Yep, It's April - we need a new thread!
What is going on this month? Anyone TTC or JLIH this month?
Still JLIH. It hasn't happened in the opportune time still. Maybe this will be my month. If not, then I'm hoping in May because we have a hotel date during O time.
Sara-Did you talk to DH about #2? Let us know how that goes. I'm curious how other women go about this as well. All I say is "I want a baby." Not too creative.
AFM-Today in north Texas there were tornados everywhere. Like 12 of them I heard. Our office duck and covered in the conference room. But it didn't do damage by us. But in Arlington, where my Dad lives, it got hit really bad. My friend's niece's daycare got its roof torn off and a tree flipped over. The kiddos are all ok. My dad is ok too and so is his house. Lots of power outages. It was a scary day though.
Eliann- Glad ya'll are OK. My BFF is in the Dallas area and was evacuated twice, one even touched down near her oldest sons school. I was so worried. The news reports say there are minimal injuries so hopefully the storms are done with!
Nope no chat yet. My DH is moody so the timing has to be really really right. Kinda like he is having some cocktails being all lovey kinda mood. He knows I want another one. I flat told him that on our 5 year anniversary last october. So he knows.
Eliann- Hope you can catch an eggy during your overnight out!
Oh and didnt you have a tea sprinkle- how did it go?
Otherwise, nothing new here. going out to dinner with the girls tomorrow night. I rarely get out so I am stoked! One of my friends going is 13 weeks so I am excited to see her.
Eliann- glad you are ok.
Sara- good for you telling dh you want another.
I am sure no one remembers me. Lol. I poted her awhile ago. Dh goes back and forth aboit wanting anotjer and when. We are on wanting another again. He wants to wait though until it is time for the mirena to come out. That is September 2014. I will be topped out then. Hopefully we can get a bigger house. Anyways his only issue with it right now is that he is afraid something my go wrong and he doesnt want that. My daugter had a focus on her heart and two cyst on her brain. Both markers for Downs. Things resolved though and everthing was fine. I dont think.he wants to go through that.cagain. I am excited he is taljing about it though. It is a start. I have been looking into a water birth at abirthing center. Althought there were issues with my son too so I dont know how relistic my wants are.
Elizabeth - I hope JLIH works for you in April or May!
Sara - get DH liquored up and jump him, then tell him you want another! LOL Have a fun girl's night out tomorrow!
Isisgoddess (sorry don't know your name!) - i've seen you around, not sure on what board though! If you really are interested in a water birth at a birthing center, stop by the Birthing Naturally board - the ladies there can give you a good idea if your wants are realistic or not. They are a very knowledgeable group!
So some news for me! We were waiting to TTC until October because DH was supposed to find out if his company would get renewed on their government contract. He told me today that they extended the contract for another year!!! So that means TTC could move up to sooner! Guess what I did today - joined the gym near my house! LOL need to lose some weight before TTC! If I can lose the weight and convince DH, I'm thinking TTC in August.
uh, yeah duh! Isisgoddess - from the June 2009 board! ha ha! I started off on the July board but DS was born early, so straddled both boards for awhile until they merged recently.
Mel- yep that is me. LOL. Oh and my name is Kathleen. I keep meaning to put it in my siggy but forget to. That is awsome you get to move the ttc date up.
I had another talk about when we would ttc. We agreed to try January '14. That means I have 21 months to go. OOOOO the anticipation. His only request is that we redo the kitchen before we have another child. I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand I would love to have a new kitchen, but the kids rooms are way to small to put two kids in one room so we would have to look for a new home. On the other had, if we redo the kitchen it would help us to sell the house which we will need since we have lost alot of money on this house so far. I think Dh would love to stay here in this house. I really loves it, but like I said it is far to small for a family of 5.
Mel- awesome job with the gym membership! I hate to work out but I am trying to like it. And YAY for August that is not far away at all! I am jealous!
Kathleen- 21 months is a ways to go. We remodeled our kitchen when I was 12 weeks PG with DS. It was a mess for 6 weeks. It really does test your relationship during remodeling.
I had a great night out myself. Still waiting for the cocktail hour for DH to talk. I too worry about the constant worry of another pregnancy. my sister has a chromosone abnormality that isnt bad- but something we have to worry about. So going through another PG with those thoughts for 9 month is so emotionally taxing.
DH just got an awesome surprise bonus, so TTC date is pretty much getting set in stone. We're going to start trying June!
