So last night I was doing my usual evening pick up around the house, and it finally hit me....I am about to have an INFANT again. Not a baby, but an INFANT. I started remembering all of the rough nights with DS, and the screaming, and the nursing and how tired I was, and I just can't wrap my head around how I am going to manage that AND have a 2 year old running around.
I know there are positives too, and I was just remembering the hard parts, but MAN it really freaked me out. Using a midwife this time around, there just aren't as many ultrasounds, so I haven't had one since 20 weeks. I know that is normal, but last time I had at least one in the 3rd trimester. I think it helped me bond with the baby. I know I will love this baby, and most of the time I am truly excited to have him as poart of our family, but right now I am just feeling overwhelmed.
Anyone else feeling like this??
Big time! it is my last week of work, last week I wasexcited to be off with DD and eventually the new LO, this week I am dreading it!
I am not looking forward to the exhaustion. I took a sleep seminar last week for newborns which helped build my confidence but overall, I am dreading having a baby and a 2 yo at the same time.
I really worry about DD as well!
yep. I'm going to have an infant and a 13 month old.
and I have no freakin' idea how I'm going to do it. The thought just stresses me out and overwhelms me.
I had a ton of problems with J and didn't really enjoy him or have a strong desire to do nothing but snuggle him until he was like 3 weeks old. I couldn't nurse, it killed me that I couldn't, I was exhausted, I had an infection - I was MISERABLE. I don't want any of that again - especially on top of having another one running around. Especially one who doesn't actually understand anything yet.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Sometimes I feel as though I shouldn't be having these feelings because we are so blessed to have a 2 year old and another on the way, but I can't help it!
I am off to my 37 week mw appt now, where I'll get my GBS swab. I know they don't usually check progress at my office, but I might ask anyway.
Chris and I were talking about that the other day. Brandon is 4 now and he's so independent, not to mention he sleeps all night and is completely PT. It's daunting going from that to starting to all over again. I'm not feeling overwhelmed but the thought has crossed my mind.
Lenora & Chris 01.16.10
DS Brandon 05.13.07
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I hear ya. Apart from all the extra worry about this LO, its just hitting me that we're starting all over. Hailey is finally able to make herself understood, she follows instructions, can go get things if you ask her, things like that...and she sleeps! Solid 11 horus at night and 1.5-2 hours during the day. It took so long to get to this point just from a sleep point of view....not looking forward to the no sleeping thing again.
I worry about how her world is going to be flipped upside down, and I just pray that she never feels like she's been replaced or that we don't love her anymore. That is probably my biggest fear, that she's going to be hurting emotionally and we won't know. She loves babies, and is a very empathetic child, and we are commited to not changing her routine etc, so I hope she will love the baby and want to be involved.
The whole "starting over" thing really freaks me out as well. I didn't really enjoy the newborn stage... DD was pretty frustrated with life until she was able to hold her head up and move around a bit on her own... then she was suddenly a very happy baby (she has a very independent personality). I'm hoping that having done it once before, and therefore having different expectations, will be helpful. I am nervous about being Mommy to two, though! I want to make sure they both get the attention/love/etc. that they need, and I know that will probably be challenging in the first few weeks.
I do love the newborn stage but I just do not feel ready yet! It's funny because this is the first baby I've felt that way still at this point in the pregnancy. I just don't know how I'm going to do it. I know I will but the thought of actually doing it is daunting.
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
I'm feeling it too, i had a total meltdown last night about it when DH started bringing up wantingto put wyatt into preschool so he has some play time and it makes me feel like he doesn't think i can handle it We finally agreed to not change his routine too much aside from having him move into the big kid swim lessons because i won't be able to get into the pool with him anymore.
I'm also really freaking out because i remember how tired and crabby I was with a newborn and the only thing that saved me was napping with him in the afternoon and it won't be as easy to nap with a 2 year old. I'm just really hoping that our schedule remains intact and he continues to nap and sleep through the night I don't know what i'll do if he starts to regress from sleeping or potty training.
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