DH's and preg.org
I feel like I've asked this, sorry if this is a repeater question. I always feel like I have asked questions, that maybe I haven't. I guess I always think about starting threads and then run out of time. I also can't remember all the things I mention in the chat thread. But....
Do your DH's/SO's/DF's know that you post your baby thoughts and talk about your sex lives on this forum? Haha. I haven't really told DH, because I don't want him to think I'm a baby crazed lady...even though I am. Plus I'm not sure he would be keen on the idea of me posting anything regarding our sex lives online. But he knows that I read about babies a lot. And when he comes over to my computer, I don't close the window or anything. Anyways, I was just curious. I am thinking about telling my DH, just because I don't like keeping secrets from him, even if its something as innocent as preg.org. But I hope he doesn't read my comments and get upset that I complain to the www about wanting a baby so bad. Am I being silly?
Hi there, I don't think you are being silly at all. I also wouldn't worry telling about your DH everything you do on here either, it's not exactly keeping secrets. You don't tell him about every conversation you have or email you send and this isn't really that different. Plus the ladies on here are somewhat anonymous, he's not likely to run into anyone who's heard about your sex life right?
My DH knows I'm on and has occasionally read some or part of my posts (over my shoulder lol), a bit different for me cause we have been TTC for over a year now (just lurking on this board lol).
He obviously knows you want kids someday and if he does give you a hard time about being on here then I'd let him know that you have found an outlet for your baby fever and get to chat with other women who are THINKING of conceiving at some point in the FUTURE. As long as he knows that it's not a bunch of women trying to trick their husbands into getting them pg or anything I'm sure he'd be fine anyway . LOL
Good luck! Hope this helps :)
If it's bothering you then I'd talk to him about it. I like the PP's suggestion about explaining it's a THINKING OF CONCIEVING board - it will make him feel less pressured I think! Plus, it's less about your sex life, and more about family planning right?
My DH knows I'm on preg.org and it doesn't seem to bother him. In fact sometimes if we have a baby/toddler question he asks me if I asked the ladies on the "Boards" as he calls it! :)
I like the PP's ideas, because it sounds like your dh is a LOT like mine, and this is a great outlet for our baby fever....and our dh's just don't want to talk about it! My dh knows that I look at this website, but he doesn't know that you post on it telling other people about your life.....in fact he would probably be pissed about it (he doesn't like FB like AT ALL) he just doesn't like personal stuff being talked about with people, and he wouldn't understand that we are all pretty anonymous on here. On the other hand, this board has been a lifesaver for me (in more ways than one) and I am really good friends with about 20 ladies from my Jan 2009 board....although we have never met, I feel like we have been friends forever! So my dh can suck it! What he doesn't know won't hurt him....if he were to ask I would tell him, but I'm not going to go out of my way to tell him because he would be pissed LOL
My DH was kinda relieved when I joined preg.org because I had been very obsessed with having a baby. I had no-one to talk to and he could not handle talking to me about it when he wasn't ready to entertain the idea. However when I originally joined I accidentally used my real name as my screen-name and my DH got really upset about that. So I rejoined under a new name and he's happy again :)
I agree with everyone else that you don't necessarily need to tell your DH about everything you post. But if he asks I wouldn't lie to him.
Some DH's (mine included) don't always want to know. :rolleyes:
Lesli your DH does sound like mine. My DH doesn't like FB either. I think if we were pregnant then he might be ok with me being on here, to ask questions. But since we aren't, I'm here to complain about it. Haha. But it hasn't come up yet. I guess next time he asks what I'm looking at on the internet, I will casually mentioned that I joined. I joined a wedding forum when we were planning our wedding and I found it so helpful. I met a girl on there that got married at the same venue as me but the weekend before me. So we were able to plan together.
My DH totally knows. I've made several real life friends from the board. I often talk about the ladies on here or whatever. He knows a lot of them just from me talking about it. He doesn't have any issues with it either. I have been on here since 2008 though, so he is just used to it. I agree though about how it's not really like keeping a secret. Maybe sometime you could just casually mention "this lady from a board you post on" and tell a story about her or something? Or mention some info you have learned on here and spin it as doing research?
My DH knows too... He doesn't care - he sometimes like the advice I get, other times he finds it annoying that I spend so long chatting to "strangers" online... He knows though and he doesn't mind one bit. I don't have a great support network in real life, so the internet and these forums provide me with that, and I've made some life long friends here! And I'm not just saying that, I've known a lot of the ladies I speak to often here on pg.org longer and better than I've known most of my IRL friends!