I'm really excited. Baby fever is killing me over here.
On a related note, WTH happened to my current baby?!? She woke up one morning a TODDLER! At least she's still a super cute and super sweet toddler. But when she shakes her head no when Mommy asks for a kiss or squirms away when I try to give her a hug a little part of Mommy cries. *sigh*
When is does the stage come where she wants to cuddle with Mommy all the time?
Other than that, not much going on. I've started doing "Slumber Parties" with my Mom, which has been lots of fun. It's nice to get out of the house and feel productive.
Sara-Did you talk to DH about #2? Let us know how that goes. I'm curious how other women go about this as well. All I say is "I want a baby." Not too creative.
I know this isn't directed at me, but I thought I'd answer anyway!
No joke, I started talking about #2 and a possible #3 before Sophia was even born. I said, "So, I want our children to be X years apart, what do you think of that?" Answer... "Yeah, I agree. So we should start trying for our next when Sophia turns one."
When Sophia was nearing a year, we did a brief discussion about how NEITHER of us were ready. HAHA! I said something like, "Yeah, you know how were going to start trying again when Sophia turned one...? I'm thinking maybe we can move that back by another 6 months-year. What do you think?"
Then we've just kind of been going back and forth on the dates. We've pretty much been on the same page as far a TTC goes, give or take a few months.
We talk about #3 as a "we'll see how number 2 goes, what sex #2 is, ect" type thing.
We're planners, can you tell? I get the impression you guys are planners, too.
Hope that helps!
somehow I completely missed this thread!
Eliann - I'm glad you're okay! Good luck with JLIH. As for asking for more, after the first (forget how I told DH that time) he has basically just known I want more. For the last two kids (and #4) TTC planning has mostly depended on when would be best given his job and what spacing we want. Honestly, though... I have a spreadsheet of what ages I and our kids would be if we got pregnant during X month. I think it goes through when I'm 34 (I'm 28) and covers 6 kids (DH has agreed to a 4th but is very hesitant to go past that). Oh, and it has tentative dates for TTC... DH knows nothing about it.
Isis - I'm glad you got a TTC date. I'm sorry it's so far away!
Mel - exciting! I loved having a spring baby.
Sara - good luck talking with DH. Have you considered going out on a date and bringing it up over dinner?
Cindyanns - June is so soon! I'm sorry DD has been pushing you away. It's tough when they do that. But, I think the come around again for a little bit. My 2 1/2 year old and 4 year old are both back into snuggles. But LO is already pushing me away because he wants to go explore.
AFM: I'm pretty sure we won't move TTC up (I'm thinking October), so unless I get unexpected news when I test in the next day or two then no big plans for the month.
Kathleen - good luck on the kitchen, that's such a big job!
Sara - yeah, don't much like the gym either, but it's a necessary evil so I can have another baby and be healthier during the pregnancy!
Cindy - Yahoo! That's so close! Yeah, I have two toddlers at the moment! Ummm, can you hear my house now "No! Screech No! Mine!" LOL
So far I have had a June and a December baby. I think a Spring baby would be nice! Plus I want to enjoy most of the summer at the beach and such before getting pregnant and it gives us longer to get in a better place financially too.
The Tea party Sprinkle was fun! It was slightly odd because I didn't know that the tea room was inside a giant Christmas store. We took lots of photos in front of the north pole! Haha.
Cindyanns-Yes we are planners, but in a much different way than it sounds like you are. There's a commericial out right now that explains my situation for the past year. I say I want a baby, and DH says "but we have to take our arch exams, buy a house, go to amsterdam, hike macchu picchu, buy a new car, get better jobs." Haha. But we are finally JLIH, thank goodness. Since we decided to JLIH, I haven't talked about JLIH. I guess that's the whole point of JLIH? I don't want to jinx anything, KWIM? Yay for June!
Mel-Yay for TTC in August. A spring baby would be perfect!! Ever since I contacted that psychic last summer, I've been convinced I would conceive in August 2012 and it will be a boy. Can't wait to find out if that's true. I almost want it to be true, so there may be some serious BD'ing going on in August if I'm not pregnant before then. And Yay for joining the gym. Lesli would be proud. Haha. I have not been to that zumba class in awhile. I have been going to yoga once a week and this class I'm taking is way more advanced than I'm used to. It kicks my butt.
