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Breen31806's picture
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Vent...Totally OT

Ugghhh! To set the back dad was layed off in June. He was an IT manager. Well he hasn't been able to find a job. Lately he drinks ALOT. Several Christmases ago it was determined that he suffered from anxiety. So he's on medication for that.

So lately I've found out that my dad is out all night drinking and will sleep in his car. I've told him to call me no matter where he is and I'll come pick him up. Well apparently last night he was out drinking and didn't go home and my step-mom hasn't heard from him. I've sent him several texts and phonecalls and still haven't heard from him. I'm really worried about him.

I have no idea how to reach him other than his cell phone. It's frustrating and stressin me out. I have to go to work at 4 and really hope to have heard from him before then. Otherwise I'm going to worry about him all shift.

Three weeks from now I'm gonna have to tell him and my stepmom that I can't have any stress and that if they aren't calling to say hi and see how I'm doing then not to call me. I love my dad by can't worry and stress about him all the time. Am I being selfish in this aspect? What do I do? How do I find him? Do I go find him? Ugghh!

Joined: 09/01/04
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I'm sorry about the added stress. Has your stepmother contacted the police? If you are genuinely concerned for his safety this is the most logical step. Also, as far as limiting communication from your family in an effort to relieve strss, I hope it works out that way. Just make sure you won't worry about him when you haven't heard anything from them in a while. (Hugs)

coolmama72's picture
Joined: 10/20/01
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You are NOT being selfish. Your dad is being selfish and only thinking about himself with the drinking. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, I know you're worried about him, and I would be too. But this isn't good! I really hope that he's fine, and that he can see what your concern for him is doing to you. I don't know how you can find him, unless you know the bars he frequents and can call them to check.


K9Trainer's picture
Joined: 09/25/06
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I can totally understand your concern gosh...that is scary! I hope that by now you've found him. I don't think you're being selfish, but not sure if alienating yourself like that will make it any easier, I know it wouldn't for me. HUGS girl!!

Breen31806's picture
Joined: 09/05/06
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I just finally heard from him. At least I know he is okay and I'll deal with the situation later. I have to get ready for work.

SnowWhite9028's picture
Joined: 08/10/08
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Holy moly! That IS stressful! :eek: Sending some :bighug: your way. I'm glad to hear that your Dad is safe!

MommyCB's picture
Joined: 05/04/06
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Sad I'm sorry you are in this situation, but don't for one second think YOU are being selfish! You are being completely reasonable in choosing to stay out of the added stress. And it's wise of you, because when you get pregnant, that's the last thing you'll need to have to worry about too. ::::: hugs:::::

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Joined: 02/26/07
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That is very stressful! And I have no idea what I'd do in that situation - just wanted to give you a :bigarmhug: