baby check up and a very TMI question

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baby check up and a very TMI question

35 week checkup was this morning. BP 130/70, usually its alot lower but they werent too concerned. i gained 2 lbs. Kendra is doing well, HB where it normally is. first things she asked if i had any complaints. i told her that since yesterday my entire vaginal area was sore, kinda like i had some rough DTDing going out (which i dont). Its not sore to touch, more muscular type sore, and it is uncomfortable to sit as the soreness also goes towards the rear area as well. i figured it was just a normal symptom of pregnancy no big deal. glad i mentioned it. she checked me out, fortunately i had my GBS test too, and she said i have a mild yeast infection. She said since i am wearing panty liners and since its been so hot, that this is to be expected. so she called me in a prescription that i will pick up tonight. in the mean time, i am uncomfortable and getting more uncomfortable the more i sit in my chair.

And now to my very TMI questin, but im am NOT shy in the least so i will ask LOL

i know i am a little swollen in my girly area. everything down there is different and i have had a VERY difficult time climaxing the last month or so. DTD has been uncomfortable for months, but we were always successful at finding new ways to achieve the final result (LOL im trying so hard not to be blunt and filterless) now nothing works anymore, and when it does, it takes FOREVER. its at the point where it is just too much work. the thought of having none of it for the next 5 weeks and then another 6 or so after that is depressing however, it is what it is i guess LOL Anywho, the question is, can the swelling make such a difference that it makes climaxing near impossible?

i hope this isn too TMI for you ladies, but i had to ask and i just couldnt bring myself to ask my doctor this morning :rolleyes:

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Um... I have no idea. AFM I haven't climaxed in a looog time. It is definitely different and i hope that after baby and recovery i'll get back the good feelings.

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"SoniaNoemi138" wrote:

Um... I have no idea. AFM I haven't climaxed in a looog time. It is definitely different and i hope that after baby and recovery i'll get back the good feelings.

i almost cried the other night and told DH that after this my hooha will never be the same. He chuckled and assured me it would and that sex will eventually get back to normal. i dont like the word eventually, i miss the "good feeling", even the ones i do have are kinda, eh.

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I don't climax much during pregnancy. I think it is as much mental as physical with me though...

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I'm with Erin, I have a harder time climaxing during pregnancy. That said, I think I probably enjoyed sex MORE after having kids than before, so I wouldn't worry too much (after you are healed that is, and I did have problems with being dry after my first two but haven't since?)
Glad everything looked good, hope the YI clears quickly

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I have no idea if the swelling makes a difference, but it might. For me, things have been so different down there I have actually had an easier time climaxing than when I'm not pg. It wasn't like that the last time though, so idk. Usually before we dtd Chris will, umm, attend to me orally, and I usually climax twice before we even get to the dtd part, so maybe that will help???

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"nori_garsi" wrote:

I have no idea if the swelling makes a difference, but it might. For me, things have been so different down there I have actually had an easier time climaxing than when I'm not pg. It wasn't like that the last time though, so idk. Usually before we dtd Chris will, umm, attend to me orally, and I usually climax twice before we even get to the dtd part, so maybe that will help???

Lucky girl Smile

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"nori_garsi" wrote:

I have no idea if the swelling makes a difference, but it might. For me, things have been so different down there I have actually had an easier time climaxing than when I'm not pg. It wasn't like that the last time though, so idk. Usually before we dtd Chris will, umm, attend to me orally, and I usually climax twice before we even get to the dtd part, so maybe that will help???

um, yeah, that is exactly what i was trying to be delicate about LOL. poor DH tends to tend to me orally too, which is always successful, until recently. i even have a back up plan that tends to be useful during the rare occasion that i need it, and that isnt even working. grrrrrrr....atleast he is trying, it wasnt too long ago that i was complaining to you all that he wouldnt even touch me LOL

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"ekcanada" wrote:

I think it is as much mental as physical with me though...

I believe this is my case too. I've had a lot of cramping, especially lately, and mentally i feel that climaxing will just make them worse.

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I have no problem Oing, but DH is scared to touch me again..lol
I told him the other night if he doesnt want any thats fine , but can
he please help me out Wink

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I don't enjoy DTD while pregnant. For the first half, I'm nauseous all the time and the second half it is awkward because of my size and everything feels different. It is irritating because I still have the desire but only a few things feel ok and everything else feels uncomfortable to actually hurting.

Afterwards, it took a long time for me to enjoy it again Sad I'm hoping that was related to all the internal stitching I had and my insides don't get ripped to shreds again.

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dtd? what is that ROFL
I miss dtd and all that fun stuff but being pregnant has ruined me :angry1:
Up untill i went on bed rest in the end of may We were dtd up to 10 x's a day!!!! it was great we are both nymphos, kidding ok not really lol Wink i joked with my mw that my birth control pill couldnt keep up with us and thats how i got preggers Biggrin
But i wasnt allowed to dtd or climax for a few weeks and now that Im allowed i was soooo excited but sex was ruined 4 me no more climaxing its like impossible to get me off and we were quite creative in ways to try and spice things up Wink I feel bad for my hunny cause i get frustrated cause im sooo close but not dice .. he is very understanding tho... hoping my climaxing isnt ruined forever ROFL
Sorry if to tmi!!
Laura glad u had a pretty good appt. hope it feels better down there.
I was really no help in the advice area but if it makes u feel any better i feel ur pain :confused:

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its ok, nothing is TMI here! LOL. I have been swollen and sore down there too but for some reason I am the opposite, I can't get enough! and DH isn't willing to give it up as often! it's like ugh!!

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10x a DAY???? holy sh*t girl, i'd be like, get the H*ll off of me ROFL but hey, good for you Biggrin after the last attempt im not sure if DH is going to attempt too much. apparently in the position that helps me out he rubs up on "something" (cervix? not familiar with cervical positioning and sex during pregnancy lol) that was very uncomfortable. when he get in his good position, he DOES hit my cervix and then im uncomfortable. im hoping it was just a bad week for me, but now with my YI its not like i can go home and find out. :banghead: LOL

how long do i have to wait for this to clear up before i can try again?

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"ekcanada" wrote:

I think it is as much mental as physical with me though...

I agree iwth Erin-I physically can't enjoy sex, my belly is too big and it actaully hurts when we do certain positions. I think we are down to 2 actaul position that we can use. And I'm always thinking about them so I can't enjoy anything. They always start waking up and moving when we are in the middle of it so I can't focus on anything other than them.

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All I have to say is pelvic rest...it sucks! Not that I was getting any anyway but there are ways around things. When I was having sex it was uncomfortable. I was so swollen it just hurt. Like some of you stated orally it just took forever & id give up. Before I was pg I wanted it a few times a day now I could care less...I'm SO hoping to get my drive back after the LO is born.