Virginia-LOL, I love that you have a spreadsheet. That's hilarious. I don't have anything like that for TTC, but I love names and when I get bored or I'm waiting for a 2GB photoshop file to open at work I make pages and pages of name combos. I've been naming things since I was child. I named all the household pets, my stuffed animals, even my plants and my cars have had names.
Kathleen-Hello and welcome back! Sorry you have to wait so long to TTC. But the kitchen remodeling sounds fun. Kitchens are my favorite part of any house!
Sara-Glad you had a fun night out!
Hope everyone has a great Easter weekend and you aren't working tomorrow!!
Eliann - I hope you don't have to wait until August for a BFP.
Mel - I have December, August, then late April. Spring was nice.
AFM: I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant. I was expecting at least a little disappointment at seeing a BFN, but last night was crazy. DS1 wet rhough a pull-up (again) and woke up soaked. He threw a fit and managed to wake both his brothers (they share a room). DS2 got up to use the potty (he's night-time trained) and DS3 nursed. We got the younger two back to sleep, but DS1 spent an hour screaming and crying about stupid things (like that his new pants weren't the correct ones to go with his pajama shirt and he liked his old, wet pull-up better, etc). And since DH slept in and went into work late he probably won't get home until close to midnight. Again.
So, that's my crazy life in a nutshell. At least we have a playdate this morning.
Elizabeth - I hope you don't have to wait until August but it would be a ton of fun to be on a BB together! Yep, Lesli would be proud - do you see her around on preg.org anymore? Yoga is NOT my thing - I'll do pilates, but Yoga is either too advanced, or bores me to tears!
Virginia - saw that drop in your chart. It's probably best for now, right! Your oldest must be annoyed that the almost 3 year old is already night trained and he's not. that has to be hard. Sounds like DH's schedule doesn't always work for you all! How often do you have the kids from wake up to bedtime without DH?
Yeah, I like the drop. I don't really want the exhaustion and m/s during the summer when the kids want to be running around outside all the time! I did get super jealous when I saw a pregnant woman earlier today, though. Whenever my heart yells out "I want another baby!" my head has to step in and add "but not just yet".
This week I've had them from wake-up to bedtime almost every day. Sometimes DH comes home just in time to read to them then works from home for a few hours. Most weeks he's able to come home for dinner or at least bedtime. Honestly, given his career I'm lucky he rarely has to work on the weekends. And I'm always thankful he doesn't travel.
You know, oddly the oldest doesn't seem to care that the younger one is in underwear before him. It helped when we switched him to pull-ups at night so now he can get ready for bed all by himself.
I totally dread potty training! It scares me! hahaha!
Eliann- In a Christmas store? It is Xmas stuff year round? That sounds interesting!
It was almost the right setting to talk to DH last night but not quite. We have friends coming over tomorrow and bringing their 3 kiddos. SO I am sure the topic will be brought up then.
Potty training is not fun, but IMHO if you wait until the child is ready it's not so bad. Ethan has day trained in about 2 weeks with very few accidents. He had two accidents yesterday but we were at the playground that doesn't have a bathroom, so not really his fault IYKWIM. We won't be night training for awhile since he wakes up wet all the time, and I don't want to bother at this point.
Sara- I bet the topic does come up.
Potty training has been my least favorite part of the whole thing. Lol. My daughter just doesnt want to do it. I keep waiting , but we are not getting any closer.
potty training is tough, but it's so worth it after.
Note to Self: having friends over with 3 kiddos that are not exactly on good behaviors, maybe not a good time to mention having another one..... This includes their 20 month old yanking a costco sized bottle of Jack Daniels off our Hutch and it smashing to bits on the tile. My house has a new air freshner of JD..... :eek:
Oh no. Sara. Sorry it didnt go so well. And that stinks about the JD.
Today my oldest turns 4. I am so proud but the baby fever is raging today. I dont want the kids to be spaced so far apart, but I guess it is better financially. I am going to enjoy this day though. Happy Easter everyone.
Happy Birthday to your LO today! Happy Easter as well to everyone!
Happy Birthday to Joshua!
Sara - yeah, probably not a good time to mention TTC!
Happy Birthday, Joshua!
I hope everyone had a Happy Easter.
Sara - sorry the visiting kids were so badly behaved! I hesitate to take mine visiting. They're generally pretty well behaved, but... new spaces always get them excited and inquisitive.
oh yeah, AF showed. I'm pretty relieved. I want a few more months of occasional sleep.
