ok, so the difference between how i feel NOW compared to 7 days ago is dramatic, which i amsure is pretty normal. LO is moving like crazy, especially the last 2 days. i can feel the kicks and jabs and she is making my belly thump and push out in spots, but its the pushing up against my belly that is making me really uncomfortable. at times i gentlely push on her butt (or what i am assuming is her butt) to try to get her to move to a new position. she is one stubborn little girl already! she isnt happy unless mommy is unhappy LOL not to mention that every time i stand up she drops and causes alot discomfort then too. well today i have been getting a little bit of twinges in my lower uterus. not period cramps, more like "lightning" that shoots though. a bit ago i stook up and i got a good one and for a second i though it was labor LOL but then i sat down and the "discomfort" immediately went away and i realized i am just being paranoid. i am assuming that this is just normal preggo stuff cause um, let face it, im HUGE already (new pic is in the pic thread).
So this leads me to ask, what does the start of labor feel like? i know to time the pains and all that, but i dont know when to worry and when not to worry, KWIM? every keeps telling that judging by my size that i will go way early, but if it does, how will i know the difference? but im worried that i will be the dumb one who doesnt know im in labor until im way into it and then wont get to the hospital in time and will give birth on the side of the road, baby delivered by DH with all the pain that is associated with it! ok, realistically, i know that i will know the real thing long before then, but these are the silly things i am starting to worry about. EVERYONE seems to think that i am HUGE beyond my weeks and that there is no way in hell im making it to 40 weeks so i am trying to think ahead where work and home is concerned, just in case i DO only have 5 or 6 weeks left, but i think im freaking myself out!
It's normal to wonder what labor will feel like. It's not always like in the movies when suddenly theres a big gush and the woman goes in to labor instantly. lol. For me, for both of my boys my water didnt break until after I got to the hospital. I went in to labor early in the morning with both of my boys (like 4 and 5am) the early signs are, you'll loose your moucus plug, suddenly there will be a little bit of nasty sticky stuff in your undies LOL and maybe some light bleeding. but as far as what it feels like when you FIRST start labor, its small little contractions, feels like little cramps, you're stomach will become hard during these cramps. usually you start to feel them in your lower belly area. they wont hurt, but they will come every 5-10min. after a couple hours the contractions become more frequent and more intense. You'll KNOW when you're in labor. For me, it's as if that little mommy-instinct comes and you KNOW in your heart, that you are truly in labor. It will be such an exciting time! it's funny, each time i have gone in to labor, since its so early in the morning, i wake dh up and say "i think i am contracting!" lol and he's like "yeahhhh right!!!" lol so I would start timing them, and sure enough it was labor each time. oh and dont go by your "hugeness". I could look like a wilder beast and still not go in to labor...how big you are doesn't at all mean how early/late you'll go in to labor.
Last edited by MelissaLynn13; 06-29-2011 at 02:57 PM.
LOL i didnt REALLY think my size anything to do with it, but when a dozen experience mommies tell you the same thing, you start to wonder whether there is some sort of tell hidden in my belly
i've never been more excited AND more afraid at one time in my life! and i do tend to overthink EVERYTHING!! ALL THE TIME!! i overthink conversations that i never have with ppl when im upset, you can imagine what THIS is going to do to my brain LOL
I have no idea since I wasn't allowed to go into labor on my own and I never really felt my contractions.
My doctor says it feels comparable to menstrual cramps though. I occasionally get sharp twinges in my pelvic area but I don't think they're contractions.
My sister said when her water broke it was like a short, continual trickle...
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Pretty much like Melissa said, you'll start getting crampy contractions that make your whole belly hard. Honestly I haven't found labor to be all that painful until transition but even still I know, I wouldn't say it's comfortable before then, it just doesn't get unbearable for me until that point. You'll get to the point where you don't want to walk or talk through contractions and that's about when you should head to the hospital.
I don't think size has all that much to do with when you go into labor. A lot of people have commented on how 'huge' :eyeroll: I am this time compared to my previous pregnancies. My dh told me last night that I look right now like I did at the end with my other kids (again :eyeroll: ) I am having braxton hicks but honestly if I had to compare it, I am having less signs of impending labor this time than with any of my others.
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DS2- August 2011
Labor feels different for everyone. Here's an article I read about it: http://www.babycenter.com/0_labor-wh...wyMDExMDUxOV9C
What's funny is having been through labor twice myself, I definitely didn't feel the same thing some of those women felt! I know I didn't feel AT ALL what my lamaze coach described, which was a "tightening pain that starts in your back and radiates across your belly" (yes, I still remember the words because I so rolled my eyes at it lol). I thought she was insane when I realized that it was labor I was going through, because to me it felt like.... well it felt like really bad constipation. I remember my sister-in-law told me that for her it was the same, it felt like she really had to poop. I thought she was crazy too, until it happened to me lol!
