Just wish he'd say it.

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Scilla's picture
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Just wish he'd say it.

I wish he'd say it, "Scilla, you're a burden and I don't care about the baby either."

Ive got to cancel my important US Ive been waiting on over a month thats on tues. He suddenly doesnt have the $ for me to go. Its 140mi round trip. But hes got the $ to fix his parents vehicles & put gas in his truck to run all over hell & half of GA with. Im so PO I cant stand it. I need this us to make sure Kyan is ok cause of the problems Ive had and cause of the meds I was on. Guess none of it matters though. I dont even want him in the delivery room w.me. Im askin for general anesthesia again. Hell w.it says me. Ive got to have my tubes tied anyway. Im in a current state of fml. Alllll of it.

**Update**

I was calling today to cancel my apt. Well he came home for lunch and asks me what time I'm supposed to be there.... I told him by 10am but I'm calling and canceling. He said No, I'm going to come home and fix the Jeep so you can go.

I took him for his word on that... He then asks me when he got home if I called and canceled or checked to see if there was some place closer they could send me. I said, No.....
Well his sister had stopped by to give him a hair cut.. He said, I guess I have to go to daddies later. She asked why. He said because I have to take the kids up there, she's gotta go to the dr tomorrow.

I stopped him right there, I said I don't have to go any mf'n place. I'll call and cancel tomorrow for sure.

He starts being down right hateful and mean to the kids telling them to get ready and get their shoes so they can leave and go to his dads. I told him I'm NOT going tomorrow since it's a waste of time and money so leave them alone and let them stay. Well, he makes them get in the truck and he takes them. I called him and told him to bring them back and leave them here. He would barely talk and I asked if he'd heard me he said I HEAR YOU, I'll be back later. I hung up on him. I wish I had somewhere to go.. Cause I'd leave tonight. I've been feeling nauseated, trowing up, shaking, heart racing and everything since he started his bs when he got home. I don't know why he feels the need to tell me he'll come home and do something and then when he gets home he acts PO cause I didn't do the opposite of what he said!! I'm CONFUSED! I can't do anything right... And frankly, I'm not even going to try. I'm not going to go out of my way to please someone when they do this to me. I mean what would you think?? I can't even see how "i'll fix it when I get home so you can go" translates into "did you call and cancel or see if there's somewhere closer?"

HOW DOES THAT WORK?!?! I can't take this girls... I'm having anxiety attacks and I know Kyans feeling it.. He hasn't stopped moving. If I go tomorrow, I'm leaving him a long letter. I can't seem to talk to him and ive got a lot on my mind.

lamonsgrl's picture
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. Can you talk to him about how important this u/s is and try to make him understand?

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:bigarmhug: I'm so sorry, sweety. I wish I could offer you some advice, but I have none. :bigarmhug:

Just know we are all here for you and Kyan, even if he isn't.

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My face is blue from talkin. Ty girls for being here for me. Ive never felt so out of place or made feel like I dont matter. Im honestly contemplating the d word beginning of next year. Over 11 yrs invested.... for what?

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I'm so sorry you have to go thru this right now. It seems a lot of men are losing their minds lately. We're all here for you for support. :bighug:

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So sorry Sad Why are guys such douches???!!! GAHHH!!!!

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"Scilla" wrote:

My face is blue from talkin. Ty girls for being here for me. Ive never felt so out of place or made feel like I dont matter. Im honestly contemplating the d word beginning of next year. Over 11 yrs invested.... for what?

Hey girl.....if you ever need to talk I'm here. Like I've said before I called it quits in Jan 2010 after FOURTEEN YEARS together. I hope things get better for you I really do...I know how stressful it is when it seems like "baby daddy" doesnt give a rats a$$ about the baby you're carrying. I'm there as well. I've already told him he can NOT come to my 3D US AND he is NOT welcomed in the delivery room....

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I hear u and feel ur pain. I'm not letting mine in the delivery room or even.telling him when I go into labor. He tried having his daughter send me a nice message on Facebook the other day. I'm ignoring it all. Were here for youall the way. Heck where do u live if ur close enough ill come be in the delivery room w you

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:bigarmhug: Im sorry I dont have any advice Sad
do u have any family who could lend u the $$$ to get to this u/s??
WE are here for!!!

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I'm sorry! :bigarmhug: Sounds like a stressful situation. Hope you two are able to work things out and come to a place of understanding.

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so sorry! no advice, but i can offer some hugs! we are here for you. I don't know why babies seem to scare men into acting like as$es! hopefully someone can knock some sense into him

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Sadly, I live on Coastal Mississippi!

And he said it right in front of my inlaws today and no one offered. So I just got extreamly P'Oed and I said I'll just cancel the apt, Don't even worry about it. I just don't understand... he was all about our other two boys and this one? Not interested and just flat out passive about it. I love my son and he deserves the best. T'Hell with him being the way he's being. It's not fair to him at all. I mean he's only bought a carseat that I found on craigslist. He won't look at, go buy or even talk anything baby. If it wasn't for people giving me stuff for the baby I'd have nothing..... AS it stands I've got a swing, cradle, play pen & carseat for him. Real nice huh? And I bought him a pack of diapers. I really am starting to despise and loathe this family I married myself into. I don't know why or when it went to crap but it went there fast.

I can't wait till I'm healed from the csection.. cause I'm getting a night time job and someone to watch him at night and I'm going to be GONE. I never thought my life would turn out like this..... Not ever.

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:bigarmhug:
Don't know what to say other than offer my support for you. I'm sorry he is failing you at a time when you really need him Sad

Scilla's picture
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If you knew us about 3-4 years ago you'd NEVER think he'd be like this. I was his whole world... Very loving and caring. He's done a 180*. I don't know him at all anymore. I try and contribute it to our age difference, I'm 29 and he's almost 37. I think a man should love his children... regardless of how they came to be, ya know?

He never calls, texts, or tell me goodbye in the mornings. Use to be phone calls all day, texts and a goodbye kiss and love you every morning. All I get now is slamming of doors in the house. Makes me feel real good..

But, I know who really matters to me right now and loves me unconditionally and that's my baby boy.

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awww. girl I wish I was closer. I know how you feel about the not having anything for baby yet. While I do have some diapers (thanks to my mom having me a baby shower), and a few clothes thanks to a FREE clothes swap at a church, the only "big" things I have is a bassinet and a pack n play. Heck I don't even have a car seat yet....

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Hon, that sucks. Men can be such f-ing idiots sometimes! Have you mentioned the D word to him yet? Maybe if he knows how unhappy you are and how serious you are, he'll buck up?

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:bigarmhug: I'm so sorry that you're going through this!

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updated 1st page......

jac81's picture
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Oh, Scilla, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sad I've seen your fb updates and was wondering what was going on. Well now I know. Hugs to you and no matter what you decide to do, we will be here to listen and offer support.

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I am so sorry you have to deal with this!

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