the missing pieces of our life together! There were also some pics of Anthonys dad and I so Anthony could see we were once good friends. Anthony has been walking around so happy ever since. I have to show you all some of these pics as I look like a baby myself! I said a prayer and thanked god that finally my heart is being healed ! I have a lot of scrapping to get caught up on!!!
OMG! What an amazing story. You so brought tears to my eyes and made me gasp outloud! How sweet. I am sooooo happy for you Tia! Best of luck to you and Anthony. I am glad you are able to heal up your relationship b/c you both deserve it.
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I am so sorry that your ex did that to you and Anthony but so happy that things turned out in your favor! How wonderful that you finally have all those memories now and that Anthony knows how much he was loved!
oh, wow. I have tears in my eyes. I really can't imagine going through all of that, especially at such a young age. I'm so glad that Anthony can see how much you loved him from the very beginning. And I can't wait to see the pages that will result.
I'm so happy his grandma gave you all of that.
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Okay I was tearing up reading your post. I am so happy that she kept those things for you and him. Now he knows how much you thought of him and how you were there.
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Oh my I have tears in my eyes. That is wonderful that she saved all that for him and now you have lots of scrapping to do
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Thanks girls, I am too happy for words! I mean that is only a small section of my story with him. I have been through so much with going to pick him up on Christmas and his dad not even showing up where I had to drive home crying in tears. his went on for years but it was the love for my son that kept me from going to court. As a child myself of parents who divoriced I did not want any messy custody battle for Anthony. I also wanted to protect him and his dad was already saying bad things that were not true about me. All I thought was if I did the same thing then who would Anthony have to trust. For years my mom, dh and my sister said just wait till he is older and when he asks you then you can tell him. They all told me that one day my son would see what his dad did. Anthony even had a rule in his home that he could not bring me up. He could never call me so we found an online game we could both go on and talk to each other on. Well one day my emotions got the best of me and while my ex said how Anthony did not want to talk to me I said then why does he sneak on the computer to get ahold of me! I felt so bad cause Anthony was grounded and still can't go on the computer at his dads house! Just sad but here he knows he is free to talk about his dad and step sisters and while I would love to call his dad every name in the book, I still tell Anthony that sometimes love makes you do crazy things and that I like his dad cause he gave me Anthony. I am glad he learned everything himself rather than me bashing his father and so glad that he can heal and be himself here. Thanks if you got this far. I have always wanted to tell you all this story it was just hard to when I did not have him living here.
What a story!!! I am so glad that everything has worked out for you and it made me smile a LOT that he got to see all the cards etc. you sent for him.
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wow, this has me in tears. what a story...thank you for sharing this with us. That's absolutely wonderful that she gave all that to you. OMG, I'm just so happy for you.
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