Anyone else having baby name woes?

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Chimmy's picture
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Anyone else having baby name woes?

We have always managed to find a name for our little ones, I think the twins took the longest but the names were picked before I'd reached my 3rd trimester. This time however, we just can't seem to get it figured out - OR we'll have a name we like & we'll start calling him by that name only to have one of us a week, or a few weeks later say that we don't like it anymore :doh:

We've played around with Cedric, Lochlann (locklan), Jack (my fav), Orion, Elijah (would go by Eli) and so on. He's been Lochlann for about a month now and while I like the name I'm not inlove with it - for some reason I love the name Jack although it doesn't fit ANY of our other boys names. All of them have an Irish or Scotish (dh is from Ireland) name. I keep telling dh that it sounds great with our last name too - but it's not working Lol he is in love with Lochlann & isn't too fond of Jack. Sooo argh! I've got a good 9 weeks left so we have some time & we may just have to wait until baby boy is here to get it figured out - it's just odd I guess to not have a name for the baby when we've always had one with our others.

Anyone else still going back n' forth?

Prudence's picture
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Yep, ChimChimChiroooo!

Except for me- my Hubby is settled on a name, but I don't like it. It's not that I hate it- I like it by itself, but it doesn't roll off of my tongue and I keep forgetting it. Then when you pair it with a middle name- it sounds blah.

Now, let me change my opinion- I LIKE the name, but I'm not sure I like it for this baby. Make any sense at all???

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We are in the same boat. We also want an Irish name for a boy, but we are struggling to find one we like that isn't too close to Kelly. We really like Kellan and Cullen, but they sound too much like Kelly. We knew that if we had a boy the first go round he would be named Kelly, so we didn't even have 2nd or 3rd picks. Since we had a boy, that left us with no other boy names. We have also talked about Burke, but I just had a high school friend name her boy Burke. Boo!

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Elijah is one that has been on our list, and we saw Cullen the other day and both kind of like it....really though we're in the same position. It seems everytime we try to talk about names we get FURTHER from actually naming him. So far the one dh likes that I like the most is Isaiah...but we already have a Josiah....I don't know I just think they are too close. My favorite is Ezra, dh hates it. DH likes Bishop...I'm not a fan. The list goes on, we just can't agree. I'm absolutely positive at this point that we're not going to decide on a name until he's born.
BTW- I *loved* Jack, dh was adament against it but I managed to make DS1's initials be JAC Wink

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So I finally emailed DH my "list" of boys names to "vote" on for babynames.com

he said NO to all of them!!!!!!! :confused:

At least he said "yes" to the ONLY girls name on the list, so I know we still agree on THAT one. :roll:

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uhhhh.... we haven't even talked about it in ages. If it's a girl, we're likely to go with Rebekah Thérèse, but if it's a boy, we're screwed. Wink

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Frustrating, isn't it! Seems like most of us struggle with the fact that we like one name & dh likes another.

Pru - that's kinda where I'm at. I don't dislike the name Lochlann it's a great name, but I just can't seem to get to a point where it fits in my head as HIS name. I wish dh liked Jack I just love it. I even tried to go the "How about naming him Lochlann Jack and calling him Jack" He said no b/c his initials are LJ and it's an ex-boyfriends name of mine. I told him he was an idiot lol

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I'm kinda in the same boat as Prudence! My husband has a name he likes, he even managed to find a middle name to go with it while we were looking at names online. It sounds nice and all, but I'm not sure if I want it for THIS baby. I like another name, and he said it's "alright", which translates, he's not fond of it and doesn't want his daughter named that. We haven't sat and continued looking at names in a while so not sure yet, but Im hoping we can find something soon. The name he picked I just can't imagine me holding her saying "Hi my little _______" etc. Though I have a feeling that in the end if we can't agree on anything I'll end up giving in and say ok we'll name her ______.

There's so many cute little girl names out there, and yet, we can't seem to find anything. I sit and think and still can't come up with anything, either. Hopefully we all have names before our little ones are here!

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We are in "avoidance" here.

Last time we had a hard time picking a name. We each made lists and I hated all of his and he hated all of mine. It took us awhile to agree on one. I've thrown some names out to him at various points in this pg and he's rejected every single one, so now we just don't talk about it, lol. No really, I think it's a combination of things that's holding us back. We can't really have the conversation with Brandon around because he doesn't like us to have adult interaction, he has to be in the middle of everything, lol. Also, he's been working ridiculous hours so we don't get much time together at night before bed.

We did set a deadline for coming up with name. My birthday is July 31 and my family is throwing me a birthday/"sprinkle" (just a little shower, lol). Brandon is spending the week before with my parents so Chris and I will have ten child-free days to come up with a name. We may just end up duking it out on the 6-hr car ride to my parents' house, lol.

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"Chimmy" wrote:

Frustrating, isn't it! Seems like most of us struggle with the fact that we like one name & dh likes another.

Pru - that's kinda where I'm at. I don't dislike the name Lochlann it's a great name, but I just can't seem to get to a point where it fits in my head as HIS name. I wish dh liked Jack I just love it. I even tried to go the "How about naming him Lochlann Jack and calling him Jack" He said no b/c his initials are LJ and it's an ex-boyfriends name of mine. I told him he was an idiot lol

This is so Chris. Chris would be the kind of guy to get upset about something like that. He's not really a jealous person at all but there are a few random things that get to him.

