I am so mad at dh right now and I really need to vent.
Dh got a nice new car in march when he traded in his bench seat truck, he got a Subaru wrx. I have a Nissan versa which we paid off completely in march. we aren't happy with the safety rating on the versa so it was agreed that I would drive his car when I have the kids with me, especially on the highway b/c if I got in an accident at high speed in my car, we don't think both kids and myself would survive.
A couple months ago I accidentally curbed the wheel on dh's car, there is a lot more rim than tire and I'm not used to that. At first he acted like it was ok, he wasn't mad. But the rest of the day he was very snotty with me, until he finally admitted that he was mad. he was pretty upset for a few weeks and didn't even want me driving the car for a long time. I was driving it so infrequently that last week while I was driving it b/c his blood sugar level was off, he said I needed to drive it more b/c my shifts had gotten rough.
Yesterday I was going on the other side of town (almost completely on highway roads) and wanted to drive his car. My car also doesn't have decent a/c and they had called for a heat index of 105. He didn't want me to drive it b/c I was taking the stroller and he was afraid I would scratch the bumper with it. He finally let me take his car when he saw I could get the stroller in and out easily. I was going to a mall and, knowing that dh likes his car at the back of the lot, I parked in the last space. Go figure, his bumpers are also lower than I am used to and I curbed his front bumper, scratching it pretty good. I called and let him know right away and of course he was pissed. I was really upset that I did that to his car again, but I figure, it is just a material possession and it isn't something to get too attached to. Dh, on the other hand, thinks that car is the best thing since sliced butter. When I got home yesterday, he wouldn't even talk to me for a long time and is still upset today over it.
Today he went in to work and forgot his insulin so asked if dd and I could come up for lunch. So we went up to his work. I requested that we take his car to the restaurant b/c mine needs to be cleaned out, it has been infested with sugar ants and they are mostly in the passenger seat and I didn't want to get bitten while sitting there. He hemmed and hawed but said fine. After lunch we got back to his work and he discovered somebody had rubbed against his back bumper. He immediately blamed it on me (WTF?!) and said it was my fault b/c he wanted to take my car. I started crying and was really upset and just wanted to go home so I wouldn't have to be around him. He kept pressing it and I told him I didn't want to get bitten by the ants and he said then I should have cleaned out my car (I just discovered the ants in my car earlier this week). I responded that he could have helped me with it, it isn't like I already have enough to do that I don't have the energy for as it is. not to mention the heat is insane, I can't step outside w/o feeling like I'm going to pass out!
To top it all off he sent me an email saying since we've (when he really means me) damaged a 30,000 dollar car so much already, he wants to trade it in this month on something else (WHAT???). No apology for being so mean with his words, or clinging to anger after I've apologized profusely.
He is just so focused on himself lately I don't know how much more of his attitude I can handle. He is acting more hormonal than I am!
If you made it this far I commend you, I feel like I just wrote a book.