Yeah for sleep. Lol
That's good news on AF!
So last night was rough. Olivia was having a really hard time sleeping because she has a cold. We had put her down in her crib and she was crying, then that awful sound - the poor girl got so upset she puked all over. UGH! Talk about a miserable night! I hope she sleeps much better tonight!
Poor Olivia! My youngest (Oliver, coincidentally) still vomits sometimes when he's really congested and gunky. I think the mucous can upset the tummy. I hope she does better tonight!
I say boo for AF but sleep is good so take it in while you still can!
Mel- DS gets to the upset puking stage, makes CIO not possible. Hope she starts feeling better soon. I hate seeing them not feeling well.
well last night wasn't much better, but at least no puking! We ended up co-sleeping 90% of the night. which means Olivia slept quite a bit and I sort of slept! oh well!
We did co sleeping last night- DH is out of town till friday and I just didnt have the energy - I dont think it worked well for either of us. Boo!
Yay for no puking - thats a good sign !
Sara-Sorry about the badly behaved kids. Every time we walk into target DH gets an overwhelmed look on his face like "are you sure you want to deal with that?" And sorry the co-sleeping didn't work. All of my friends co-sleep and love it. I think its great, but I can see it not being for me. Probably in the same room, but not bed sharing. I'm a wild sleeper and so is DH. Our dog tries to sleep with us and usually jumps down because we make her uncomfortable. Haha.
Mel-Sorry your little one is sick. Something is going around, I got a stomach bug on Sunday. And my co-workers baby was horribly sick all last week. No fun. Hope she feels better soon.
Virginia-sorry about the BFN...I know you said you wanted AF, but there's always the 60 seconds after I get a negative that I'm bummed. Maybe its just me.
Kathleen-Happy birthday to Joshua! How did you celebrate?
AFM-April will not be my month. I was so excited because O was on or around the weekend and I was planning on having our first timed BD session. Well not the case...we did "other things." We never do other things. Something's up, I swear he found my calendar and saw I was ovulating. Maybe I'm just overthinking and he really wanted to do other things, but I feel like it was more because he was purposely postponing the BD. But then later I asked him if he was scared to have a kid and he said "not really, it just means we have to give up sleep for a year and our social life, but it will be fun." That was kind of a yes and no answer. Frustrated.
Eliann- the 60 second deal, I am totally that way. Bummed and then realize its ok. Bummer about being out for April. Maybe he is a little nervous about it. DH was always said "dont come home and say we have to DTD this second.. blah blah blah" ya know during O time. I for one kept DH in the dark about my O time and testing. Sounds to me he is just nervous. But you can remind him that he has 9 months to get used to things changing. its not like it changes instantly the moment you conceive. And you would think the way guys act, that they were the ones that were PG for 9 months. Men are silly! Hang in there!
Eliann - yeah, I find myself squinting for a line even when I know it's better that it's a BFN. Also, when you get pregnant look into the Arms Reach co-sleeper. I have one and love it. DH is a wild sleeper so he doesn't like babies in bed with us. Although, when BFing it's sometimes unavoidable. I nurse in bed and sometimes we both fall asleep. Sorry DH was weird around O time. Hopefully next month will be better.
AFM: unbelievably, DS1 has been waking up dry. He was dry 3 of 7 days last week and in the past 3 days he's done almost dry, dry, and dry. Oh my goodness. I though we'd be looking at years before he night trained. If this works I'm totally telling everyone to use cloth pull-ups at night. Now I need to make some more. Having one which doesn't leak isn't going to cut it.
Elizabeth - I totally do not share when I'm Oing with DH and it's better that way or he'd think of a reason to not BD! Good luck for May!
We kept Olivia in our room until she was a year. We did co-sleeping mostly because of BFing. We'd fall asleep that way. I'm not a huge fan mostly because she is a wild sleeper. Both DH and I are pretty good, but DD, man, she's crazy! DS is crazy too actually, fallen out of bed more than once and he has one of those bed rails too! crazy!
Virginia - great news on DS1! Taht would be awesome! I part-time Cloth Diaper DD and am not sure what i'll use to PT when we get there. DS PTed by using underwear. Anytime we tried pullups he knew he could go and was too lazy to use the potty! We wised up fast and just put him in UW and it was easy!
I coslept with my oldest until he was three. Then he went to his own room. He still comes to my room towards the morning time and crawls into bed with us. My youngest never wanted to cosleep.