I really liked Jack when I was pg with Brandon. Chris didn't like it though and my family came up with some dirty jokes so there was no way we could use it.

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"nori_garsi" wrote:

We are in "avoidance" here.

Us too. I thought that knowing the gender would make us think about it more but it hasn't. If nothing changes, I could probably guess what name we would pick but neither of us is in love with the name.

It is funny how one gender can be easier to name than the other and that gender isn't the same between couples. I think we could name 5-6 boys with names we both agree on and like but we struggle with the girl names. We did last time too. A few hours after my BFP with DD1, DH said "I like this name". I wasn't in love with it but she ended up with that name because we we agreed the most on that name.

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well we have a first name which is pretty much a miracle considering we couldnt agree on any names.. but as for a middle name we are with you lenora "avoidness" :confused: i will give curtis a list on names he will say "no" to all of them but not come back with alternative suggestions soo for now we are avoiding names lol!!

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We still haven't decided. We've done the same thing- almost decide 100% then one of us changes our minds after a week or so. We just do not have the same taste in boy names. We had a girl name picked out, but no boy names. Same thing when I was pregnant with DD- we couldn't agree on a boy name, then we found out we were having a girl so we gave up. I love Irish names as well (hence DD's name... Caitrin) so I'm desperately trying to convince DH that we should name this baby Ronan, but I don't know if it will happen! I think he's coming around to it ;-). He really wanted Elijah, which I like very much, but Eli rhymes with our last name, so I vetoed it for that reason (didn't want him being made fun of). DH insists he's suggested other names, but that's really been his only contribution (other than vetoing everything I suggest). Why are boy names so hard?!

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"nori_garsi" wrote:

We may just end up duking it out on the 6-hr car ride to my parents' house, lol.

That's when we made the most progress with names here! Late in the first tri, we drove to SIL's house (about 2 hours away), and I threw all the names I could think of at him, and made him give me a "yes", "no", or "maybe" on all of them. Narrowed it down a lot! And he rarely suggests names, so really it is me coming up with something that we can both get on board with.

A month or two ago, I wrote out some first/middle combinations and had him just cross out the ones he didn't like. Again, helped narrow it down.

Currently we're in a holding pattern. We agree on 2 first names for a boy and 2 first names for a girl (though I am leaning toward one on each list), but don't have any clear winners for middle names. I'll wait another month or so, then list them out again and have him cross stuff out and/or rank them by favorite.

I was hoping DD would be helpful, but her suggestions have been things like "Little Lemonade" or "Sabry" (don't know where that came from).

Oh well! I'm happy with the first names we've chosen (any of the four), and middle name isn't as big a deal to me. I think DD's middle name is cute, but we don't use it often. So even if we don't come up with the perfect middle name, we'll be ok. I think. Wink

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We totally struggle with names. We have one DS and two DDs and I am Scottish so chose a Scottish name for DS-he is Callum. I really like Lauchlan too, we would likely go with that one but a friend has a Lauchlan. I really like Seamus, but it doesn't work with our last name and too many of the names I like are too close to Callum (C or K names). Currently the only one on the table is Jack Henry.

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"mom22sofar" wrote:

We totally struggle with names. We have one DS and two DDs and I am Scottish so chose a Scottish name for DS-he is Callum. I really like Lauchlan too, we would likely go with that one but a friend has a Lauchlan. I really like Seamus, but it doesn't work with our last name and too many of the names I like are too close to Callum (C or K names). Currently the only one on the table is Jack Henry.

We sound very similar. We have a Seamus and the name totally fits him - he's named after a favorite uncle of ours. Lochlann fits all of the names we have for the boys, right down to being two syllables just like the others (yes, I'm anal LOL) but I am in love with the name Jack, so much so I might try and bribe him someway so he'll just let me use it lol I figure he still has his Irish name and if he ever wants to use it he can - but he'll always be Jack to his Mama Lol Now to get dh to agree with me!

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Julia, what about Jackson?

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No - only b/c I always think of Michael Jackson when I hear the name Jackson, so it kinda ruins it for me. Not that I have anything against him, but ya know. Silly I know lol

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We are also in avoidance. I'm figuring we will have the same list as last time, but last time Hailey came out of nowhere the day after she was born. Was never on the list, never even considered. I can honestly say we haven't talked about it at all.

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"Chimmy" wrote:

No - only b/c I always think of Michael Jackson when I hear the name Jackson, so it kinda ruins it for me. Not that I have anything against him, but ya know. Silly I know lol

Gotchya! Yeah not a lot you can do about those associations, once they are there.

A close friend of mine dated several Michaels (over the course of several years, of course) who mostly turned out to be jerks, so I would never be able to use that name even if I loved it otherwise. Too much baggage with the name!

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I'm finding it difficult because DH is from a large Irish family. He doesn't want to use any of his brothers/cousins/aunts & uncles/etc. names. That really limits it. I did look some more today. I have liked Liam, but DH doesn't really like it. I found out that it is short or a variation of William, which is my dad's name. Kelly was named after DH's parents so I should be able to use Liam, right? Wink

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Well, how about some variation of John? Jack is often a nickname for John? We are super stuck too, mostly we don't talk too much about it. Our current name in the running Jack Henry now dh says Jack is too common ugh. so not sure where we will end up!

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Ummm..YES! We have 1 name, but still cant come up with a 2nd and DH really isnt intersted in talking about it either which really ticks me off! :confused: