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cherylfhorn's picture
Joined: 08/24/08
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finding out more

I don't mean to complain but I need to get it out. The more i find out the more i get furious. Found out yesterday that it looks like Keanon had been cheating on me for months .I did some research online and the day he was supposed to be at my house taking me out for our anniversary and he cancelled, he was on a dating website. The same one we met on. So he probably met someone on there and took her out that night. I'm trying to get the rest of my stuff. He won't let me over the house so I know he's hiding something. im half tempted to just go there and watch and see. If he does have someone living w him already I can take pics and use it in court. Cause I'm taking him to court for everything I can get now for child support plus. If he thinks he's getting any form of custody he can forget that as well. I'm was trying to make this amicable but to find out he was cheating on me, I'm out for blood now. What an ***! I know most of you have wonderful husbands on here but as far as I'm concerned I want nothing else to do w men. I'd rather be single then trust someone again. I've been screwed over to many times. I'll take my little one and be happy. Maybe I can raise him right so he won't be like his father and treat women with respect.

LauraMae78's picture
Joined: 01/10/11
Posts: 969

Aw, honey im sorry. you and your little guy are MUCh better off without him! I hope you get everything you deserve from him (child support, etc.)!

lamonsgrl's picture
Joined: 09/18/04
Posts: 1023

I'm sorry you are going through this! I know you probably feel like it's never-ending at this point! I would be doing the same thing as you are as far as going to court. We are here for you when you need to vent or cry on someone's shoulder! Never hesitate to "talk" to us!

skylersmomma's picture
Joined: 04/10/11
Posts: 927

I'm sorry hun. But you are right you and baby are better without him. We are here for you, sendin big hugs yur way!!

skylersmomma's picture
Joined: 04/10/11
Posts: 927

I'm sorry hun. But you are right you and baby are better without him. We are here for you, sendin big hugs yur way!!

heatherliz2002's picture
Joined: 02/02/08
Posts: 2273

:bighug: I'm sorry you're dealing with this!

Starflyr's picture
Joined: 10/20/07
Posts: 428

One thing to think about here.

If you take him to court for child support, you are acknoedging him as the father. That means that unless he is proven an unfit parent (hard to do), he WILL be granted visitation if he wants it, and you will have to watch your precious baby go off with him and have no control over the situation at all.

You can either go after him and accept that OR you can cut him out of your child's life by not listing him and moving away (and praying he doesn't find you and demand a paternity test.

I know you're angry, and you have every right to be. But think about it before you make decisions from an angry point of view. If he pays child support etc, the 2 of you will have to learn to coparent amicably and (unless he doesn't want it) will have to deal with visitation. Can you live with that?

Joined: 03/16/15
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I am really sorry you are going through this. I've been through this same thing and it does hurt very badly. Sad I pray that you get through this. I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now. HUGS!

LizzyLaw06's picture
Joined: 05/20/07
Posts: 497

i'm so sorry hun! sorry you found out that way. cheating is one thing i have no tolerance for, so i would be out for blood too. good luck in whatever happens

mom22sofar's picture
Joined: 02/20/09
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So sorry you are going through this, I have no advice to offer, but we are always here to 'listen' and hope you find a resolution soon.

mandi04's picture
Joined: 08/10/03
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:bigarmhug: The more you post about him the more it seems you and Jayden are so much better off without him

Nell4Him's picture
Joined: 10/25/06
Posts: 2455

Sad

It sounds like he's not really wanting much to do with Jayden anyway, so perhaps you can get him to "give up" his parental rights on paper? My friend did this with the one night stand that gave her her son 8 years ago. He was a high school friend that she ended up sleeping with once and while they are still friends and he DOES have contact now and the boy knows he's his dad, initially he signed a paper giving up his parental rights.

Of course, I'm not sure how family law works where you are at.

:bigarmhug:

nori_garsi's picture
Joined: 10/31/06
Posts: 2069

I'm so sorry, but you and your son are better off without him. :bigarmhug:

I do agree though you should think about what you want. If you go for child support he will most likely get visitation if he wants it. If you want him out of your life completely you could ask him to give up his rights but then you would get no support. Either way we'll be here to support you.

ekcanada's picture
Joined: 05/06/09
Posts: 1707

I am sorry you are having such a rough time with the butt head!

My advice to you until you determine what you are going t do in the legal sense is walk on egg shells. No following him or spying on him! Keep as clean as a whistle!

KUP and vent away!