Does anyone else have major issues agreeing on a name with hubby? I swear I'm ready to slug hubby! :angry4:
We've always sat down together and made a list of names and go from there. Heather was always our name for a girl, and when we had her, we had one of those hypothetical convos about "if we ever had more kids and it was a girl, what name would we use" - remember girls are rare in the family, and heather was a huge shock, so that's how that convo came to be. So, before even knowing it, we named our next kid right then and there - Hailey Marie. So when we had our 3D u/s last year, Hailey was already named, we agreed we both still liked it and that's what we were sticking with.
With this baby, we didnt start doing the name thing till we found out... so after we found out, right away I started with the whole, sooo, what are we gonna name this little girl? Right away he picked a name that HE reallly likes, before we sat down together to look at baby name lists online. Sooo, we eventually sat down, went online and made an extremely SMALL list of girls names we both thought were ok. I've asked and asked about what we're going to use, and basically, can we please sit down and sort it out. I haven't had ANY such luck. He just says crap like "I have a name but you don't like it". heather even asks what we're naming the baby and occasionally she'll say "well, daddy loves (insert name here)", because she's heard him say he really likes that name so many times.
Last week I tried again, and he said "soon". So, then I asked the next night, and said so, HOW soon are we going to get a name picked, time is running out! His response was, we'll get it sorted and done this weekend "the one we just finished, it was a long weekend here in Canada" so I thought great, some of the major things will be done this weekend. Well, what did we accomplish? We painted our bedroom and set up her crib. NO NAMES WERE DISCUSSED! :argh:
I asked ONCE on Saturday when we weren't doing anything, and got ignored. I asked once on Sunday and again, got ignored. I refused to ask yesterday because I simply woulda beat the hell out of him if I got ignored again! :violent2: So last night we're in bed, and every night he talks to her, rubs my belly, gives it a kiss and says he loves her, tells her to settle down in there, all sorts of stuff. Well last night he starts talking and says "Mommy's gonna name you Alisha" right away I stopped him and said HUH? That's not the name I said I kinda liked!! So he looks at me and says "well isn't it?" Uh, nope! So then he continues, so I patted my belly and said, that's ok, your daddy wants to name you Harriet, and I most certainly am not considering Alisha. Your daddy either just doesn't pay attention to what I say or simply forgot what I thought of". - Neither of these names are being considered, and I have no issues with the names, just not names I like for our kids.
Well that sparked it. He looked at me and said "I really do like (insert name here)", then carries on saying, but you don't like it, why are you so dead set against that name? I said first of all, I'm NOT dead set against it, just unsure if it's something I can agree on. Next, you said we'd finalize her name this weekend, I asked twice and got ignored, so wtf.
At that point I could feel my anger levels raising and then I felt like I was gonna cry. I held it together, but i was NOT happy about it, and still not. Seriously. I'm having issues, we're not sure what's going on exactly, and yet he's acting like that over a name. I WANT to have a name picked for her before I go into labour, last thing I want or need is to be struggling with a name after she's born, kwim? I'm also going to have my laptop with me in the hospital, so I'll be able to go online and register her, fill out the forms for child tax etc, rather than mailing everything in. I kinda need a name to do that!
Anyone else in that situation? I hate that it's a battle to pick and choose. ANd I've even tried to see if my name and his name would go together, and nope, it just doesn't work. I like flowing names and this just don't work. Our kids are Christopher Mitchell, Cameron Alexander, Heather Anne, & Hailey Marie. These 2 names just don't sound right no matter which way I put them, so we can't even comprimise. SIGH.
I'm about ready to just say hey, you don't wanna sit with me and figure it out, so go ahead, name her whatever you want. I'm exhausted from other things going on and I seriously can't handle this mini war of naming her :shrug:. Before with the other's it was always done a month or so before, this time we knew right away what she was, so really, we should have had something by now, once we really sit down to discuss it never takes too long, and here I am, possibly only have 3-4 weeks left, and still no name. To me that's a huge major thing that MUST be done asap and it may never happen at this point :cry: