We've done this before but...

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mandi04's picture
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We've done this before but...

Who's done? Who's planing more? If you are having more, when do you think you'll be ttc again?
Baby fever has hit already in full force lol we're done though so I'll have to live vicariously through everyone else and secretly hope maybe dh's vasectomy didn't work Wink Not that I've gotten af back anyways. Which leads me to that ? Who has gotten af back and who is still waiting? I got af back (or got pregnant) between 12-17 months with #2 and #3 but they didn't sleep as good as Isaiah does so who knows when it'll come back this time.

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I am still having PP bleeding off and on. Sad I found out it happens sometimes with Bf'ing. With dd1 I stopped bf'ing at 6 months and got af back at 9 months so I'm not expecting af anytime soon. Although dd2 does give me longer night stretches.

DH says he doesn't want any more at this point. I'm leaning toward no more as well. Everytime I think of doing natural labor again I feel sick. Everytime I think of how hard being pregnant was I feel very negative. Everytime Alice screams I wonder why I wanted a second kid in the first place.

But... I know these memories will fade and baby fever will come again. At that point... Who knows?

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We are done. DH finally agreed on a urologist to perform his big V (he won't have a "cut rate doctor" do it). I just have to call and schedule it. Thing is, it requires a consult, then the procedure, then the follow up(s) and the doc is 1 hour out of town, so I have to try to schedule it for a Friday afternoon so he doesn't miss too much work. :roll:

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Dh never followed up with the urologist. He had the consult last April, then the procedure in May but hasn't went back yet and we used the same urologist for DS1's surgery 2 weeks ago! I'm hoping he'll at least send a 'sample' with me when I go to DS' follow-up at the end of the month

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No AF yet. Got it back at 10 months with DD1, but I wouldn't be surprised to see it back earlier with this one.

As for plans for more? Undecided. Probably yes, but not making any final decisions yet. Once this one is more active/mobile, we'll reevaluate.

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Nope, I got my tubes tied...I love babies, but boy these twins are HARD work!

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We want one or two more. One natural of our own at least and then we've talked about trying to adopt a fifth internationally, but that will really depend upon our finances in a few years. We are thinking of starting TTC again sometime between Jan./Feb. of '13 and into the summer. I'd really like Selah and the next one to be just 2 years apart, but I really hated being hugely pregnant during the summer. I'm also getting older and I'll be considered high risk next time around just because of my age. My cycle didn't resume until around 9 months PP with both of my other kids... I have a feeling it will hit sooner this time though because Selah is sleeping such long stretches at night in comparison.

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D.O.N.E.

Even if we could financially afford to have the lifestyle we want with more kids, physically I just can't do it again. The hyperemesis is too much, and with two full pregnancies and a miscarriage at 12 weeks I have basically spent 20 months of my life vomiting at least once a day, and as many as 12 times a day. With that in mind, DH is getting the snip, probably in another 3-6 months.

As far as AF, I got it back last time around 9 months. No sign of it yet, so I am expecting somewhere around the same this time.

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We are definately done! I've had 6 babies and my last pregnancy was horrendous... severe morning sickness and then my pelvis separated at 20 weeks. I am definately not unhappy about not having another baby or birth... actually life is so much more exciting lately knowing I am done and can enjoy my kids and move on with other things in life. I know I won't be getting baby fever, I can live through others for fun Smile I lost my left tube to an ectopic in 2005 and had my right tube clamped during my csection with Markus. I haven't had a period yet but I did every month with Clara even with breastfeeding. Not sure why I'm not bleeding this time? The carefree sex is the best I must admit!

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Still undecided. I think I'll know for sure when the babies are around 2. I don't feel done and DH and I have talked about it and he also said he is unsure (although I think he is leaning towards done). It doesn't help that these are great babies and so sweet and that everyone around is now pregnant. I think if they were terrors I would definately be done. No plans for permanent birth control anyway. As for my period, nothing yet. I got it around 4 months with DD1 so Im expecting her very shortly.

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I would say there is about a 95% chance we are not done. We wouldn't start trying until late 2013 though. I can only handle one toddler at a time Smile

No AF yet but I'm BF and on the mini pill. With DD1 I didn't get anything until I switched off the mini pill 16 m post partum (weaned at 13m).

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We are definitely done. DH has his first appointment (consult) with the urologist at the end of the month. I feel really good about the decision. I LOVE my babies, but when I think about being pregnant again, I start to feel panicky. I get so sick, I barely made it through with one little one in the house, I have no idea how I would do it with two. I feel confident that our little family is exactly how it's supposed to be!