Eliann- We had a big party with 30 people. It was great. A bounce house and everything. Weird about Dh not wanting to BD.
AFM- I was obsessing about having a new baby for a while. LOL. Now I have other things to focus on so. Hopefully that will make the next almost 2 years go by quick. My son't doctor wants to rule out autism so we have several doctors appointments coming up. I even created a blog about it, so I have that to focus on to.
Wow! This thread has been busy, so much to catch up on!
I feel like I'm counting down the weeks, hours, minutes and days until TTC. Not much longer now... Elizabeth, we had picked the same TTC date until you guys decided to JLIH, right? I think that it's down to a month and a half or something.. only one more full cycle for me, I'm just at the beginning of one, then one more. FH has brought it up a couple of times too, which makes me feel good about still being on the same page. He's mentioned June as "the month" on several occasions. Maybe he's just excited at the idea of BDing every other day.
My MOH is going in two weeks to find out the sex of her baby, she finally convinced her husband that it was a good idea to find out. She's had a coupe of dreams that she was having another girl, and woke up super excited. She admits that she'll be a little disappointed if she finds out that they're having a boy.
Any of you with children already.. were you slightly disappointed finding out the sex of your baby (either at a US, or at birth)? I, personally, would prefer a girl first simply because FH and I really disagree with family naming traditions when it comes to boys, but wouldn't be upset either way.
We weren't disappointed either time, but we were surprised with DD. Both DH and I thought we'd be having a second boy and on the US she was a girl, so surprise, but not disappointment!
I was not disappointed with DS. I wanted a boy and felt it was a boy. We were very lucky and found at at 13 weeks he was a he. I am not a girly girl so me and pink dont go well-LOL! I really hope next one is a boy. I have soooo much boy clothes stores its crazy!
Honestly, yes. I adore all three of my boys, but I was a bit disappointed. My family makes girls. I just kind of assumed #1 was going to be a girl. I found out at 19w (I wanted to wait, DH wanted to know) and when they said it was a boy I said "what?! are you sure?" Yep. Boy. I was pretty bummed for a while because I had imagined doing all kinds of things with my daughter and there I was getting a son. Obviously, it was great. But I figured it was kind of a mistake and for sure #2 would be a girl. Nope. Again, I was a little disappointed. When #3 rolled around we kind of TTC a girl. I kept having dreams I was having a girl and DS1 insisted the baby was a girl (and he had told me I was pregnant before my 10dpo BFP!) I had a private u/s done at 15w because I had to know. It was clearly a boy. Honestly, at that point I felt relief. I knew what I was having, I knew I'd love a boy, and I knew what to do with him. With #4, I'm finally excited for either. 4 boys would be great. a girl would be an adventure.
and, honestly, I'm definitely not a girly girl. I've only even worn make-up under protest, never wore dresses as a kid, had more Tonka trucks than Barbie dolls (which just gathered dust), and so on. But... I'd still love a little girl.
Isis - good luck with DS. I hope everything works out.
Mel - we screwed up PTing with DS1 and didn't do underwear full-time. Otherwise he would have been trained at 2y3m instead of 3y1m. Ugh. We only do pull-ups at night, instead of diapers, and until recently he was wetting through night-time pulls-ups most nights. He doesn't nap so he's exhausted by bedtime and sleeps soundly. I think the cloth pull-ups help, but it's probably going to be a long road still. He woke wet this morning and we had long-term bed-wetters on both sides of the family.
I think I am going to wait until at least 2.5 before PTing DS. He is a heavy night wetter but he just isnt ready.
Whats everyone up to this weekend?
It was crazy thunder and rain today, hoping to be done with rain and into nice so cal weather! Not much going on with me. DH just came home from a week training. I am going to work a little tomorrow and thats about it! But seriously, please tell me I am not the only one where TOC is taking over! seriously its driving me nuts!
Jessica, yeah we had picked out June as our TTC date. We shall see what happens. Some people are really gender picky...but I think a boy or a girl would be equally fun. Girl names are more fun. I can see myself having a boy though. And I like baby boy clothes better because there is just too much pink in baby girl clothes.
Isis, good luck with your appointments. Hope they can shed some light on what's going on with your son.
Sara, I'm a crazy about TOC too. You're not the only one.
