i am so frustrated today!! my DH has a 15 year old son. obviously, i am the step mom. being a step mom is very difficult, for those who dont know this already LOL the kid calls me mom, however, i work very hard to make sure that i dont cross any boundaries or make his mom feel as if i am trying to be HER. it is hard trying to balance being a step mom and yet not making the child feel less important, KWIM? remember, my DD was my step daughter too, though now she is mine now. well, yesteday DD and i painted this wooden letter to hang in Kendra room and i put a pic up on FB with a caption that said "what the martin Gals do when we're bored". no biggie. well, my step sons gram made a few comments about "doesnt tyler count" blah blah making it sound as if i am excluding him. i wrote back that i he counts, but he wanted no parts of painting the letters. at this point i thought she misunderstood the caption. well in the end, apparently there is more to it and she wrote that she wasnt gonna get into it with me. WTF?? i was left confused and clueless! this is a woman who i talk to maybe twice a year, for a moment at a time. now i think i am being accused of excluding him. First of all, normally i wouldnt care what she thought of me. but these damn hormones make EVERYTHING bother me. so i am left feeling....just BLAH! 2nd, i am so sick and tired of the bullsh*t! if its not one thing, then its another! the last 3 weeks have been horrible! i even had a meltdown the other night about how miserable i am from al the drama and stress! 3rd, if i treated him better, everyone would be pissed at me for trying to be what im not. if i treat him as my step son, i am a b**ch for leaving him out! I CANT WIN!! not to mention that the only person i should be worried about offending is his mom! so now im wondering if there is more to it than i know, what is the REAL reasonf or all of this? 4th...why in the world would someone want to start crap on a stupid pic on FB which had nothing to do with the kid!
I know all this probably sounds silly and petty, but its just one more thing in a line of events lately. Did i mention that i hate these hormones?? LOL well, thanks for listening if you made it this far, i just needed to vent.