Not sure if I've gotten AF back or not. First time around, AF didn't show up until DD was 10 months. This time, I've had a couple of episodes of random bleeding, but I'm not sure if it was really AF, or if it was my body adjusting to the birth control I'm on. Either way, I can't wait until DH's vasectomy is done and we don't have to worry!

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"heatherliz2002" wrote:

Not sure if I've gotten AF back or not. First time around, AF didn't show up until DD was 10 months. This time, I've had a couple of episodes of random bleeding, but I'm not sure if it was really AF, or if it was my body adjusting to the birth control I'm on. Either way, I can't wait until DH's vasectomy is done and we don't have to worry!

Me too. With both the boys I was 8 months, but around 10 weeks, this time, I started feeling like AF was gonna return (or I was pregnant). I switched from mini-pill to depo at 13 weeks and then around 15 weeks I started a very light flow that lasted 18 days. It was between spotting and light, but I marked it as "non-menstrual spotting" on my online cycles calendar. I think it was the depo. I don't know if I should expect something soon or not (it's been 5 weeks since the bleeding started), but I suspect nothing will happen for another month or so.

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Oh and no af here! I hope she stays away a good long time!!!

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I was so sure we were done this time. But, now...I'm not so sure. After 2 boys (that I dearly love), I really would like to try for a girl. DH says no, but he's said no before. I'm not saying I was to TTC now. I do want to wait a few years. But, I think I really would like another child. I don't have that "complete" feeling. Does that make sense?

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I am done had my tubes tied.

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"lamonsgrl" wrote:

I was so sure we were done this time. But, now...I'm not so sure. After 2 boys (that I dearly love), I really would like to try for a girl. DH says no, but he's said no before. I'm not saying I was to TTC now. I do want to wait a few years. But, I think I really would like another child. I don't have that "complete" feeling. Does that make sense?

I'm the same, that "complete" feeling is not there!

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"krista83" wrote:

I'm the same, that "complete" feeling is not there!

I really think this is the key to being sure. Tonight we were sitting at dinner, Audrey was in her bouncy chair, dog curled up asleep under the table and I just thought "everyone is here that is supposed to be". Before Audrey was born there was this feeling that our family was missing someone. I don't feel that way anymore, and it solidifies our decision to not have more. You have to listen to those feelings I think.

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Definitely not done. My older two are so far from Jacob, I feel like he needs a brother or sister closer to his age. Plus I would like to try at least one more time for that elusive girl lol! DH really really wants a girl too. We're definitely waiting at least a year, to give Jacob a time to be a bit more independent, and so DH will be on shore duty and HOME to help instead of deployed the whole time like he is now.

My AF has been weird. I had my first one around 9 weeks, then another one at 14 weeks, and then I started bleeding today (15 1/2 weeks)! So I don't really know what is going on Sad

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I am pretty sure we will have one more. But I plan to wait until Shay is 3-4. Being pregnant with her was way more difficult than with Mason, and if I have another difficult pregnancy I want her to be more independent and definitely potty trained where she can go on her own.

I haven't gotten baby fever yet, but I'm sure it will hit around 10 months to a year when she starts becoming more of a toddler than a baby.

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"zoe08" wrote:

I am pretty sure we will have one more. But I plan to wait until Shay is 3-4. Being pregnant with her was way more difficult than with Mason, and if I have another difficult pregnancy I want her to be more independent and definitely potty trained where she can go on her own.

That was one nice thing about the spacing we ended up with (4 yrs apart). DD1 was pretty independent on a lot of things, and (usually) able to understand if I couldn't do/help with something.

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We are undecided. Chris is fairly certain he's done and I'm not sure. A lot will depend on how things go the next few years and whether his work schedule calms down any. If we do have another it won't be for a few years. Like Emily, our kids are about four years apart and it's made things so much easier as Brandon is very independent and in school so I get a bit of a break.

As for AF, I'm pretty sure she's back (think it came a few weeks ago) but I'm not sure as it could be bleeding from the iud. If it is AF I wouldn't be surprised, my cycles are like clockwork.

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"indianajones" wrote:

That was one nice thing about the spacing we ended up with (4 yrs apart). DD1 was pretty independent on a lot of things, and (usually) able to understand if I couldn't do/help with something.

I agree. 4 yrs is great. I get a break from DD1 when she is in school. I swear sometimes though, she is harder to deal with then the babies.

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"krista83" wrote:

I agree. 4 yrs is great. I get a break from DD1 when she is in school. I swear sometimes though, she is harder to deal with then the babies.

Same here! :biglaugh: The mood swings are heinous around here!