Am I ready for this??

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Am I ready for this??

So last night I was doing my usual evening pick up around the house, and it finally hit me....I am about to have an INFANT again. Not a baby, but an INFANT. I started remembering all of the rough nights with DS, and the screaming, and the nursing and how tired I was, and I just can't wrap my head around how I am going to manage that AND have a 2 year old running around.

I know there are positives too, and I was just remembering the hard parts, but MAN it really freaked me out. Using a midwife this time around, there just aren't as many ultrasounds, so I haven't had one since 20 weeks. I know that is normal, but last time I had at least one in the 3rd trimester. I think it helped me bond with the baby. I know I will love this baby, and most of the time I am truly excited to have him as poart of our family, but right now I am just feeling overwhelmed.

Anyone else feeling like this??

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Big time! it is my last week of work, last week I wasexcited to be off with DD and eventually the new LO, this week I am dreading it!

I am not looking forward to the exhaustion. I took a sleep seminar last week for newborns which helped build my confidence but overall, I am dreading having a baby and a 2 yo at the same time.

I really worry about DD as well!

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yep. I'm going to have an infant and a 13 month old.

and I have no freakin' idea how I'm going to do it. The thought just stresses me out and overwhelms me.

I had a ton of problems with J and didn't really enjoy him or have a strong desire to do nothing but snuggle him until he was like 3 weeks old. I couldn't nurse, it killed me that I couldn't, I was exhausted, I had an infection - I was MISERABLE. I don't want any of that again - especially on top of having another one running around. Especially one who doesn't actually understand anything yet.

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Sometimes I feel as though I shouldn't be having these feelings because we are so blessed to have a 2 year old and another on the way, but I can't help it!

I am off to my 37 week mw appt now, where I'll get my GBS swab. I know they don't usually check progress at my office, but I might ask anyway.

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Chris and I were talking about that the other day. Brandon is 4 now and he's so independent, not to mention he sleeps all night and is completely PT. It's daunting going from that to starting to all over again. I'm not feeling overwhelmed but the thought has crossed my mind.

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I hear ya. Apart from all the extra worry about this LO, its just hitting me that we're starting all over. Hailey is finally able to make herself understood, she follows instructions, can go get things if you ask her, things like that...and she sleeps! Solid 11 horus at night and 1.5-2 hours during the day. It took so long to get to this point just from a sleep point of view....not looking forward to the no sleeping thing again.

I worry about how her world is going to be flipped upside down, and I just pray that she never feels like she's been replaced or that we don't love her anymore. That is probably my biggest fear, that she's going to be hurting emotionally and we won't know. She loves babies, and is a very empathetic child, and we are commited to not changing her routine etc, so I hope she will love the baby and want to be involved.

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I love the newborn stage and usually the lack of sleep doesnt bother me, BUT the thought of doing this with 2 babies is really scary!!!! :eek:

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The whole "starting over" thing really freaks me out as well. I didn't really enjoy the newborn stage... DD was pretty frustrated with life until she was able to hold her head up and move around a bit on her own... then she was suddenly a very happy baby (she has a very independent personality). I'm hoping that having done it once before, and therefore having different expectations, will be helpful. I am nervous about being Mommy to two, though! I want to make sure they both get the attention/love/etc. that they need, and I know that will probably be challenging in the first few weeks.

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I do love the newborn stage but I just do not feel ready yet! It's funny because this is the first baby I've felt that way still at this point in the pregnancy. I just don't know how I'm going to do it. I know I will but the thought of actually doing it is daunting.

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I'm feeling it too, i had a total meltdown last night about it when DH started bringing up wantingto put wyatt into preschool so he has some play time and it makes me feel like he doesn't think i can handle it Sad We finally agreed to not change his routine too much aside from having him move into the big kid swim lessons because i won't be able to get into the pool with him anymore.

