House rules, behavior/ chore charts (OT)

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PeppermintPatty's picture
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House rules, behavior/ chore charts (OT)

Those of you mommas with multiple children: Do you have some sort of behavior or chore chart that you use with your children? Or, have a house rules visible or established with them and have specific consequences for when they break them? I have been really have a tough time with my girls lately. My 5 year old is really testing me lately. In addition, both girls have been constantly arguing with other about everything!

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House rules and routines he just had to learn. He can't read yet so we had to teach and reinforce them verbally. It took a lot of time and patience but he's pretty good at them now. We don't have many rules, just the ones that we felt were important. Consequences depend on the action. If it's something he corrects he gets a reminder and then he corrects it. If it's not something he can correct he gets a reminder of the rules and sometimes a time-out or loss of a privilege...just depends on the situation. I will say though that I rarely have to use time-outs anymore. Usually just talking to him now will fix the problem...if you had asked me 6 months or so ago it would have been a different story, lol.

I did buy him a chore/behavior chart recently and it's helped him remember what he needs to do around the house. We just started off with a few things and slowly started adding to it. He really likes it.

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We don't have "house rules" per say written down anywhere... but, I have a four and two year old. It's not like they can read them or anything. Some of our main rules are to be respectful of each other and to treat each other with kindness. If they argue over something and can't work it out we normally remove the object for a bit. We don't really have chores per say either... they put their clothes in their hamper in the morning after getting dressed and after changing into their pjs at night. They make their beds after our morning get dressed, brush teeth, wash face, comb hair routine. We always pick up a room before we leave it to go to another room. I've found that if I keep them on a regular routine/schedule... they know what is coming next and are much more agreeable about things.

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"AirForceWife1" wrote:

We don't have "house rules" per say written down anywhere... but, I have a four and two year old. It's not like they can read them or anything. Some of our main rules are to be respectful of each other and to treat each other with kindness. If they argue over something and can't work it out we normally remove the object for a bit. We don't really have chores per say either... they put their clothes in their hamper in the morning after getting dressed and after changing into their pjs at night. They make their beds after our morning get dressed, brush teeth, wash face, comb hair routine. We always pick up a room before we leave it to go to another room. I've found that if I keep them on a regular routine/schedule... they know what is coming next and are much more agreeable about things.

We are a lot like Wendy. Brandon is a creature of habit. He does well with routines, and when his routines are interrupted, not so much. My little guy also still needs naps at 4. If he's getting grouchy and super whiny I know he needs a nap. I'm lucky he still takes 2-hr. naps.

His chores include:
*Making his bed
*Cleaning his room
*Putting away his toys
*Brushing his teeth

Our house rules are also very similar to Wendy. He has to put his toys away when he's finished with them. After a meal he has to push his chair in and put his dishes in the sink.

I have also given him more responsibilities since I've been pg, helping me around the house (i.e. carrying his laundry basket to the laundry room, helping to put away groceries, etc.). It's really helped with his behavior and he really seems to respond positively to contributing more around the house.

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We do beads, it was an idea given to me by someone on the large family board. I'll have to take a picture of our set up and post it. i got little tupperware (tiny!) containers and put each child's name on one and then they got to pick their color beads (DD1 has pink, DD2 has blue...DS has green for now but obviously he didn't pick it, I just have his ready, he doesn't really do the bead thing yet since he's only 19 months). They get 2 beads each day for their 'daily chores', which is making their bed, keeping their room picked up, putting their clean clothes away if needed and clearing their dishes after meals. If I feel they made a good, age-appropriate attempt they get the beads. I give them extra for helping with other things (helping with dishes, helping with laundry, ect)
and they can get them taken away for bad behavior. I do have to try to remember which 'crimes' are serious enough to take away beads because I could take beads away all day for the little things but I find just reminding them helps better with the little daily bad behavior, letting them know it's not appropriate. DD1 is old enough now where when she does things like get into my makeup (we just went through that one...) or write on her bed (yep, that one too...) I explain to her that those things cost money and that when you ruin someone else's things you need to be held responsible for that, so I have her pay for those kinds of things. Obviously not the amount that the item actually costs but enough where she learns to respect other people's (and her own!) things. Anyways with the beads when they earn 50 they can choose their reward, either $10 or a 'date' with just mom/dad and no siblings. I'm sure I'm forgetting some but I have impatient kids waiting to go outside Lol

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We have set household chores for the two older kids- this is dishes in the evening and sweeping the house twice a day, plus cleaning the main bathroom. Then we have normal house rules, but they are not typically posted- the little ones are taught to help out, be respectful, to listen, etc.

The hard thing is consistency for everyone.

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You ladies are so awesome. I just stopped on for a minute and saw 5 replies! I am going to read them carefully when I get a chance.

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I dont have anything in place, but we are going too! Mandi I would love to see pics or your "set up".

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I have a chore chart that I use during school for DS. It just includes taking a bath, feeding the cat, cleaning his room, etc. There isn't much and I will increase it this year since he's getting more responsible. He's really been helping me alot when I ask him to so I think it's time. He knows the rules of the house and usually we only have to mention that something isn't done to get it done. Nothing to strict though. Just no eating or drinking in his room unless permission is given. Picking up clothes out of the bathroom after a bath. Stuff like that.

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Yep! Here is a pic of my boys' chore charts. Smile

My oldest enjoys setting the table and feeding our dogs. He has problems listening when I tell him to pick up his toys, and SOME times throws a tantrum, so the stickers have helped him listen better.

My youngest has a biting habbit Sad and a hitting habbit Sad and we're starting to potty train so the stickers have helped with that too.

If they get stickers, they can also be taken away. so if they dont behave, we'll say "I am going to take a 'no fit' sticker off if you don't straighten up!" and then they're like OK! and behave. lol. at the end of the week we'll get them a small little toy, or just put the money in their piggy bank savings. Smile

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