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sad news ... m/c ment

Hi everyone,

We hadn't told people yet but I found out the other day I was pregnant. Today I would've been 5 weeks 3 days I believe. We were so excited over this and spent most of the weekend walking in and out of shops looking at baby stuff. Today I'm bleeding heavily though. Sad I'm going to the hospital as soon as the kids get picked up from our house. I'm about 99% sure I've miscarried. I had a miscarriage at the end of 2007 and this is just like it...although, not as much pain this time. We hadn't told our families about being pregnant...only one friend, and one cousin's husband who Wayne accidentally spilled the beans to. I had just made a "pink or blue?" type layout last night too and feel like ripping it to pieces today. The pregnancy wasn't planned...I guess the stress of being in England and finding out about my Dad's death, it made me mess up my days and we were one day off. We had sex 5 days before I ovulated and I got pregnant....Maybe this wasn't planned but after the initial shock we were both so happy. I'm so sad and don't know what to do with myself. I'm fine around the kids but Wayne is saying the hellos and goodbyes with parents as that keeps wanting to make me cry again and I don't want them knowing. Please nobody post anything on facebook as we haven't told our families and aren't sure we're going to. Thanks for being there.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how devasting it is to lose not only one but 2, if you ever need to talk just PM me.

Once again I am very sorry.

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Aw Karen. I happened upon this post and it broke my heart. I'm so very, very sorry. I know you two hadn't planned it, but I can imagine how excited you were to find out. I wanted to send my biggest HUGS and tell you that I know exactly how you're feeling. I'll send up some prayers just in case and also to help with your emotional healing. I'm so sorry babe. Please PM me some time!

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Oh sweetie, i am so so sorry. Sad

Can i ask a TMI question? How heavy is the bleeding? I only ask because when i was pregnant with Ada i bled a LOT around the same time as you are now. It was like a heavy AF with clots and everything and it was scary. I was also convinced that i was loosing her.

Of course i don't want to give you false hope or anything, but perhaps you could get your levels checked?

:bighug:

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that it is not another loss for you, but if it is you know where i am.

Love to you. xx

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oh no! Sad im so sorry. :bigarmhug: im really sad because we would have been due the same day. im so so so sorry Sad

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My heart is breaking for you right now Karen.

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I am so, so sorry! ((((HUGS))))

I have been through 2 myself, and planned or unplanned, it is hard and I hate that anyone has to go through that.

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Karen, I'm so sorry. Hugs! :bigarmhug:

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Karen, I'm so sorry. Wish I could come up and give you a huge :bigarmhug: And I totally understand, planned or not it is a hard thing to deal with. Please let me know if you need anything.

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:bigarmhug:Oh my sweet friend! I can't tell you how heartbroken I am for you. Sad May you find healing and comfort from the Lord. I'm so so very sorry. I wish more than anything I could give you a hug in real life. I'm shedding tears for you. Please keep us posted. We are here for you. Always. Love you Karen.

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Karen, I am so sad for you :bigarmhug: I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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(((((hugs)))))

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I'm so sorry, Karen. :bigarmhug:

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So I know this sounds crazy but I decided not to go to the hospital tonight afterall. I was going to, but when thinking back on it I bled heavily for a super short time (minutes), and now it's back to spotting ...and I had a pain in my back only for a short time, and nothing since. No abdominal pain whatsoever. I am not in any discomfort at all. I am still fairly certain I miscarried, or am miscarrying...but I talked to my doctor who I love and he said it's up to me if I want to come see him or wait and see how I go on tonight on my own...he was with me during my last one and remembers I was in absolute agony and bled heavily for days straight. He's finding it strange I have no abdominal cramping or pain at all...and that I am already back to spotting......he said not to get my hopes up as it could very well be miscarriage, but wanted to leave the decision to me whether I see a doctor tonight or tomorrow. I am just resting now. If I wake up in agony I will of course go to emergency but if I carry on with only spotting and no pain then I think I will see him tomorrow. I am way more comfortable with him than anyone else anyway. He's brilliant and I would trust him with anything. Wayne was so sweet and even though I've been trying to eat perfectly for the sake of the baby, he got our fave pizza, fries, and even a giant nanaimo bar which is my fave dessert. He says "baby or no baby, you so deserve a treat right now." I feel so bad for him because he initially freaked out when I told him I was pregnant, and then was so happy about it the last few days. I can tell this is hurting him badly too. Like I said, I will not get my hopes up, but I will carry on praying, whatever happens. Thank you for all your support girls. :bigarmhug:

Sarah nothing is tmi for me hun. I gushed for about a minute and then nothing. I had no idea you went through that with Ada...I have never even heard of someone having bright red bleeding with clots and all and it not being immediate miscarriage. So thank you for sharing. :bigarmhug:

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I am so sorry Karen. I hope the bleeding has stopped now. I've heard of lots of women bleeding early in their pregnancies. I'm holding on to some hope for you. Please kup after your appt. :bighug:

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Oh, Karen! I sure do hope its nothing. I'm praying for you and your husband. I have had several friends to go through that early on so I pray its just minor and everything is fine.

