So has come the time for me to start thinking about birth control (If i take care of it maybe DH won't get the big V and I might get another baby out of him). Any suggestions as to what form I should go with?. I have cousins that got pregnant on both the Mini pill and IUD so I'm a little scared of them. I am still bfing and want to continue to for a while. I am thinking the mini pill is the best decision.
What kind of BC has everyone else done?
Minipill.... I also had a friend get pregnant with an IUD and the idea of being pregnant with a IUD really bothers me. Until we take permanent measures, we are OK with the risks of the pill.
I've used the mini-pill, the Mirena, and the Paragard. You have to be super precise with the mini-pill or it's ineffective and I really didn't trust it. Mirena has one of the lowest failure rates of all birth control methods (0.2% failure rate) and the Paragard (Copper IUD) is slightly higher but still low (0.8%).
If you use the mini-pill correctly it's 0.3% failure rate but the failure rate with typical use is 8%. That's a huge jump. If you miss that window by an hour it is ineffective. I don't trust myself enough but if you use it the right way it's pretty effective.
Of all three I liked Mirena the best and I had mine in for over 2 years. It is reliable and you don't have to worry about taking the pill. The Paragard is ok but I bleed a lot with it (I barely spotted with Mirena) and it has caused me a bit of worry as well.
I'm on the Depo shot, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who still hopes for another baby. Depo can also affect milk supply and has really NASTY hormonal side effects. I NEVER would recommend Depo for long term cause it's just really bad. But I'm horrible at remembering to take the pill (mini or not) and I can't ever see myself with an IUD or Nuvaring or diaphragm. We are HORRIBLE with condoms... so Depo was pretty much my only choice.
That being said.. we are D-O-N-E and DH's big V is a week from tomorrow.
I hope that you can convince your DH to hold off still. Talk to your doc about your choices and look at the pros and cons of each one.
Here's to the possibility of another baby for you. That was a really rough time in my life emotionally and I hope yours isn't as long or torturous. :comfort:
I'm currently on the mini pill. DH got the big V a few weeks ago, but until the doctor has confirmed that all went according to plan, I'm not going off of it. The pack I just started should be my last- thank goodness. I'm so ready to be done with the pill and not have to worry about it.
I hate condoms, but we're using them until I get AF back, then it will be NFP for us.
Does no sex count as a form of birth control?
On the rare occasion that both of us have the energy, we are using condoms. I vowed never to go back on hormonal BC, and we haven't come to an agreement on when DH will get the big V. He's a chicken. Worried about his man bits. But his dislike for condoms will push the decision I think.
Lol this is our BC right now but DH is starting to whine so I figure I should get actual BC looked after now. I'm just not sure were the energy is going to come from to DTD.
Originally Posted by Roobear
Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm thinking mini-pill for now until we decided we are completely done and DH will get the big V.
I agree with Janelle about the Depo shot!!!! i was on the depo shot for 2 years when i was 19/20 years old. Stopped getting the injections when i got engaged to my first husband. it took me 2 to get a period, another 2 years to regulate and was never the same again. i am 100% convince that it played a part in my lack of pregnancy for 6 years. i also have a friend that JUST found out she was pregnant with the IUD. i didnt realize that is so common!
Other than that, i have no advice, im currently not on BC and we arent using any form of protection. Was on the mini pill and i kept forgetting to take it. DH is well aware of what COULD happen (even though he insists he doesnt want anymore kids LOL)
We're doing NFP. 2 babies in 13.5 months was NOT an easy thing to go through. It hasn't been easy - but I guess easy has never been promised to us. :)