BFP. Budget - Abortion.

[Pregnant. Again.]

Here is my dilemma.

I'm the mother of six beautiful children, four from a previous marriage (I'm a widow) and one with my current fiancee. We were not planning to get pregnant (shop was closed, on birth control) but just the other day found out we are expecting. Financially we can't afford this baby. I say budget, he says abortion. I've tried talking about it but an argument is all I get. How can I make my fiancee see this pregnancy as a blessing not a curse?

[AliciaD]

How long have you known you were expecting? Give it some time to sink in. If he still doesn't agree, ask about adoption or simply tell him you are keeping the baby and you will make it work financially. Best of luck to you

[gypsy86]

when you already have a bunch, one more wont break the bank. apply for assistance if you can, apply for all the assistance you can! if you are not prepared for another baby in your life, then adoption is a great option too, if you find a family they often pay expenses for you.

your BF cannot make this choice for you, or force you to do it his way.

[Allie01979]

I'm sorry you're in such a tough situation, but your Fiancee really has no choice. I couldn't imagine after having a child having to abort. I'm pro-choice, but I just couldn't do it myself.

I hope you can come to an understanding. such a tough situation

[Leahgoogle]

If anyone can't afford another baby, it is us. This pregnancy was totally unplanned and DH was so upset that he didn't talk to me for a week. He didn't blame me, he was just really upset. While we are on talking terms now, the subject of the pregnancy does not come up. Give BF time. I wouldn't mention it for awhile, see if that helps. If you know you are not capable of an abortion, tell him that and let it sink in.

[jersey_gray]

With six kids already one more certainly won't break the bank.

[Allie01979]

Originally Posted by jersey_gray

With six kids already one more certainly won't break the bank.

I agree, hand me downs and breast feeding, the baby is free for the first year at least

[ModernMother]

Have you considered adoption? I know it would seem strange but I actually know a lot of people who have used the adoption option in this situation.

I for one would NOT ever consider abortion, but I am pro-life so that's how I feel about it. But honestly if it were my Fiancee and he was saying abortion I wouldn't be marrying him anymore.

[Shadowlark]

Originally Posted by ModernMother

Have you considered adoption? I know it would seem strange but I actually know a lot of people who have used the adoption option in this situation.

I for one would NOT ever consider abortion, but I am pro-life so that's how I feel about it. But honestly if it were my Fiancee and he was saying abortion I wouldn't be marrying him anymore.

EXACTLY! I broke up with a guy who I THOUGHT I knew because of that very situation! And I wasn't even pg, we just had an oops and started talking. Guess it should have been the other way around, huh?

Seriously, your baby beat the odds already just by managing to get conceived! I would NEVER abort a baby that lucky - this kid has a DESTINY!

[hugger07]

Lurker...

I stumbled across your post and feel so sad that youa re stuck in this situation. I am pro life so I am going to say please don't abort the baby. My husband and I have been trying to conceive our second child for 3 years now with unexplained infertility. I would gladly adopt this baby! There are so many people out there that want a child. If the child is going to be a burden to your relationship and your family, please look into adoption. It is the greatest gift you can give this child.