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I am so sorry. I've been through two miscarriages myself and i know how disheartening it is. I hope you get an answer either way at your dr.'s appt tomorrow. Please KUP.

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Karen I'm so sorry to hear this. But I do hold out hope for you. KUP! What a sweet hubby you have.

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Having gone through a m/c and having to see a strange doctor during it, I understand your reasoning for waiting completely. I will continue to pray for you. We just had a girl at my Feb bb who had heavy bleeding with clotting and was okay. Not trying to get your hopes up, but she was the first case I had ever heard of where clotting didn't turn into a m/c so on that too I can see how you'd assume m/c with the clotting.

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I have you in my thoughts and prayers Karen and will be anxiously waiting to see what the dr. says today. :bigarmhug:

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Hugs Karen! I can't imagine going through that!

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:bigarmhug: i hope you are at the doc right now! i really hope it was just a little scare and that everything is going to be okay!

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:bigarmhug: Especially as you wait to hear what's happening!

I've experienced it both ways, bleeding leading to a m/c and I bled/spotted until about 14 weeks with DD. But I also know how hard it is to be waiting and trying to figure out what you're body is doing. Sad

Prayers sent your way! And a GI-NOR-MOUS virtual hug sent your way!

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I am so confused. No bleeding, no pain, not even spotting ...none of the above since about 11pm last night...(and even then no pain at all) ...I feel fine...I slept fine (not sure if that's good! but i was so tired from being upset)...

surely you can't be finished bleeding in minutes and then spot?? I found my notes I made when it happened in 2007 and I did bleed for a week in a lot of pain......so either I still have a baby to grow or it will finish up soon. I don't want to keep my hopes up but I don't want to act like I don't believe it can happen either or what's the point of praying! lol....

I am just going to stick to my pregnancy diet, lots of rest, keep taking prenatals, etc. That can't hurt either way. I'll phone my doctor when they're open in an hour and hopefully he can squeeze me in between his appointments. We only have 2 kids today of 6 so Wayne can play in the yard with them while I go there. It's literally right across the road. lol.

*sigh* i dunno girls! we'll see. thanks for all your support :bigarmhug:

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:bigarmhug: :bigarmhug::bigarmhug: :bigarmhug:
Huge hugs coming to you Karen, I can't imagine what it must be like. I'll be thinking of you and hope that you find some peace in your heart.

ETA - We seemed to have posted at the same time. Good luck today at the doctors. You need some answers at this point.

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Oh Karen, I am so sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart that you had to go thru this again. Anything we can do to help, just let us know :bigarmhug:

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I didn't see your update- good luck at the dr's office, please KUP.

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I jumped on really quick to see how you were. I hope everything is ok. I'm praying for you right now. :bighug:

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I've been thinking about you! I hope your dr can squeeze you in today.

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quickly coming on to update but still know nothing ...I have had a blood test but won't know any results until tomorrow...and that won't help much anyway as they will need one more to compare it to which is going to be taken friday afternoon...i am being sent for an ultrasound tomorrow at 11 but my cousin says they don't usually give results to the patient; only their doctor...so I'll have to phone in and hope he will tell me something over the phone...cuz he's at his other office tomorrow which is nowhere near here.
i just wish i knew either way honestly. i'll try to get something out of someone and update you when possible.

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wow, I missed a lot when I was gone for a few days. thinking of you, and I really hope that everything is just fine and the bleeding was nothing. you have a great DH in Wayne, I'm glad he's taking care of you.

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i hope you get some answers Sad

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Oh gosh, it must be awful living in limbo like that. I am keeping you in my T&P's hun. :giveflower:

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Oh my goodness Karen! I'm hanging on to hope for you girl! Praying for good news next time I check your post. You must be agonizing over the uncertainty! ((((HUGS))))

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Just getting on this board now.... so sorry you are going through all of this.
Hope you get some good news soon. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.....

big hugs to you.

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During your u/s you should know right away. If they don't say something, demand to know. I've been thinking so much of you. I'm just a phone call away, if you need someone to talk to friend! hugs, Charys

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I am so sorry that this is so stressful. I really hope there is still a baby but no matter what happens, I will say an extra prayer.

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Just b/c it wasn't planned doesn't make it any easier. I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my T&P.

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Was your scan today sweetie? How did it go? I've been thinking of you. x