The last time you delivered, did the hospital staff micromanage your delivery or did they let you go through it how you wanted until their intervention was required?
I was pretty much left alone which was fine with me until I got to the delivery stage. I had the initial and final cervical check and 20 minutes of being monitored in the bed and the rest of the time I was walking (very slowly). I don't know how people can stay in bed if they don't have an epidural because contractions while I was laying there being monitored were unbareable because I couldn't move!
Reading other people's experiences makes me wonder what will happen this time as they talk about the hospital staff trying to make their labour fit into what the hospital staff wanted to do.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)
with my first nothing went how i planned ( but in the staffs defense there were alot of complications) but with this baby i have made a birth plan and i have told curtis i want to stick by it.. and that i will need him to help enforce itt. sorry that im not much help but i have a bit of anxeity about how my labour will go.
I LOVE my birthing center. It is a hospital facility (connected to the hospital).
My first experience with them was pit induced and they checked on me frequently, but I did not feel like they were intruding as I was TRULY having a difficult time with it. They were quick to bring me anything I needed and after the baby was born I remember it felt like I was at a bed and breakfast with room service. It was great.
I looked forward to my second birth there because my experience was so positive the first time (despite the horrible labor I endured). This time I was further into the labor process when we augmented with cervadil instead of pitocin. We started it at night instead of in the middle of the afternoon, so the room was nice and dim and quiet and, again, I did not feel like they were being intrusive at all. They checked on me, but left me alone and spoke with my birthing coach or my husband so as not to disturb my labor. Again, they were quick to respond if I summoned them. They took every concern I had seriously... like when my mom and sisters were there holding the baby and socializing I suddenly felt weak and thought I was gonna pass out, my pulse shot up and I just didn't feel good at all. We pushed the button and said we needed someone now. They came running in and made sure I was okay before they left the room again, they offered to kick out my family if I wanted rest and to take the baby to the nursery. I was fine with having them there, so they honored my wishes and allowed them to stay.
I am again looking forward to a positive experience at the birthing center. I feel as though they have just the right amount of customer care... at least for me.
Janelle and Brad 8-25-01
My plan with DD1 was for a typical vaginal delivery but to go along with whatever the doctor recommended if there were any complications. Turns out that she was breech so it was straight to surgery for me and I was ok with that. I just wanted her to be healthy.
For DD2 I was perfectly fine with a c-section for her too and I will be having a section for this one. So, I have never really been in a position of feeling pressured to do anything that I did not want to do. I have always been flexible and purposely not letting myself get too attached to a specific birth plan.
Whendi and Matt 2005
DD1 March 2007
DD2 July 2008
DD3 September 2011
With my last on the papers I was given to fill out they asked if I had a birth plan to give them, and if not, if I had any requests as to how things should go. My only request was that hubby cut the cord, as I know that's something he likes and while I provided life to this little baby for 9 months, cutting the cord is the ultimate start to 'life'. It's also a very special moment I think and all dads want in on it.
I trust the Dr completely, there's been nothing but good about him, he actually saved my sons' workers life after she had one of her kids x amount of years ago when no other Dr was able to figure out just what was going on. With Hailey, even after they broke my water they asked if I wanted to go for a walk, well, dumb me said sure because I couldn't handle laying there anymore and all I did was laugh my a$$ off because I was leaking fluid so much I was leaving a trail all over . Hubby thought I was nuts, but up till they started pitocin I was free to walk around if I wanted etc.
They pretty much just left me alone though, not constantly hounding me about this or that. They checked me occasionally, checked the monitors asked the occasional question, and just overall were great. Plus it was the middle of the night so they wanted both me and hubby to try and rest - ya right that was impossible for me to do!!
Over all though, it was whatever I wanted, but I was fine with whatever the Dr had to do should complications arrive. I'm all for Dr intervention and if something needs to be done differently then by all means do so.
They mostly left me alone and were very respectful of my wishes. Of course, we still ended up in a crash/emergency situation so I had a c-section (under general anesthesia) but that is a pretty rare occurrence. The staff was really great and supportive, and they jumped in fast when we ended up in an emergency.
We're having the same type of conversation over on the Nov 11 BB. I started this thread because after 4 hospital births, I realized there were unneccesary interventions that I could have avoided. I really want a water birth with a midwife this time but it looks like I may have to give birth at the hospital. That's fine, but I am educating myself on how to avoid those interventions so I can have as close to a natural, medically un-managed birth experience. I'm reading Henci Goer's book, "Thinking Women's Guide to a Better Birth". In it it talks about every intervention that could be used, and how to avoid them if possible. Here is a link to that thread:
Feel free to chime in!
Tamara, 38 and BJ, 45
DS- 19 DS- 15 DS- 11 DS - 8 DS - Born 11/20/11!
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I had a lot of interventions last time around. I went in with fluid issues though, so I wasn't surprised. My OB and peri decided it was unsafe to continue the pregnancy so I was induced. Then they broke my water and inserted internal monitors. Then, when my induction was deemed a failure and things started heading into dangerous waters, they offered me the c-section. They didn't really push it but they strongly urged me. Part of it was also that I was completely unprepared and six weeks early and was having complications so at that point I was so scared I just wanted the baby healthy.
This time around I'm at a different hospital and I think it will be a much better experience overall. My doctors seem very willing to help me have the birthing experience I want so I'm confident that as long as there are no major complications, that they will let me kind of lead the way in what I want/don't want.
Lenora & Chris 01.16.10
DS Brandon 05.13.07
DS CJ 10.06.11
*Co-moderator of January-June '07 and September '11*
I'm pretty go with the flow so while there are things I would *like* to happen I'm not set on anything other than what is right at that point in time. I have been pretty lucky though, all my births have gone pretty smooth and quick, not much time to intervene. Last time the nurse who was with me for the last part of my labor was great, I did have pitocin which wouldn't have been my first choice but it wasn't bad.
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
I'm not against interventions. There is definately a time and place for them and that is why I feel most comfortable delivering at a hospital. I guess, I just don't want to show up at the hospital and have them decide that I have to be in bed or have a certain course of pain management just because.
I did never think about walking around after your waters break and leaving a trail That might make me more stationary. When mine broke, I had 2 big gushes and then nothing.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)