Airing dirty laundry and a personal relief of tension...
I called child protective services on my sister today.
She is 5 years younger than me. Two kids, two different Dads. She moved out of the house at 15, dropped out of school in grade 10 and has been a burden on my family ever since. She finally started to turn her life around in January. She entered a program to become a personal care assistant. She managed o finish the program top of her class. Around the time she graduated, her relationship with her boyfriend fell apart and he moved out.
She hasn't got a job since graduation, she is dating a new guy so she is out all day and night and leaving the kids with sitters or at daycare. My parents support her entirely.
I have been worried about the kids for awhile. When I saw them today, my niece hugged me for a long time and neither of the kids were smiling. When my sister finally showed up she barely greeted them and they barely acknowledged her. The house smelled awful (I didn't even go inside!).
This isn't the first time she has been trouble so there is an open case with social services. My parents and I disagree about how to handle the situation (I think they are enabling her). DH and I are also struggling with whether or not we are prepared to take the kids if social services feel my sister is an unfit parent.
The kicker is also that it takes a lot to have. Child removed from it's parents. There has to be abuse, neglect (ie children are being left alone), significant behaviors, etc. So according to SS mandate, the children are not "at risk".
I am a bit heartbroken and unsure of what to do. I want to do more but my hands are a bit tied and I am also being selfish in that don't want to take in 2 kids. I am also angry at my parents although I know they struggle, maybe more then I do. I also know they are worried sick as well for the kids.
Thanks for letting me vent, no comments are needed just needed to get it off my chest and tell someone that didn't know my parents or my sister...
Wife to Derek 8/12/06
DD Marisa 11/9/07
DD Shayna 8/27/09
DS Joseph 8/27/09
DD Simone 9/12/11
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
I'm so sorry, I deal with the same thing in that my brother and his wife are low lifes and don't deserve their daughter. But I've been told to stay out of it by my parents. So sorry that you are dealing with this in the state you are in.