starting to sink in...

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starting to sink in...

That I will be a mother of 3, instead of 1. I've been off for 1 week now and have been trying to get everything sorted out before the babies comes. I've spent the entire day "nesting" getting the house spotless so I won't have to worry about it when they arrive. And I have come to the realization that it is exactly a week tomorrow that I will be induced and be holding my babies. Physically, I'm ready, it will be nice to have my body back and me able to move freely but emotionally, I'm not ready. I am feeling quilty for my daughter who is now going to have to share the spot light with not only one baby but two. And I'm just scared because I remember the sleepless nights and the struggle bfing. I'm easily frustrated as it is now, I'm scared how I'll be when I'm competely sleep deprived.

How are you ladies feeling? Anyone sharing the same problems?

Joined: 07/12/06
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I've been wondering how my two will do adjusting to the new baby and I know I will feel a little guilty for having to split my time even more when the baby is here... DS is already saying I don't play with him enough right now because I just can't get down on the floor and rough house and stuff with like I used to. Sad

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Joined: 10/31/06
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I think if I were having twins I would be a lot more worried. Adding one baby is a lot different than adding 2. I don't blame you at all for feeling the way you do.

I've been fairly calm about the idea of adding another baby into our lives, so maybe it just hasn't hit me yet, idk. I have had horrible insomnia this entire pg so the idea of sleepless nights doesn't seem so foreign to me right now, lol. Brandon is 4 and starting school and he is really excited about having a brother and I'm sure it will be an adjustment but we've been preparing him for the idea of having a sibling for a long time so I'm hoping the transition won't be too bad. I've been wanting another baby for so long I just feel so ready, but ask me in a few weeks and my answer might be completely different.

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Joined: 05/06/09
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I am wodried about labour and the newborn stage in general.

My DH can not take time off work either so I have o rely in family to help (which I hate)!

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I can relate to what you're feeling although probably not to the same level since I'm not having twins! I do worry about DD feeling left out, although we've tried to to prepare her, and so far she seems excited. I know it's going to rock her world. The newborn stage scares the heck out of me as well, even though I figure that if we survived it once, we can survive it again!

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Joined: 07/03/08
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I've been feeling the same way. Everytime i have to struggle with DS to get him to take a nap or even just get upstairs i breakdown and cry because i can't figure out how i'm going to do it alone. DH is taking a few days off work but he's out of vacations/sick time so he has to go back rather quick to keep the bills paid. Fingers crossed that we all can adjust well!

Joined: 01/25/11
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I am not so worried about having a newborn again but I am nervous about how DD2 is going to react once Julia comes home. In the beginning she was so excited (and still is) but in the last few weeks we have dealing with potty-training regression and her wanting to act like a baby all the time. I am afraid it is only going to get worse.
DD1 was only 16 months old when DD2 came home so she was too little to even realize that anything was really going on. This time DD2 is old enough to understand that Mom's attention is soon going to be going elsewhere for a while and she is not dealing well with it.

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"Cherrykitten" wrote:

I've been feeling the same way. Everytime i have to struggle with DS to get him to take a nap or even just get upstairs i breakdown and cry because i can't figure out how i'm going to do it alone. DH is taking a few days off work but he's out of vacations/sick time so he has to go back rather quick to keep the bills paid. Fingers crossed that we all can adjust well!

omg, you could be my twin.

I don't even know how my husband and I are going to function doing it TOGETHER, let alone alone!

Thankfully, I have a helpful MIL nearby, and her cousin who lives with her is a little flaky, but helpful, my husband will have about a week off, and my parents will be out to visit too, so I have lots of physical help, but that's not always what I need.

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Joined: 09/18/04
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I had similar worries before I had Carter. DH works nights so for about 1/2 the wk, I am raising this kid on my own. I couldn't imagine having that worry about having 2 babies. We are here to listen if you ever need to vent.

Joined: 04/24/11
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Thanks ladies, its nice to know I'm not the only one scared. DH can't take a lot of time off either, hes used up his vacation and only has a few days banked. So, I'm freaking out about that too because with DD1 he took a whole week and was a huge help.

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Joined: 08/03/01
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Your deffinitley not alone - short of my oldest son who is almost 13 (had him 2dys before his edd) this is the most pregnant I've ever been. I always go early but the fear of dealing with a newborn again, the pp hormones & everything that goes with it has me on edge & one reason why I think I've not gone into labot yet this time. It's 5am here and I'm exhausted but can't sleep b/c of nerves. Gotta love it. I think what makes me crazy is I KNOW once baby is here while those newborn days can be a challenge, everything will be okay (not easy, but okay) & I'll wonder why I worried so much. Sometimes you just can't win Lol

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