AFM-It's supposed to rain all weekend, which is great because I have to study. I'm going to take a study break and go to yoga today. That's about it. Lots of babies are being born in April. Two of my cousins already had their babies. Both girls...Kadence and Isabella. And a 3rd cousin is also due at the end of April and also naming her daughter Isabella. They are using different nicknames though...Izzy and Bella. An old friend from high school had her baby yesterday and another friend is due next week. I don't know anyone due in May. But I do have friends due in June, July, August, September and October. It's the year of the babies.
Thats a lot of babies. Sofia was supposed to be an Isabella ,but my friend named her daughter that so I took it off the table. I have already started thinking of names so TOC is stiil driving me nuts too. Lol
Sofia- but spelled sophia was our girl name if DS was a girl.
Names are fun - anyone have a list going now even though we are just TOC?
Interesting! I always love hearing how other people feel about the gender of their future children. Like I said, my best friend has dreaming that she has a second girl on a regular basis, so now she's pretty sure that she might cry sad tears if they find out that they're having a boy. She knows that she'll get over it, and be super happy in the end no matter what, but she's banking on team pink!
We always have a running list of names, but the only name that we're 100% certain that we'll use somewhere is Berlin if we end up with a girl someday. I like it as a middle name, FH loves it as a first name. We like it because my mom's name is Beryl (sounds like Pearl but with a B), and his mom's name is Linda. We can knock out two "family" names in one shot, and most people won't get the reference. Since we like Berlin so much, we're wondering if we should go with a theme of sort and pick city names? I like Cairo for a boy... Meh, we'll see when the time comes. FH is dead set on Anthony for a boy, as it's his late father's name, but I reeeeaaaaalllly don't like the name Tony which it will for sure be shortened to. No offence to any Anthonys out there, it's just not my taste.
So far Dh and I like Sydney and Samantha for a girl and Nicholas for a boy. I am not set on anything yet, that is what I have so far that we agree on.
So when everyone starts TTC what method will you be using? Will you be Charting or JLIH? With my son he was not planned. With my daughter I tried a method to TTC a girl. I cant remember the name of it, but it worked or I got lucky. LOL. I was charting with her of course.
I love hearing other people's name choices because I can never decide until the baby is born! We got to the hopsital with a list of like 5 names and then decide once we see the baby! Our top name when we had Ethan was Jasper, but it didn't fit. Our top name with Olivia was Nora but that didn't fit either! LOL I can pretty much guarantee whatever the top pick is, that it's not going to end up being hte name! oops!
I'll be charting when we get to that point. Charted with both E & O. I don't use OPK though, just temping and try to CM chart, though I'm terrible at that. Good thing my temps are pretty easy to tell when I O!
I have a huge list of names, but DH doesn't like most of them. The names we agree on for a boy are Luke and Max. For a girl we agree on Mira, Leah, and Aletta. Lately I've really been liking the names Greta and Gemma. My maiden name starts with a G and since I've changed my last name I think it be fun to add that letter back in somewhere. He's coming around to both of those. I'm also into polish names, since I'm polish, but DH isn't liking the polish selections.
Ohh I love name threads as well!
We are both italian and have a very italian last name. So we want to keep with the italian theme. I would love to do Nicholi as my great grandfather was Nichola. But too femine for me for a boy. I toss that one around for a girl. DH mentioned he likes the name Oliver but that if shortened to Oli with our last name ending in an "i" its too much. For a girl I think we nixed Sophia it just didnt feel right. My SIL and myself horribly enough have the same.exact.name. So we thought Elizabeth Ida(after my grandma) but Elizabeth isnt very italian. I have a feeling when we do get PG its going to be a long ways before we pick a name.
A far as TTC we have no plans as to when, DH needs to be on board.I have very sporatic cycles- off BC they are anywhere from 30-60 days. I tried temping but it was a hassel. I used OPKs and it worked the first month, and we only had tried offically 1 month before hand. Oh and we used preseed.
We have a girls name chosen, Abigail Jacqui. If DS had been a girl he was going to be Abigail Jean, but hubby said he wated the middle name changed recently to his grandmothers name, so we changed it. No boys names picked though, Ronin Francis Noel was our only boy pick last time and we obviously used it. I like the name Conlan, but hubby doesn't and we need to find a decent middle name from our family, I was thinking John or Robert because then it covers people from both sides
When we start TTC I will likely use OPK's because DS doesn't sleep long enough for me to temp accuratly. I used both last time and waspregnant the first month, that time I mostly used OPK's because I hadn't temped before and wanted to be able to confirm my charting for the first couple of months