Yup. Got off schedule with my mini pill about 3 weeks ago. Been having symptoms for about 2 weeks but been ignoring them cause I thought I was pregnant when both my boys were 4 months and I wasn't, but I'm finding it really hard to ignore Evie's dislike of my milk for the last week and the twingy pain and other things that didn't happen when the boys were 4 months old. 2 days ago I had blood tinged mucous that only has ever happened when I was pregnant. My cycle didn't show after the boys until 8 months. Evie isn't even 3 months. I'm hoping and crossing my fingers and praying that I'm not pregnant again. I've got too much other sh*t in my life right now.
If I'm not, then I'm changing to something more permanent. I'm thinking implanon but I haven't done the research. I don't trust the mini pill anymore.
Janelle and Brad 8-25-01
Janelle, keeping my fingers crossed for you, girl!
As for me, I think we're done. I've been very adamant about stopping after two for several reasons, the first and foremost being how difficult pregnancy is for me. I don't have hyperemesis, but I'm not far off from it. I was so sick that I wasn't able to care for DD for a portion of the pregnancy. Thankfully I have an amazing friend who helped me tremendously, but with no family close by I just don't know how I'd survive another pregnancy, especially with two kids to take care of. I know that other women do it, but I just don't feel comfortable putting myself in that position. I also feel like two is about all I can handle! I feel like I can manage things with two, and do a decent job of giving them my attention and what they need, but I don't know if I'd be good with any more than that!
I also think it would be too much for us financially, although I would never base the decision solely on that. I firmly believe that God would provide for us as he as always done. But I would like to be able to offer our children learning opportunities in areas they're interested in (music/dance/sports/whatever) and it's going to be a stretch with two, probably not possible at all if we had three. Being able to take piano/horseback riding/ballet/etc. when I was a kid was a big part of my childhood that I really enjoyed, and has hugely affected my adult life, so it's important to me to provide opportunities for the kids if possible.
There are more reasons than that going toward the decision of being "done," but you get the idea. That being said, I definitely still have moments of wanting another baby. Especially because Ronan has been such a happy, easy baby. I did not feel this way when Catie was this age! Lol! But I really feel like this is a good decision for us. I think the bottom line is, either way would be good. I love our family the way it is, and I know that any other child added to it would also be a blessing. So it's choosing between two good options. That's hard!
Thanks ladies..I dunno if its just because they are such good babies that I want another but I think once I get back to work I will know better if I can handle one more. There is also the scary thought that I could potentially have twins again which I know I definitely could not handle. I think I'll just make DH hold off on the big V and wait see how I feel.
Sorry, Krista.. totally didn't mean to high jack your thread.
I hope you can figure it out soon. Once you go back to work you might find an increase in your desire for another. I did after my 1st. I decided I missed him too much. I wanted to be taking care of babies instead of working.
But everyone is different.
Janelle and Brad 8-25-01
I'd be pretty sad if we are done. I had my own mini pill issues last month and although I was happy to get a BFN there was part of me that was sad we weren't having a 3rd for sure. If its planned then there will be at least a 3 year gap so we might change our minds by then.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)