I'm also really freaking out because i remember how tired and crabby I was with a newborn and the only thing that saved me was napping with him in the afternoon and it won't be as easy to nap with a 2 year old. I'm just really hoping that our schedule remains intact and he continues to nap and sleep through the night :eek: I don't know what i'll do if he starts to regress from sleeping or potty training.

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"Cherrykitten" wrote:

I'm also really freaking out because i remember how tired and crabby I was with a newborn and the only thing that saved me was napping with him in the afternoon and it won't be as easy to nap with a 2 year old. I'm just really hoping that our schedule remains intact and he continues to nap and sleep through the night :eek: I don't know what i'll do if he starts to regress from sleeping or potty training.

I'm worried about the regressing too. DD didn't sleep well during the day as a newborn, so I didn't get to nap much. She currently takes a good nap... I'm REALLY hoping that doesn't change.

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"Cherrykitten" wrote:

I'm feeling it too, i had a total meltdown last night about it when DH started bringing up wantingto put wyatt into preschool so he has some play time and it makes me feel like he doesn't think i can handle it Sad We finally agreed to not change his routine too much aside from having him move into the big kid swim lessons because i won't be able to get into the pool with him anymore.

Maybe preschool is not such a bad idea. It would give him a chance to play with other kids and develop some social skills. This would also give you time to get some sleep and things done that you would not otherwise have time to do with two little ones. I got to where I looked forward to having her go and play with her friends so that I could have some regroup time.

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I have had periods of excitement then 5 minutes later, I'm scared to death. After Monday night thinking he was coming, I have been scared since. Coby is 5 and barely needs me for anything. I think he is going to be a great helper. I'm just dreading the feeding and lack of sleep. I go out alot during the day when DH is sleeping so I'm wondering how I will do with 2 kids. I'm sure I will be finding out by the end of the week though. I think this is the magic week for us. I can't believe it though. I'm going to be in denial until we get home and I'm used to him being here. OMG! Just thinking about this has me totally freaking out again.

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I'm completely scared...I know how hard it was with one and now I'll have two infants at one time. My daughter is 4 and extremely independent so I'm too worry about her. I'm scared about the nursing and the lack of sleep and everything that comes with newborns. But I'm excited to meet the LOs and know that they are happy/healthy.

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Im glad others have the same worry cause i am totally freaking out over here... im scared of the lack of sleep and how I am going to juggle 2 kids :eek:

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"Roobear" wrote:

I worry about how her world is going to be flipped upside down, and I just pray that she never feels like she's been replaced or that we don't love her anymore. That is probably my biggest fear, that she's going to be hurting emotionally and we won't know. She loves babies, and is a very empathetic child, and we are commited to not changing her routine etc, so I hope she will love the baby and want to be involved.

my biggest fear too. DD is so affectionate to her baby sister already. hugs and cuddles with my belly talks of all the things she will teach and do with her sister. i worry big time that once baby is here and here all the time and mommy and daddy have to tend to the baby alot that her mood will chage. and at times i think she will be just fine based on all of this. but it scares me

as far as starting over that worries me too. DD sleeps all night and is potty trained too. i worry how baby will effect these habits of hers. and i hope i can get DD to take some naps with me and the new baby so i can get a few extra z's during the day too Wink

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I'm feeling this way too - I enjoyed the newborn stage somewhat, I just had a lot of anxiety about it, and DD fed practically every other hour, so there were literally days I spent on the couch watching tv all day because she ate, then I changed her, then she slept an hour, then we did it all again. She was never a good sleeper in the beginning, and only recently has been waking up screaming in the middle of the night with nightmares(?). So I'm really not getting decent sleep at all right now, and it's making the fear and everything else worse.

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sorry you are stressing Sad It will be okay, after the baby's born, you will eventually get in to a rhythm of things and it will all work out. Have you asked for another u/s?? that is what i am going to do at my next appt. Docs and midwives can be so stingy with u/s's. so sometimes i will ask, sometimes they will say no other times yes! LOL never hurts to ask for one.