Kelly, I am so, so saddened to hear this news. I can not even imagine the feelings you are going through. I am sending up prayers now and will continue to pray for you guys.
Kelly I'm truly heartbroken for you. I can't believe this birthfather. We were talking with out SW about this type of situation in our home visit. She was saying if something like this happened they would go to court and prove that the father wasn't involved with the BM during the pregnancy and therefore probably wouldn't be there for the child. I will pray that God's will be done and I hope he gives you peace.
Daughter Rileigh Ann arriving January 2012
I'm at a total loss for words. My heart is crushed. Kelly, I will just pray.
IRREGARDLESS, if a birthfather steps up (even after birth and in this case he denied it the whole 9 months, he still can establish paternity, petition for custody, or what not so long as his rights have not been terminated yet. He filed a petition on day 29 and we had to wait til day 30 to file. Even if we filed first he still would have to be served, constitutional right, and could defend and not consent. It is what it is, and unfortunately a birthfather can do nothing and then still ask for rights later. I guess in many situations if the birthfather is nonexistent throughout you would assume that he wouldn't step up after, we sure thought that too. I'm making a generalization here and excuse me for that but "most" adoption scenarios deal with young people that don't always have the maturity to make the best decisions. Not trying to judge but Lord knows I've seen it. Sometimes that "Baby Bliss" stops everything in its tracks. Ask your counselor how many failed adoptions (%) that they have in all and then how many of those are POST birth. If they can give you that statistic I guarantee its shocking!! It all just changes and becomes "real" once the baby arrives.
Too bad I don't make a lawyer's salary b/c I sure do feel like I could keep up in the legal arena.
Thanks girls for your words, my heart hurts and I feel completely lost and overwhelmed but I'm just trying not to question God. The last thing I want to have is a bitter heart. There just isn't a place in my world for that.
BTW Gwen, quit chasing post deleting siggies, I love ya girl, but that doesn't bother me!
You have a very strong faith, and I admire that in you. I continue to pray. Is there any chance at all that this could work out for you or is it hopeless? You've been on my mind constantly since I first read your post. I did see your FB status, and it seems like the birth mother is protecting the baby by taking him back - is that what I should be reading into?
Kelly, you've been on my heart today, too, and every time I come back and read I am reminded that "joy comes in the morning."
I hope the morning is soon for you.
"Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10
Kelly, I have absolutely no words to say. I cannot imagine having to give up my child, which is what you had to do. My heart and thoughts go out to you both and I'm trying to send positive thoughts your way so you can heal from this, but I can't help but want to curse and carry on on your behalf because it's simply not fair.
I cried when I saw you post on FB and I am crying again now reading the reason why. Your whole experience with adoption has made us think twice about adopting ourselves, I couldn't go thru half of what you have - you are truly a strong woman.