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    Hi ladies! I was hoping that I could request a prayer for us and/or positive thoughts.

    We keep hitting bumps in the road with our adoption process. It is rather frustrating and I'm growing a little impatient. We had our fee meeting cancelled and rescheduled once because they had an unexpected delivery/placement that had to take place. And that fee meeting was suppose to be before Thanksgiving and it didn't happen until January.

    Then this week we had our individual interviews scheduled with our social worker. 2hours before I am suppose to arrive I receive a call from her saying that she needs to cancel/reschedule both mine and Cart's because they have an unexpected out of town birth/placement. So I rescheduled mine for today at 10am and Cart's for Tuesday right before our home visit. I show up this morning at the agency at 10am and when the SW comes to the lobby she has this confused look on her face. She had me on her calendar for NEXT Friday when we clearly spoke about today when we spoke on Tuesday.

    So next week is Cart's interview at 2pm. Then I'll get home about 330 and we'll switch gears to our homevisit. Then on Wednesday at 10am is my interview with her.

    If you could please pray that these meeting go according to plan, that God grant me more patience than I have already acquired, and that we get on the waiting list soon after meetings. Thank you so much!
    Kebrina
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    That really sucks My friend is going through the same process out here in California and has the same complaints. I really wish they would make it easier for great families like you guys to get through the process without so many headaches.
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    Sending many thoughts and prayers your way. It is crazy how hard they make it for people to adopt. You have to jump through hoops and they can't even have the courtesy to keep meetings they schedule with you!

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    Kebrina, I am so sorry to hear how frustrating it is. Keep your chin up gir! I will add you guys to my prayers.
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    Sorry you have had so much confusion and delays Kebrina. Sometimes it does get like that at agencies, we've experienced that as well. SW are overworked and underpaid from what we have observed. I know that may not make you feel better but may add some perspective to help with tolerance I guess.

    The homestudy process for me was a little frustrating. I'm way too type A and it took way too long. But its required in the US in order to adopt so what do you do?

    I'll say this and girl you know I know what I'm talking about... try to distant yourself from the process as much as possible. I know right now you are really eager to be "officially waiting" b/c nothing happens until you are waiting. I'll pray that goes smooth and quick for you and Carter. That waiting is hard too! And often the contact between you and the SW will be sporadic. What am I trying to say? Who knows really!!! I guess just try to stay busy and find outlets to keep you occupied so you don't go crazy. I hope your wait is short!

    I'm not sure if I understood your post completely. Are you being asked to pay your agency prior to placement? That is a major red flag for me. What happens if you don't receive a placement through them? I've learned over the years there is a lot of unethical doings in adoption. Not to say that your agency is unethical by any means but that is a red flag where agencies is concerned.
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    Oh, so frustrating! I really hope everything goes well next week so this part of the process can be over for you!
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    Oh No Kelly we don't have to pay everything up front. The Fee meeting was between us the SW and the director of the program. We are using Children's Home Society of FL. Our Fee meeting went over what the fee's are and when they are due. Our first BIG payment is due when we are matched, Then at placement and then before finalization.

    I'm trying not to think about the process too much. And trust me I have plenty to keep me busy. That is one reason I'm so frustrated. I'm so busy and rearrange my schedule for these appointments and then they cancel. So I know once we are officially waiting I'll have plenty to keep me busy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Breen31806 View Post
    Oh No Kelly we don't have to pay everything up front. The Fee meeting was between us the SW and the director of the program. We are using Children's Home Society of FL. Our Fee meeting went over what the fee's are and when they are due. Our first BIG payment is due when we are matched, Then at placement and then before finalization.

    I'm trying not to think about the process too much. And trust me I have plenty to keep me busy. That is one reason I'm so frustrated. I'm so busy and rearrange my schedule for these appointments and then they cancel. So I know once we are officially waiting I'll have plenty to keep me busy.
    Oh ok, gotcha! I hope things get better with scheduling. We have had the same sort of things happen from our agency, meetings canceled, etc. It stinks but to look at it positively, at least you know they are having placements!
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    Quote Originally Posted by sewgirly View Post
    It stinks but to look at it positively, at least you know they are having placements!
    That is totally what I keep thinking. They are getting cancelled because of unexpected births. Birthmoms going to the hospital giving birth and then saying they want to make an adoption plan.
    Kebrina
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    I'm sorry - that would be so frustrating. I think Kelly gave a lot of great advice. I hope your next meetings both happen on time and you can get to the real waiting! And then I hope you don't have to wait too long. I have been wondering how you were doing, or where you were at in the process.
    ~Ashley

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