I would get REALLY uncomfortable in the lower parts and near my butt. I remember with my first, labor started while I was at dinner. I had lost my plug a couple of days before so I didn't have that to go by. I just remember getting up twice during dinner to use the bathroom, being unable to, and being SUPER uncomfortable the entire time we ate. When we got home, I would move from the couch, to the bed, to the bathroom, then back to the couch and repeated it over and over for a good hour before I decided to time how frequent the pains were lol.
With my second, it felt similar, but it wasn't so low, and it didn't feel like I really had to poop like with my first. But seeing as it was my second time, I was much more aware of what was happening.
As for those sharp pains you were feeling, they were likely Round Ligament Pain, pain associated with the stretching of your muscles and usually triggered by moving.
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You'll know true labour once it hits. It usually starts off with mild contractions/mucuousy discharge with tints of blood and just a *heavy feeling* down there. The contractions will start to come regular, every 20 minutes, every 10 minutes, every 5 minutes, etc... and last for a minute or two. Every woman is different but you'll notice there's a real rhythm or pattern. For me, labour is just uncomfortable until you hit transition, most women never feel transition as they either get an epidural or csection. Transition/pushing unmedicated is COMPLETELY different than early labour and the pain is not the same. I have had 1 csection and 3 vaginal births. 2 vaginal births were unmedicated and excruciatingly painful after 8cm's. The contractions hit a whole new level of intensity and pain once the baby starts coming out. But again, every woman is different and you'll hear stories of some women who say it felt like cramps while others say they thought they were going to die. I have never had a period cramp in my life but I get horrid labours/births... maybe I wasn't prepared as well??
First of all, your size really has nothing to do with how long you will go. I have also find that woman who stress/think that they are going early, typically go over due. My advice in that area is quit wondering/worrying about it. Nothing you do or don't do will help/hinder unless your body is truly ready. That is why membrane sweeps don't always work. With DD I had a sweep at 38 weeks which did nothing. I had another one at 40 + 3 and my doctor said he would see me that night (sure enough she was born the next day).
As for what labour feels like, I started to feel tightening (with no pain) the night of my sweep. I actually didn't think anything of it because the tightenings were so subtle and far about (I found out later that my MIL knew I was in labour because apparently my face changed each time one hit).
My true contractions started at 3am the next morning. It was all back labour. I can honestly say, I don't think I know what a front contraction or menstral cramps feel like because I have never had either. I totally "knew" I was in labour - there was no doubt. Mine were rhythmic and intense.
As for mucus plug, I lost my MP with DD at 32 weeks and I lost my MP with this one at 28 weeks (when I was having bleeding). I don't know if mine grow back but with DD, I never saw any other signs of another. So, Mucus plug is not a sign of labour for me.
My water didn't break until well into active labour (I was around a 5 or 6). So water breaking is not necessarily a sign for me either. If you search you tube, I have even seen a woman deliver her baby still in the bag of water!
Right before bed one night, I felt a weird poking sensation every 3 minutes for 30 minutes. DH asked if it was labour and I said I didn't know. I got off the couch and by the time I got to our bedroom, my water broke (think dropping a 4L jug of water). I had no leakage but got another huge gush about an hour later. About 10 minutes after that, I started getting belly tightening. Over 4 hours they went from 10 minute to 4 minutes apart. The pain changed from the slight discomfort (like a strong kick) over 20s to being the worst diarrhea cramp I've ever felt over 1 minute.
At that point, we went to the hospital and got into triage. because I had no leakage, they didn't believe that my water had broken so they did the test. They checked me and said I was 1-2 cm and I should go home. At that point, I couldn't manage doing anything except breathing through my contractions. I refused to leave the hospital mainly because I couldn't imagine sitting in the car for the ride home. By this point, my contractions were 1 minute long with a 1 minute break. 3-4 hours after entering triage, I had my baby.
When I had my m/c, I woke up because of contractions which seemed like they hurt as much as my labour contractions. The only difference there was they were 1 minute long with a 3 minute break.
I can't describe the contractions in the last couple hours. It was the most pain I've ever felt and just when I thought I couldn't take anymore, it would stop. having fast contractions were good for pushing because I had lots of chances.
I have a friend whose contractions were never closer than 7 minutes and it really made the pushing stage drag on.
I never saw any sign of a mucous plug or bloody show. I was huge with DD1 and everyone I knew said I'd be early (10 days late). I'm almost exactly the same size this time and would be very surprised if I went before 39 weeks.
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November 2010 (13 weeks)
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