I watch another little boy during the week (same age as my son) they LOVE playing with eachother. Eli LOVES being with him and looks for him in the mornings. I've also started pre-school with them.
What do i do when I get pg? I know more then likely i will be bed ridden at the end of my pregnancy because i have a very bad lower back to begin with. and I would want bonding time with baby. I don't think i'll need 6weeks of bonding time (like a normal job gives you) but I would like to take a few weeks off. When do i tell her? When I get pg? Should i tell her now that dh and I are trying.
I'm kind of torn because Eli LOVES the interaction with him. BUT my selfish side says that I just want this time with my children. Thurs and Fri Austyn doesn't get here until later in the morning. i LOVE these mornings with Eli and wish I had more of them.
I keep a little girl in my home two days a week...they are now 7 mths (the child I keep) and 11 mths (my DD) and they still don't really "play" together although both are crawling/cruising around...basically they look at each other and scream. If they weren't so pitiful it would be kind of funny.
All that to say my situation seems a little different...but I told the mom when I was about 12 weeks along.
I'm due in mid-August, and am going to stop keeping Callie mid-June (32 weeks) for a couple of reasons:
1. I'm going to the beach for a week and then they are going to the beach for a week.
2. Then my twice-weekly appts start up and they are an hour away...I didn't want Callie's mom to have to deal with my schedule.
Also, I LOVE the days that Callie isn't here so Cady Mae and I can cuddle and play alone. I know I will miss that when the new one is here, so I want to enjoy it while I can!
Oh yeah, and I considered offering to keep Callie once I get settled in with the new baby, but I didn't b/c my two will be 16 mths apart and I didn't want to try to deal with a 16 mth, 12 mth, and newborn.
My mom, however, insists that I will wish Callie was here to occupy Cadence when the new one comes. She had four kids in five years...maybe I should listen to her!?
I agree, wait until you hit the start of the second trimester to tell her. I'm sure she'll understand, but there's a chance she'll find care she likes and will keep him there instead. Just realize that's a possibility, as much as Eli and Austyn enjoy each other.
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I know it's possible for her to like someone else better, We don't need this income to survive so that won't be a big deal. i guess if she doesn't come back then i'll look into care for Eli 2-3 days/week. he loves interaction with other children
I agree with the other ladies in telling her once you are further along. I think its great that you want to have time to bond with your own kiddos for a while. I nannied when I was preggo with Zylin and stopped about a month before I was due, just to be able to rest and settle into my own before having a kiddo. Turns out I had Zylin two weeks before my due date so it was good. The family I nannied for was also having a baby a month later so I was not in any way going to be able to take care of a toddler and two newborns I ended up nannying for a family at church and took Zylin with me to their house. They had an almost three yr old and a 5 yr old at the time. It was, for the most part, really great. It was really hard having a relativly newborn (two months almost three) at the time, and was difficult for him with naps and such. But as he got older it was fun for him to play with the girls and have them as friends. We stayed with them for almost two years. He still remembers those times with them fondly. I wish I could have stayed home with him by myself though, he was somewhat difficult to put to sleep and nursed ALOT during the night so I was really tired. I think you should leave the option open to be able just to have your own two at home without another to worry about for AT LEAST 6 weeks. Im sure she will understand...its pretty normal to have that long for maternity leave in most all employments.
The kids I watch are older but I am not stopping until delivery. We have 2 contingency plans for when I go into labor. I will have a week off from the kids and then I have a friend who will stay with me the next week while I adjust to having all four of them. Basically, I look at it as though I now have 4 children and have to adjust accordingly.