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    Smile Back here for the second time! :)

    Hi ladies!

    I'm back here again for the second time. Had my first DS October 2010! YAY!

    Now I think I want another, problem is DH doesnt. I'm trying to think of ways to convince him.

    I know his main issues are finances, my weight (he doesnt care that I'm overweight, I do and want to lose weight since I put on so much during pg, he hates seeing me unhappy) and just wants "one to spoil".

    My arguments are that 1. we already have everything for a second baby and I could go back to work at 6 months instead of a year next time if need be for money (I get full pay for 6 months mat leave). 2. I want to lose weight before getting pg again so it's not like it would be right away, and I refuse to get pg before getting to a goal weight. Plus I know now what NOT to do during pg to avoid gaining 60 lbs!!! YIKES!! 3. Spoiling can be nice, but it can also make the child a brat, plus I have sisters and it was fun growing up with others around. Yes we wont be able to buy them as much when they are older, but I think having a sibling is the best toy there is!

    Sorry for the novel, I'm practicing my arguments! LOL!!!
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    I'm a strong believer in siblings. I know my kids are better for it. Plus I read and article that said the best time to have a second child (for the first child) is between 18 months and 28 months (or something like that) They said it was easiest for the child to adapt. I know it was easy for my son when my daughter came along. He was 18 months and pretty much the second he saw her he just accepted her. Also you could use the argument that having another child soonish would get it all out of the way right away. You are already in "baby mode" and they would be "grown up" around the same time so you could have time for traveling and whatnot. Rather than waiting 5 years in between. Good luck with your talk. I bet once you plant the seed in his brain he'll start wanting another too.

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    I too believe having siblings is something that is a MUST! Obviously, people are different but I have a fear that my DD will end up an only child and that scares the cr*p out of me.

    As long as DH hasn't said no, full stop then I wouldn't worry yourself.

    The scary thing for me, is once I have no childcare to pay when DD goes to school that DBF will like having that extra cash and will decide another is a no go.

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    Hi Kitty! I remember you from the last time you were on this board. Welcome back! Congrats on your little boy. Our second daughter is about to turn one. I can't believe it.

    Good luck with your arguments (they look very well developed!). Sometimes it just takes time. I hope you'll hang around here more. A lot of our regulars have moved on, so we're a little slow lately.
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    Thanks for the support ladies! I'm thinking of having a talk with him tonight, to at least get him to agree that it's a possibility, but with no promises yet. I at least want to plant the seed in his head and get him thinking about it.

    I know it's hard to think about it right now since Simon is such a handful, but even if I got pg right now, it would still be another 9 months before we'd have 2 to look after. And I am not aiming at getting pg right now, I'm thinking the earliest I want to start trying is in December.

    Wish me luck!
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    Hi! Good arguments there!!
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